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jose
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How do you think kids should be raised?
How can you keep them from doing bad things and all that stuff?
democracy died when compulsory schooling was born.
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Re: How do you think kids should be raised?
Give actual reasons for the rules you lay out. So instead of saying "don't eat a whole thing of ice cream because I said so", I'd say "don't eat a whole thing of ice cream because it'll fuck up your teeth and is horribly unhealthy", for example.
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Re: How do you think kids should be raised?
Just be honest. Tell the truth at all times. Don't make up bullshit stories about Santa and the tooth fairy.
And keep in mind that little kids generally kind of suck at expressing their feelings in words... and don't ever be an insensitive prick.
And if they want to eat a whole thing of ice cream... no biggie. I've done that and survived.... >_>
I'd really only bother to stop them from doing stuff that can be seriously bad or life threatening or something.
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Re: How do you think kids should be raised?
Depends on the kids and just what the bad things are.
In general, though, I find it detrimental to be like sitting around waiting for the kid to do something wrong so you can correct him/her rather than just encouraging the right way to do things.
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Re: How do you think kids should be raised?
SoulRiser Wrote:Just be honest. Tell the truth at all times. Don't make up bullshit stories about Santa and the tooth fairy.
And keep in mind that little kids generally kind of suck at expressing their feelings in words... and don't ever be an insensitive prick.
And if they want to eat a whole thing of ice cream... no biggie. I've done that and survived.... >_>
I'd really only bother to stop them from doing stuff that can be seriously bad or life threatening or something.
This was a pretty nice answer I also agree with the link that you gave me. When I see one of those kids that don't listen their parents when they are talking to them in a nice voice, I also wonder what I would do if I was in their place but later stop because it's too much stuff to think about. But perhaps that's why people beat their kids. because they don't want to THINK about what they should do.
I think the problem is that people make too many stereotypes. I mean, Who knows how that "nice" mother is treating them at home. After all, people are afraid of the cameras and all the other crap. My family always talks about my good for nothing cousin who disobeys his mom and never gets good grades. But hey, his mom could not raise him and she gave him to my grandma. He actually listens more to my grandma than his mom. He always obeys her. So I think the problem is that his mom is still a stranger to him so maybe she should build a better relationship with him instead of just saying "I AM YOUR MOTHER DO AS I SAY"
btw my aunt isn't an evil person. Infact, she is very nice to me and my little cousin who is her third child.
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Re: How do you think kids should be raised?
jose Wrote:How can you keep them from doing bad things and all that stuff?
Keeping them away from drugs will be easy since I have a few family members with drug contracted Hep C.
"And that kids is why you should never come in contact with any of great aunt Miriam's blood"
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