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My friends mom will not stop barging in
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My friends mom will not stop barging in

Hes looking for some help, He has tried talking to her about privacy and has requested she stopped. she has caught him masturbating and saw his cock twice but still comes in. What can he do
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My friends mom will not stop barging in

Get a lock, put it on his side of the door

or

Put a bunch of shit in front of his side of the door
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My friends mom will not stop barging in

Maybe the fact she caught him masturbating is what's creating further intrusions. Some people aren't comfortable supporters of masturbation.

He could benefit from a lock(which are pretty easy to install).

Or take the harder method of figuring out why his mother keeps barging in(the masturbation issue might come up).

Also, I'm sure his mother has seen his penis more than once. Also sure she's seen his father's penis too. In fact I'm not sure just how big an issue her seeing any penis is since one can assume she's seen a penis or two in her life.

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RE: My friends mom will not stop barging in

Tell him to just masturbate all the time and when she walks in on him to stare her right in the face and keep on jacking it.
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I've had thoe situations happened to me before, when I was jacking off and then all of a sudden my mom or sister comes in. I felt ashamed and embarrassed of myself, we must question sexual freedom itself, not ask for more privacy.

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Supposedly what's normally done is A)family knows it but ignores it(and are more cautious the next time they try to enter the room) or B)sit down and talk about it to get easy the embarrassment or shame or whatever(and again employ cautious tactics in entering the room).

That's for normal folk though. For the hardcore religious, one can expect "hairy palms, go blind, the devil tricking you" lectures and hawk-eyes following your every move.

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RE: My friends mom will not stop barging in

In all seriousness though that shit happens. I think my mom has walked in on me jerking off before. I guarantee it's just as uncomfortable for her. She's still worried about it though. I don't know how old your friend is but his mom is probably just having a hard time coming to terms with the fact that he's starting to do shit like that. Parents want to keep that innocent, childlike version of their kid in their head for as long as possible.
I'd suggest just telling him to sit down and try talking to her about it. Ask for more privacy. I know it's uncomfortable, and probably a bit embarrassing but I think it will help.
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I got caught once. Real awkward indeed. We kinda all ignored it and stuff. Course my mother got all suspicious spy like but I learned from my mistake and waited till the house was empty.

Course tablets and stuff make this stuff a lot easier Smile

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RE: My friends mom will not stop barging in

Damn straight. I remember back before I had internet in my room, I had to do all my pornin' on the computer we had in the living room shit was sketch man. Had to do it when I was sure the house was empty, and always on defcon 1 for any kind of movement or noise outside the house. Computer was set up like right across from the front door too. Came so close to getting caught many times. Never did though.
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RE: My friends mom will not stop barging in

I cant recall how many times the slightest noise interrupted my session. I was so paranoid that masturbating was like trying to infiltrate a rival intelligence agency.

Now with a tablet. Just walk into bathroom and take care of business. If you wait till night and go in as last person to use, while others sleep, nobody will ever be the wiser especially if they dont see you go in. When you come out and someone gets up to use, you just claim you were in there for only few minutes and theyd never know it!

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My friends mom will not stop barging in

Zvesda, beyond just adapting to the risk of intrusion, like others have suggested, here are some ideas:

He could try to figure out where she's coming from. What does she have to say? Is she specifically concerned about what he's doing and she's checking up on him intentionally, or she just doesn't see any reason to provide space?

Maybe show her this article and use it as a basis for discussion: Should You Spy on Your Teenager? by Tina Bryson. There might be a better one out there, but here's the thing to talk to her about: "Ask yourself why you feel the need to spy. Is it really necessarily? Is your teenager in real danger?"

Also, can he talk to another family member or other adult (like a therapist) about the issue? They might be able to advocate with his mom, and help her to just accept things, as well as respecting privacy.

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RE: My friends mom will not stop barging in

I came here to suggest he masturbate and makes sure she walks in on it but i see that's already been done.. Twice.
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Haha you really expected that to be an original idea on SS Laugh
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My mom helped me take showers so I don't see the embarrassment with a mom seeing their child masturbating.

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Well there is sort of a difference between a pre-pubescent penis and pubescent one.

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^ WTF
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