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Counsellors

Who here has been to se a counsellor, and did they help at all? I'm just curious.

The first counsellor i went to see was because of school. I just completely exploded one day, got sent to pastoral, and they told my parents to get me a referral.

She was called Sarah, and worked for the NHS. The only good thing was it got me out of school. She was useless - did absolutely nothing. Apparently sitting either silent, or awkwardly conversing in a room helps cure depression. At least she had beanie-babies in her room.

After this, i had another complete explosion at school, which got me weekly visits to the school nurse - a trained counsellor. All that served to do was get rumours sent around about me. And she told me next time i wanted to cut myself, just hold ice against the skin.

And now the NHS are getting in on the act. They've sent around a counsellor for me to see for 8 weekly or so visits, because Mum has cancer. I'm sorry, but why send her now when we can see the light at the end of the tunnel? She would have been more useful before, when we didnt know what would happen. Plus, it's got me incredibly paranoid - apparently she specialises in pre-bereavment counselling.

So yeah, leave your counselling experiences here.

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Re: Counsellors

When I was 6 I had a lot of trouble adapting to school and had many outbursts of anger, causing me to fail kindergarten and get sent to a shrink, I never really liked going and he was always switching my meds around until I stopped taking them and stopped going at around 14 or 15.

At 12, after my first run in with a the law, I got sent to a psychiatric hospital for 3 weeks, hated it, the staff were pricks and the whole thing seemed way over the top for a 12 year old getting into a fight with his mom.
The doctor there was the biggest asshole of all, condescending as hell and constantly trying all kinds of pills for all kinds of conditions he decided I had.
My grandmother has training as a nurse and looked at the reports when I got out, seemed he'd had me on above the legal dosage for more than one medicine.

When I started going to the alternative school, I occasionally wen to see the school councilor, okay guy I guess, and it got me out of class.

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Re: Counsellors

I only ever went to various counsellors a few times, I can't really remember what they did but I think I was like yeah whatever
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Went to a couple a few times in life as my mom had money to blow on that crap and none of them helped.

Just a bunch of assholes who try to play mind games with you and get negative reactions so they can get you on their drugs.

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Psychiatric hospital for getting into a fight with your mum? That's really over the top. People in England would just be held in a police station overnight.

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The hell? That doesn't make any sense. They're a BIT late to the party if they're doing it because your mum has cancer. Plus if you can see things are getting better, all they're going to do is make it worse for the both of you. Agh..SENSE. IT MAKES NONE.

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*hugs back* Thanks honey...

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"The irrationality of a thing is no argument against its existence, rather a condition of it."

"Beer is proof that God loves us and wants us to be happy."
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"when I was a kid I used to pray for a bicycle. then I realized that god doesn't work that way. so I stole one and prayed for forgiveness."
"I would rather die for something I believe in than live for anything else."
"What is the task of higher education? To make a man into a machine. What are the means employed? He is taught how to suffer being bored." – F W Nietzsche
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I have never seen a counselor besides a school counselor for about 10 minutes talking about transferring a class. I don't like to open up all my feeling to a stranger. I kind of only talk to you guys.

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I saw a school counselor back in fourth and fifth grade, but when I found out she was taking stuff I told her (that she had told me would remain confidential) my mom took me to a regular counselor outside of school, 'cause I was being forced to go somehow by the school district. I always disliked either ones of them, as they were little more than huge wastes of my time and my mom's money.

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my mom is convinced i have some freak disorder, and they tried forcing drugs on me, but i said if they ever try to force feed me the pills again I will call child protective services... but i have been through 5 counselors. At first. I really enjoyed it, it gave me a chance to talk about my problems and share how much i hated my parents. but, lone behold, bitch told my parents to take my computer away and told them all the things i had told her. very very personal things. after that, I raged and began to fail all my classes. on purpose, i wanted my parents to know that counseling was not doing shit. instead, they just got a different counselor. same shit all over again. this one was so so full of himself, he kept saying "I have never had a student kill them self under my care and bla bla im so great" i honestly considered killing myself for no other reason than that bullshit. once again, counselor told my parents everything, my grades fall even shaper. obviously, the best solution was a new counselor (... -_-). after a while i never trusted them with anything. i dont talk to my counislers anymore, they just ask me questions for an hour which i will either lie about or just strait up dont answer.

TLDR: my parents are retards

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I'm crossing my fingers this next counsellor will be any good at all. But i doubt it.

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"The irrationality of a thing is no argument against its existence, rather a condition of it."

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"when I was a kid I used to pray for a bicycle. then I realized that god doesn't work that way. so I stole one and prayed for forgiveness."
"I would rather die for something I believe in than live for anything else."
"What is the task of higher education? To make a man into a machine. What are the means employed? He is taught how to suffer being bored." – F W Nietzsche
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I've never really had a lot of problems with counselors, to be honest. My middle school counselor was the equivalent of a True Neutral, if any of you know what that means, so I never had any real problems. Plus it got me out of class a bit more often. In the 8th grade, I paid a visit to the school psychologist once or twice (can't remember), and enjoyed our talks. Kind of wish I still knew her... She was young, too, and cute.

My high school assigned its students by last name to seperate counselors. Mine was a balding man in his late 50s, I believe, who had inklings of Lawful Neutral. He mostly cared about doing his job, I could tell, but every so often he'd actually put effort into helping students, though he'd do it while subtly supporting whatever entity they were talking about (so long as they were a teacher, office worker, or principal-related figure), which irked me from time to time.

At one point in my last year (which, as SS should remember, was Junior year, afterwhich I dropped right out), I got to see their psychologist as well for a couple routine visits. Again, it got me out of class, so why the hell not? She wasn't nearly as young, but at least not an old hag or ugly. Nice personality. We actually agreed on the fact that there were teachers here partially or totally unqualified for their jobs... That is, if you consider their job to truly teach, not force memorization or yell at people.

I haven't seen a counselor or psychogist since. I kind of miss them. Gave me something else to do, and a good way to kill time... Maybe I'll get bored and go see a psychologist one of these days. Worst case scenario: I find a shitty one who tries to put me up on meds or diagnose me with bullshit, and I FALCON PAWNCH him in the face before never returning.

random_name Wrote:And now the NHS are getting in on the act. They've sent around a counsellor for me to see for 8 weekly or so visits, because Mum has cancer. I'm sorry, but why send her now when we can see the light at the end of the tunnel? She would have been more useful before, when we didnt know what would happen. Plus, it's got me incredibly paranoid - apparently she specialises in pre-bereavment counselling.
This scares and irritates me. You have to see a psychologist who is supposed to reassure you about your mother, and put you at peace, and she specializes in pet mourning? That's fucked, especially given that she's not going to make you feel any better. Here's Randomcat's advice: On your first visit, tell her you have absolutely no desire to be there (which I'm guessing you do), and if this first visit doesn't do jack shit, you have no intention to return for the other seven or so. The school be damned.

Jesusaurisrex Wrote:my mom is convinced i have some freak disorder, and they tried forcing drugs on me, but i said if they ever try to force feed me the pills again I will call child protective services... but i have been through 5 counselors. At first. I really enjoyed it, it gave me a chance to talk about my problems and share how much i hated my parents. but, lone behold, bitch told my parents to take my computer away and told them all the things i had told her. very very personal things. after that, I raged and began to fail all my classes. on purpose, i wanted my parents to know that counseling was not doing shit. instead, they just got a different counselor. same shit all over again. this one was so so full of himself, he kept saying "I have never had a student kill them self under my care and bla bla im so great" i honestly considered killing myself for no other reason than that bullshit. once again, counselor told my parents everything, my grades fall even shaper. obviously, the best solution was a new counselor (... -_-). after a while i never trusted them with anything. i dont talk to my counislers anymore, they just ask me questions for an hour which i will either lie about or just strait up dont answer.

TLDR: my parents are retards
Your parents are most certainly retarded, and I don't say that often. Randomcat hath spoken.

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Not pet mourning. Pre-bereavement. Pre-death.

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"What is the task of higher education? To make a man into a machine. What are the means employed? He is taught how to suffer being bored." – F W Nietzsche
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random_name Wrote:Not pet mourning. Pre-bereavement. Pre-death.
I'm aware. I just call it pet mourning because, a lot of people I know practically start mourning the to-be-dead animal before they're even due to check out. Ridiculous, right?

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I saw a counselor when I was about 6. I had some loneliness issues and random crying sessions and stuff. I was a loner. Apparently I am a weird kid...
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But my parents might take me to some more counselling now, because a lot of people think I'm "not normal" (whatever that means).

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My Mum's not even going to die. Well, not yet.

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"The irrationality of a thing is no argument against its existence, rather a condition of it."

"Beer is proof that God loves us and wants us to be happy."
-Ben Franklin

"when I was a kid I used to pray for a bicycle. then I realized that god doesn't work that way. so I stole one and prayed for forgiveness."
"I would rather die for something I believe in than live for anything else."
"What is the task of higher education? To make a man into a machine. What are the means employed? He is taught how to suffer being bored." – F W Nietzsche
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