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To everyone who joined these forums at some point, and got discouraged by the negativity and left after a while (or even got literally scared off): I'm sorry.

I wasn't good enough at encouraging people to be kinder, and removing people who refuse to be kind. Encouraging people is hard, and removing people creates conflict, and I hate conflict... so that's why I wasn't better at it.

I was a very, very sensitive teen. The atmosphere of this forum as it is now, if it had existed in 1996, would probably have upset me far more than it would have helped.

I can handle quite a lot of negativity and even abuse now, but that isn't the point. I want to help people. I want to help the people who need it the most, and I want to help people like the 1996 version of me.

I'm still figuring out the best way to do that, but as it is now, these forums are doing more harm than good, and I can't keep running them.

Thank you to the few people who have tried to understand my point of view so far. I really, really appreciate you guys. You are beautiful people.

Everyone else: If after everything I've said so far, you still don't understand my motivations, I think it's unlikely that you will. We're just too different. Maybe someday in the future it might make sense, but until then, there's no point in arguing about it. I don't have the time or the energy for arguing anymore. I will focus my time and energy on people who support me, and those who need help.

-SoulRiser

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  Thread: Crisis Hotlines
Post: RE: Crisis Hotlines

(04-20-2017 12:28 PM)Hansgrohe Wrote:  I think just having a place where people can vent is good enough. The site needs promotion though, and with such a heavy userbase, we'd need proper moderat...
MusicAndFruits1092 Psychology - Life, Love & Learning 9 4,865 04-20-2017, 07:29 PM
  Thread: Crisis Hotlines
Post: RE: Crisis Hotlines

(04-20-2017 01:34 AM)Math_n_Logic Wrote:  Interesting, that's actually a good idea. The issue it would seem on how we are going to execute that for the new SS. For example, do we make it profess...
MusicAndFruits1092 Psychology - Life, Love & Learning 9 4,865 04-20-2017, 06:12 AM
  Thread: Crisis Hotlines
Post: RE: Crisis Hotlines

(04-19-2017 04:13 AM)Hansgrohe Wrote:  Yeah. We need more though. It should be one of the first priorities of new School Survival: providing real support. I think it would be great if we made s...
MusicAndFruits1092 Psychology - Life, Love & Learning 9 4,865 04-19-2017, 07:54 PM
  Thread: Crisis Hotlines
Post: RE: Crisis Hotlines

(04-18-2017 09:05 AM)Hansgrohe Wrote:  It would be useful to gather a kind of database for crisis hotlines specifically for teenagers. I think that'd be great actually. I've mentioned this alre...
MusicAndFruits1092 Psychology - Life, Love & Learning 9 4,865 04-18-2017, 07:30 PM
  Thread: In a Crisis? Text "HOME" to 741-741
Post: RE: If you're in a crisis, text "DS" to 741-741

(04-15-2017 02:01 PM)brainiac3397 Wrote:  The only crisis I'd experience is that tinge of hesitant conscience when I'm about to press the button that destroys the planet. I'm just evil... On a ...
MusicAndFruits1092 Psychology - Life, Love & Learning 14 8,352 04-18-2017, 08:44 AM
  Thread: In a Crisis? Text "HOME" to 741-741
Post: RE: If you're in a crisis, text "DS" to 741-741

(04-15-2017 05:43 AM)Gwedin Wrote:  do people actually call hotlines calling some stranger who probably only gives half a damn about you and confessing your most personal of feelings is so quee...
MusicAndFruits1092 Psychology - Life, Love & Learning 14 8,352 04-18-2017, 08:38 AM
  Thread: In a Crisis? Text "HOME" to 741-741
Post: RE: If you're in a crisis, text "DS" to 741-741

(04-15-2017 03:09 AM)Hansgrohe Wrote:  I mostly was suicidal during high school. Thank god those days are gone. Yeah - high school is tough (being a high schooler) and being a teenager as well ...
MusicAndFruits1092 Psychology - Life, Love & Learning 14 8,352 04-15-2017, 03:11 AM
  Thread: Recommendations to get motivated?
Post: RE: Recommendations to get motivated?

(04-15-2017 02:14 AM)Korravatar Wrote:  Sophia Gubb has some good stuff for motivation. Here are some of her blog posts: How Non Coercive And Coercive Self Motivation Feel Different http://www....
MusicAndFruits1092 School Talk 4 2,345 04-15-2017, 02:48 AM
  Thread: In a Crisis? Text "HOME" to 741-741
Post: RE: If you're in a crisis, text "DS" to 741-741

(04-15-2017 12:00 AM)SoulRiser Wrote:  Interesting concept. Quote:Through their training program, the Counsellors are taught what to say, and what not to say, which is why they may seem sort of...
MusicAndFruits1092 Psychology - Life, Love & Learning 14 8,352 04-15-2017, 02:47 AM
  Thread: Recommendations to get motivated?
Post: Recommendations to get motivated?

Hey everyone. For those of you who've read my posts previously, you probably know that I'm at a high school that offers IT courses (and I've been struggling a little bit.) Anyways, I decided to follo...
MusicAndFruits1092 School Talk 4 2,345 04-15-2017, 01:14 AM
  Thread: In a Crisis? Text "HOME" to 741-741
Post: RE: If you're in a crisis, text "DS" to 741-741

(04-14-2017 03:06 PM)Hansgrohe Wrote:  Removed one of the posts. But yeah, this would be useful for a lot of high school teens. I've been there where I considered suicide. Hey, Thanks for rem...
MusicAndFruits1092 Psychology - Life, Love & Learning 14 8,352 04-14-2017, 11:41 PM
  Thread: In a Crisis? Text "HOME" to 741-741
Post: In a Crisis? Text "HOME" to 741-741

[img]http://i.imgur.com/8skxPdN.gif[/img] Hey everyone, I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this or not, but I feel like it may be helpful to someone on here who may need it, right now, ...
MusicAndFruits1092 Psychology - Life, Love & Learning 14 8,352 04-14-2017, 02:28 PM
  Thread: Is anyone doing IB? (IBDP/IBCP Students)
Post: RE: Is anyone doing IB? (IBDP/IBCP Students)

(03-30-2017 11:43 AM)Hansgrohe Wrote:  Do you mind explaining more what IBDP is? Hey there, Thanks for replying to my post - and I apologize for the delay in response time, as I'm now just che...
MusicAndFruits1092 School Talk 4 2,480 04-06-2017, 10:46 AM
  Thread: Is anyone doing IB? (IBDP/IBCP Students)
Post: Is anyone doing IB? (IBDP/IBCP Students)

Hello everyone. I know I posted a lot here on the SSFs website, and I'm sorry if I do it too often. I find that this forum has been the most helpful, and beneficial compared to other support forums. ...
MusicAndFruits1092 School Talk 4 2,480 03-30-2017, 10:46 AM
  Thread: I think one of my teachers really dislikes me and I don't know why.
Post: I think one of my teachers really dislikes me and ...

Thank you for your advice. I'll ask my counselor next time I see her then. Partially though when he yelled at me for not "listening" it was probably because he didn't address it to the whole classroom...
MusicAndFruits1092 School Talk 8 3,833 05-23-2016, 07:43 PM
  Thread: I think one of my teachers really dislikes me and I don't know why.
Post: RE: I think one of my teachers really dislikes me ...

(05-22-2016 05:06 AM)TheCancer Wrote:  There's strategies a teacher can use to avoid making individual students feel that way. One simple one is not to call an individual single student out in f...
MusicAndFruits1092 School Talk 8 3,833 05-22-2016, 10:56 AM
  Thread: I think one of my teachers really dislikes me and I don't know why.
Post: RE: I think one of my teachers really dislikes me ...

(05-20-2016 09:04 AM)TheCancer Wrote:  There's 95% chance he doesn't care much about you either way. He just wants to get through his day go home and not be at work. You pretty much have to bark...
MusicAndFruits1092 School Talk 8 3,833 05-22-2016, 03:14 AM
  Thread: I want to write my teachers thank you letters
Post: RE: I want to write my teachers thank you letters

(05-21-2016 07:59 PM)SoulRiser Wrote:  Haha, that makes sense. That way you don't have to worry so much about their reactions. :P Yeah. Thank you guys again though for your tips. :)
MusicAndFruits1092 School Talk 12 6,205 05-22-2016, 03:05 AM
  Thread: I think one of my teachers really dislikes me and I don't know why.
Post: I think one of my teachers really dislikes me and ...

I'm Sorry too if it seems like if this post was a repost. I know I made another post about this teacher. I guess I also wanted to share how I felt today because he was kind of making me feel sad today...
MusicAndFruits1092 School Talk 8 3,833 05-20-2016, 07:18 AM
  Thread: I think one of my teachers really dislikes me and I don't know why.
Post: I think one of my teachers really dislikes me and ...

I think I've made some posts or mentioned some things about this teacher before but I don't think I made a whole lot of posts relating to him. What happened today in my technology class was I was taki...
MusicAndFruits1092 School Talk 8 3,833 05-20-2016, 06:51 AM
  Thread: I want to write my teachers thank you letters
Post: RE: I want to write my teachers thank you letters

(05-13-2016 12:02 AM)SoulRiser Wrote:  The letter should be enough, and it sounds good just the way it is. :) I'm sorry for replying really late, but thank you for proofreading it. I think righ...
MusicAndFruits1092 School Talk 12 6,205 05-20-2016, 06:34 AM
  Thread: I want to write my teachers thank you letters
Post: RE: I want to write my teachers thank you letters

(05-10-2016 12:02 PM)SoulRiser Wrote:  It should be fine to just give them the letters as-is and only explain more if they ask. Well, before I give it to the teacher I mentioned about and if yo...
MusicAndFruits1092 School Talk 12 6,205 05-11-2016, 09:27 AM
  Thread: I want to write my teachers thank you letters
Post: RE: I want to write my teachers thank you letters

(05-09-2016 10:08 AM)TheCancer Wrote:  Some teachers like those kinds of things some won't even read your letter. I guess, well if I do give it to them I hope they'll appreciate it. Thanks for ...
MusicAndFruits1092 School Talk 12 6,205 05-10-2016, 10:01 AM
  Thread: I want to write my teachers thank you letters
Post: RE: I want to write my teachers thank you letters

(05-09-2016 06:33 AM)SoulRiser Wrote:  If you want to do it, then do it. If they interpret it in a negative way, that isn't your fault. You could even make sure to make it really clear that you ...
MusicAndFruits1092 School Talk 12 6,205 05-09-2016, 06:51 AM
  Thread: I'm scared I'm not going to pass my Algebra EOC
Post: RE: I'm scared I'm not going to pass my Algebra EO...

(05-09-2016 06:31 AM)SoulRiser Wrote:  I hope so too... Yeah, thank you.
MusicAndFruits1092 School Talk 4 6,544 05-09-2016, 06:32 AM
  Thread: I want to write my teachers thank you letters
Post: I want to write my teachers thank you letters

Hi, Last Tuesday was Teacher Appreciation Day in America but I missed it and I want to give my teachers personal written letters because of the times they've helped me out but I'm scared to give it t...
MusicAndFruits1092 School Talk 12 6,205 05-08-2016, 11:09 PM
  Thread: I'm scared I'm not going to pass my Algebra EOC
Post: RE: I'm scared I'm not going to pass my Algebra EO...

(05-04-2016 11:03 AM)SoulRiser Wrote:  For some reason I only saw this now... I guess my reply is a bit too late. How'd it go? And if you really want to learn it and the teacher's not teaching y...
MusicAndFruits1092 School Talk 4 6,544 05-08-2016, 11:02 PM
  Thread: I'm scared I'm not going to pass my Algebra EOC
Post: I'm scared I'm not going to pass my Algebra EOC

I know I made a post about this before, but I felt like on the other post I didn't really get an answer that helped me and this is the only reason why I'm posting this. I mean please understand whoeve...
MusicAndFruits1092 School Talk 4 6,544 05-02-2016, 02:37 AM
  Thread: I had a friend,
Post: RE: I had a friend,

(04-30-2016 06:34 AM)TheCancer Wrote:  Quote:I guess that could've been the case. But I mean I was friends with her boyfriend, but I just didn't talk to him the last several years just because I...
MusicAndFruits1092 Psychology - Life, Love & Learning 6 2,575 05-02-2016, 02:00 AM
  Thread: I had a friend,
Post: RE: I had a friend,

(04-29-2016 09:38 AM)TheCancer Wrote:  It sounds like her boyfriend didn't want her talking to some other dude and she agreed to it although slightly reluctantly. Sometimes that's how it goes. R...
MusicAndFruits1092 Psychology - Life, Love & Learning 6 2,575 04-30-2016, 06:12 AM
  Thread: I had a friend,
Post: I had a friend,

To start off, I'm sorry if this is long and I'm sorry if this post is kind of stupid. Last year I had this amazing friend. We both liked the same type of music genres, the same songs. She was artist...
MusicAndFruits1092 Psychology - Life, Love & Learning 6 2,575 04-29-2016, 08:03 AM
  Thread: How will school make me successful?
Post: RE: How will school make me successful?

(04-24-2016 04:55 AM)TheCancer Wrote:  It depends on what you want to do. You can't practice law or medicine without a degree. Some things have different paths some things don't. Schooling or ev...
MusicAndFruits1092 School Talk 12 6,809 04-24-2016, 02:22 PM
  Thread: This post was reposted, you can skip this post.
Post: RE: This post was reposted, you can skip this post...

(04-24-2016 02:33 AM)TheCancer Wrote:  You're good. I'm sorry I mentioned it. The forums are for you. I'm just like a weird house guest who hangs around too much. Thank you for understanding it...
MusicAndFruits1092 Psychology - Life, Love & Learning 13 3,316 04-24-2016, 02:17 PM
  Thread: How will school make me successful?
Post: How will school make me successful?

I like school, but there's just a lot of work. I want to be successful in life and financially. But I don't see how school really ties in with helping me financially. I've always thought that we'll ne...
MusicAndFruits1092 School Talk 12 6,809 04-24-2016, 01:10 AM
  Thread: Why am I always so depressed or nervous at school?
Post: RE: Why am I always so depressed or nervous at sch...

(04-23-2016 02:53 PM)Joker Wrote:  Pretty normal. High school was depressing/anxiety-inducing for me up until I reached my senior year. I'm very depressed right now. Gonna make a few changes in...
MusicAndFruits1092 Psychology - Life, Love & Learning 7 4,512 04-24-2016, 12:56 AM
  Thread: This post was reposted, you can skip this post.
Post: RE: This post was reposted, you can skip this post...

(04-23-2016 09:19 PM)TheCancer Wrote:  If I'm wrong my bad. No no please, you're okay. I'm sorry it was my fault. Please understand I mean I don't really no where to go for help really, and I d...
MusicAndFruits1092 Psychology - Life, Love & Learning 13 3,316 04-24-2016, 12:52 AM
  Thread: This post was reposted, you can skip this post.
Post: RE: This kid is really rude towards me.

(04-23-2016 01:24 PM)TheCancer Wrote:  I'm starting to get a trolling vibe from you. I'm sorry, I really am. I know I posted about this before, and I guess that's why you probably think I'm tro...
MusicAndFruits1092 Psychology - Life, Love & Learning 13 3,316 04-23-2016, 01:40 PM
  Thread: This post was reposted, you can skip this post.
Post: This post was reposted, you can skip this post.

Sorry, I reposted a post here.
MusicAndFruits1092 Psychology - Life, Love & Learning 13 3,316 04-23-2016, 12:57 PM
  Thread: Why am I always so depressed or nervous at school?
Post: RE: Why am I always so depressed or nervous at sch...

(04-23-2016 03:57 AM)SoulRiser Wrote:  School is a depressing and anxiety-inducing environment, so it's not surprising that you'd be depressed and nervous there. It's also really common for peop...
MusicAndFruits1092 Psychology - Life, Love & Learning 7 4,512 04-23-2016, 12:19 PM
  Thread: Does my tech teacher hate me? Why does my Algebra teacher sometimes make negative com
Post: RE: Does my tech teacher hate me? Why does my Alge...

(04-23-2016 03:43 AM)SoulRiser Wrote:  Your tech teacher sounds like a bit of a jerk... maybe more than a bit. Maybe a byte. :P As for your algebra teacher, it sounds like he gets depressed and...
MusicAndFruits1092 School Talk 3 3,178 04-23-2016, 12:14 PM
  Thread: I'm too scared to talk and ask questions at school?
Post: RE: I'm too scared to talk and ask questions at sc...

(04-22-2016 07:34 AM)Joker Wrote:  I see what you're saying. Changing someone's first impression of you can be hard. Get help from your teachers during lunch or after school. It's their job to h...
MusicAndFruits1092 Psychology - Life, Love & Learning 6 2,874 04-22-2016, 09:22 AM
  Thread: Does my tech teacher hate me? Why does my Algebra teacher sometimes make negative com
Post: Does my tech teacher hate me? Why does my Algebra ...

I have some questions if you guys don't mind answering them. I know this is long, but please if someone won't mind, these things have been bugging me lately. Does my tech teacher hate me? I have a te...
MusicAndFruits1092 School Talk 3 3,178 04-22-2016, 07:58 AM
  Thread: I'm too scared to talk and ask questions at school?
Post: RE: I'm too scared to talk and ask questions at sc...

(04-22-2016 07:04 AM)Joker Wrote:   (04-22-2016 06:45 AM)musicandfruits1092 Wrote:   (04-12-2016 01:19 AM)SoulRiser Wrote:  When did this fear start, and why? Whenever I'm afraid of so...
MusicAndFruits1092 Psychology - Life, Love & Learning 6 2,874 04-22-2016, 07:10 AM
  Thread: Why am I always so depressed or nervous at school?
Post: Why am I always so depressed or nervous at school?

Does anyone know why I'm depressed, or nervous at school? I kind of feel like I act depressed on purpose. I don't think I really am. Like I started getting extremely depressed after I started using so...
MusicAndFruits1092 Psychology - Life, Love & Learning 7 4,512 04-22-2016, 06:54 AM
  Thread: I'm too scared to talk and ask questions at school?
Post: RE: I'm too scared to talk and ask questions at sc...

(04-12-2016 01:19 AM)SoulRiser Wrote:  When did this fear start, and why? Whenever I'm afraid of something, it helps me to figure out what the root cause of the fear is. Then I can figure out ho...
MusicAndFruits1092 Psychology - Life, Love & Learning 6 2,874 04-22-2016, 06:45 AM
  Thread: Why am I so nice at school but rude at home?
Post: RE: Why am I so nice at school but rude at home?

But that doesn't make me "fake" though right? I try to be myself, but yeah you guys put it in words where as I couldn't, but that's how I feel like. Thank you guys for the quick responses too. (04-...
MusicAndFruits1092 Psychology - Life, Love & Learning 9 4,488 04-19-2016, 11:15 AM
  Thread: Why am I so nice at school but rude at home?
Post: Why am I so nice at school but rude at home?

I hate how at school I'm nice, quiet, and shy but at home I talk a lot, and I say mean and rude things. I wish I wasn't like that. Does anyone know why I act like that? Partially I feel like I have ...
MusicAndFruits1092 Psychology - Life, Love & Learning 9 4,488 04-19-2016, 08:42 AM
  Thread: I have to take an IT certification test and I'm nervous.
Post: RE: I have to take an IT certification test and I'...

(04-10-2016 01:04 PM)brainiac3397 Wrote:  Fuck your teacher. You're not studying and taking the test for him. You're taking it for yourself. Just retake it. I'm sure there's no limit on how many...
MusicAndFruits1092 School Talk 2 2,322 04-10-2016, 02:01 PM
  Thread: I'm too scared to talk and ask questions at school?
Post: I'm too scared to talk and ask questions at school...

I've always been able to talk and ask questions in school. But recently in the past few years I've began to feel nervous when I speak. But when I'm online, I don't really feel that nervous. Now in sch...
MusicAndFruits1092 Psychology - Life, Love & Learning 6 2,874 04-10-2016, 01:47 PM
  Thread: I have to take an IT certification test and I'm nervous.
Post: I have to take an IT certification test and I'm ne...

Hi. I have to take a certification test for my technology class soon because my teacher keeps pushing me and it's the purpose of the class. The test costs like $100-$200 to take because it's ...
MusicAndFruits1092 School Talk 2 2,322 04-10-2016, 12:59 PM

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