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To everyone who joined these forums at some point, and got discouraged by the negativity and left after a while (or even got literally scared off): I'm sorry.
I wasn't good enough at encouraging people to be kinder, and removing people who refuse to be kind. Encouraging people is hard, and removing people creates conflict, and I hate conflict... so that's why I wasn't better at it.
I was a very, very sensitive teen. The atmosphere of this forum as it is now, if it had existed in 1996, would probably have upset me far more than it would have helped.
I can handle quite a lot of negativity and even abuse now, but that isn't the point. I want to help people. I want to help the people who need it the most, and I want to help people like the 1996 version of me.
I'm still figuring out the best way to do that, but as it is now, these forums are doing more harm than good, and I can't keep running them.
Thank you to the few people who have tried to understand my point of view so far. I really, really appreciate you guys. You are beautiful people.
Everyone else: If after everything I've said so far, you still don't understand my motivations, I think it's unlikely that you will. We're just too different. Maybe someday in the future it might make sense, but until then, there's no point in arguing about it. I don't have the time or the energy for arguing anymore. I will focus my time and energy on people who support me, and those who need help.
-SoulRiser
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Oops bump. I don't know if I'd be able to love someone if they actually tortured me. But then I don't really love a whole lot of people (much) anyway, so if it was someone I already love who tortured me...
I honestly don't know if I still would. I'd like to think I'd be able to, but I don't know if I'm strong enough for that. But then I don't think I'd really love someone who was likely to actually torture anyone in the first place...
Support School Survival on Patreon or Donate Bitcoin Here: 1Q5WCcxWjayniaL92b8GfXBiGdfjmnUNa2 "Believe those who are seeking the truth. Doubt those who find it." - André Paul Guillaume Gide "The true sign of intelligence is not knowledge but imagination." - Albert Einstein "I'm pretty sure there's a lot of beauty that can only be found in the mind of a lunatic." - TheCancer EIPD - Emotionally Incompetent Parent Disorder
"unconditional love" to me, is loving that person within the boundaries of reason. If the person changes completely, then he/she isn't that person anymore. Any more than changing 60% deserves a re-evaluation of the person.
Inb4 AWOL pointing out the definition of "unconditional"
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Quote:Riddle me this, riddle me that. Give me a straight answer, you pain in the ass cat.
11-10-2010 02:35 PM
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SoulRiser
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Posts: 18,238
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Support School Survival on Patreon or Donate Bitcoin Here: 1Q5WCcxWjayniaL92b8GfXBiGdfjmnUNa2 "Believe those who are seeking the truth. Doubt those who find it." - André Paul Guillaume Gide "The true sign of intelligence is not knowledge but imagination." - Albert Einstein "I'm pretty sure there's a lot of beauty that can only be found in the mind of a lunatic." - TheCancer EIPD - Emotionally Incompetent Parent Disorder
SoulRiser Wrote:Is a person really a collection of personality traits, or is there more to them than that?
Nope. Just personality and appearance.
Hidden stuff:
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Dear Tumblrites:Despite your wrongly self-diagnosedPTSD, no line ofscientific evidencesuggests people can be triggered over theinternet. Triggering works through thesenses(i.e. smell, taste, touch, vision, hearing.) but it goes throughreal time; if you're not experiencing it in real life as it'sACTUALLY HAPPENINGin yourACTUALlife, youCANNOTbe triggered. The only exception to this is if you have aseizure, but then again, that's triggered byepilepsy(i.e. rapidly-changing flashing lights)NOT PTSD. Remembering a bad incident is NOT the same thing as having aflashback. When you remember, youthink; when youflashback,youfeel.
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Max Stirnir Wrote:"In the time of spirits thoughts grew till they overtopped my head, whose offspring they yet were; they hovered about me and convulsed me like fever-phantasies -- an awful power. The thoughts had become corporeal on their own account, were ghosts, e. g. God, Emperor, Pope, Fatherland, etc. If I destroy their corporeity, then I take them back into mine, and say: "I alone am corporeal." And now I take the world as what it is to me, as mine, as my property; I refer all to myself."The Ego and Its Own, pg. 15
Charles Manson Wrote:“Look down at me and you see a fool;
look up at me and you see a god;
look straight at me and you see yourself”
HeartofShadows Wrote:"Life is nothing more than a druggie trying to get their quick fix of happiness while dealing with the harsh withdrawal of reality"
Osip Mandelstam Wrote:"I divide all of world literature into authorized and unauthorized works. The former are all trash; the latter--stolen air. I want to spit in the face of every writer who first obtains permission and then writes."The Fourth Prose, 1930.
Lukas Foss Wrote:That is why the analogy of stealing does not work. With a thief, we want to know how much money he stole, and from whom. With the artist it is not how much he took and from whom, but what he did with it.
CrayolaColours Wrote:"unconditional love" to me, is loving that person within the boundaries of reason. If the person changes completely, then he/she isn't that person anymore. Any more than changing 60% deserves a re-evaluation of the person.
Inb4 AWOL pointing out the definition of "unconditional"
I swear there's a logical fallacy for that last line somewhere.
Yeah, the definition is important. 'Reasonable love' is kind of what I'm pushing here.
11-10-2010 05:50 PM
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SoulRiser
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Posts: 18,238
Joined: Aug 2001
There's a difference between loving someone and being a complete doormat and letting them walk all over you and stuff... Unconditional love doesn't mean you have to give up your dignity. Most people seem to think the two are mutually exclusive somehow... "He hurt me, therefore I shouldn't love him anymore"... it's a bit like apologizing when you're wrong - a lot of people think it's a weak thing to do, but it's actually a sign of strength.
Support School Survival on Patreon or Donate Bitcoin Here: 1Q5WCcxWjayniaL92b8GfXBiGdfjmnUNa2 "Believe those who are seeking the truth. Doubt those who find it." - André Paul Guillaume Gide "The true sign of intelligence is not knowledge but imagination." - Albert Einstein "I'm pretty sure there's a lot of beauty that can only be found in the mind of a lunatic." - TheCancer EIPD - Emotionally Incompetent Parent Disorder
The battle of apathy vs sensitivity. Personally, I think I'm somewhere in the middle. I'm apathetic enough not to let things get to me, yet I'm sensitive enough to give a shit, too.
However, some people are far too apathetic. My brother is a great example of an overly apathetic person. He literally has the "I don't give a shit about anyone as long as it doesn't affect me" attitude. Literally. As long as it doesn't affect him, he doesn't care, and tries to preach that same philosophy to me. Well, get this message, asshole: other people's lives are just as real as your's. Just because their issues don't directly affect you doesn't mean you should just completely ignore them. I remember one time where I was actually shedding tears over the Japan earthquake and my brother was yelling at me to stop caring.