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Am I in shock or something?
I just got dumped. She kept saying I deserve better than her. While it was happening, I felt horrible, but now I feel happy. I'm literally sitting here grinning and laughing just listening to music. This has happened before, where I just randomly feel happy, but it doesn't make sense. She's the only thing I've cared about for the past 4 months. What the fuck is wrong with me?
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RE: Am I in shock or something?
(09-18-2013 12:40 PM)Dead Wrote: I just got dumped. She kept saying I deserve better than her. While it was happening, I felt horrible, but now I feel happy. I'm literally sitting here grinning and laughing just listening to music. This has happened before, where I just randomly feel happy, but it doesn't make sense. She's the only thing I've cared about for the past 4 months. What the fuck is wrong with me?
You don't deserve better, because usually female's use such excuses to justify their actions.
But that's not the topic here. You're euphoria is either you being hysterical(you might end up becoming depressed or abruptly sad after being happy), or you may have just subconsciously known that this relationship was not meant to be and are now happy to get out of it.
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RE: Am I in shock or something?
I know I don't deserve better. I'm not stupid enough to believe people when they say shit like that. And it turned out to be hysteria.
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Am I in shock or something?
When people say "you deserve better" as a reason to break up with you (or something similar), it could be due to subconcious fears they have that make them sabotage relationships that are actually going well... Here's a link that might explain it better:
http://www.psychalive.org/2011/11/fear-of-intimacy/
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Am I in shock or something?
Regardless of why she did it, she's done it before, and I'm sick of it. I don't care if she has a fucked up past, it doesn't mean I'm going to let her toy with my emotions anymore.
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(09-19-2013 05:40 AM)Dead Wrote: Regardless of why she did it, she's done it before, and I'm sick of it. I don't care if she has a fucked up past, it doesn't mean I'm going to let her toy with my emotions anymore.
Done it before?
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(09-19-2013 07:12 AM)brainiac3397 Wrote: Done it before?
Yeah, I think this is the fifth time that she's told me she can't hang out with me anymore and that's she's going to isolate herself from everyone forever. She's always came back but I can't keep doing this over and over again.
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RE: Am I in shock or something?
(09-19-2013 05:40 AM)Dead Wrote: Regardless of why she did it, she's done it before, and I'm sick of it. I don't care if she has a fucked up past, it doesn't mean I'm going to let her toy with my emotions anymore.
Then you are doing exactly what she expects you to.
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(09-20-2013 11:17 PM)SoulRiser Wrote: Then you are doing exactly what she expects you to.
Maybe, but I don't really see any other options here.
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(09-21-2013 12:24 AM)Dead Wrote: (09-20-2013 11:17 PM)SoulRiser Wrote: Then you are doing exactly what she expects you to.
Maybe, but I don't really see any other options here.
Ditch her before she ditches you, if she comes back again? Perhaps by pointing out how many times she's kept doing it and how you're sick of it?
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(09-21-2013 04:19 AM)brainiac3397 Wrote: Ditch her before she ditches you, if she comes back again? Perhaps by pointing out how many times she's kept doing it and how you're sick of it?
We were in class and she was trying to talk to me, I tried to ignore her but then she start touching me and stuff. And then, when I was leaving the class, she grabbed my arm and pulled me into a giant hug. Then she walked away.
Felt so awesome. Not even gonna lie, I hope we get back together.
SHIT!!!
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Am I in shock or something?
If you ever feel 'dumb' for giving her so many chances, try to talk yourself out of that feeling... it's not useful if you'd really rather be with her... and it's a sucky feeling anyway.
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Edit: We're back together, she told me that her doctor changed her prescription or something and that it fucked her up.
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RE: Am I in shock or something?
I think you might be getting your hopes up...and that you are addicted to this chick like a junkie to meth.
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I think that this might be one of those rare scenarios that you actually CAN redeem through love. If you can demonstrate that intimacy is nothing to be afraid of, and that she's meeting (or surpassing) your expectations, you might be able to boost her confidence.
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brainiac3397 Wrote:I think you might be getting your hopes up...and that you are addicted to this chick like a junkie to meth.
I...I'm not addicted to her, who told you that!!!! 
DoA Wrote:I think that this might be one of those rare scenarios that you actually CAN redeem through love. If you can demonstrate that intimacy is nothing to be afraid of, and that she's meeting (or surpassing) your expectations, you might be able to boost her confidence.
I hope so.
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(09-22-2013 01:33 AM)DoA Wrote: I think that this might be one of those rare scenarios that you actually CAN redeem through love. If you can demonstrate that intimacy is nothing to be afraid of, and that she's meeting (or surpassing) your expectations, you might be able to boost her confidence.
I second this. It's worth a shot, and you'll probably feel better for trying than not trying.
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(09-22-2013 09:30 AM)SoulRiser Wrote: "When you look back on your life, you'll regret the things you didn't do more than the ones you did." - dunno who said that.
I've heard it alternately attributed to Mark Twain and anonymous/unknown.
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This is an ancient account I have not used in a long time. My views have changed much in the intervening months and years.
Nonetheless, I refuse to clean it up. Pretending that I've held my current views since the beginning of time is what we in the industry call a lie. Asking people to do so contributes to moralistic self-loathing. "See, those people have nothing damning! I do! I'm truly vile!"
Because you can never be a good person with a single blemish on the moral record, I thought that simply entertaining some thoughts made me irredeemable. Though I don't care for his writing style, William Faulkner presents a good counterexample. He went from being a typical Southern racist to supporting the civil rights movement. These days we'd yell at him for that, probably.
People are allowed to change their views.
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I regret that I never infected madagascar with a virus first...
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(09-22-2013 04:07 PM)brainiac3397 Wrote: I regret that I never infected madagascar with a virus first...
Wut.
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Wait I get what it means now but I don't understand the relation to the topic
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It doesn't
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Just don't want this thread to die?
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I usually derail slow or stopped trains. It helps clear the tracks.
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I get it. Madagascar is such a bitch. Any why won't Greenland shut down anything? They're Reverse-Madagascar.
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I dont remember when I last played it. I actually didnt even know they had a meme(must have been during a period where I didnt really browse the web for quite some time. I missed a lot of stuff then)
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Well I just wasted my life trying to spell out "LAST POST" with a bunch of dead faces to have the code stop working when I was almost done.
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