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today i got told i couldnt call this girl by her mom. cause she is 4 years younger then me. i didnt think it was wrong at all. i wasnt trying anything we wre just talking. we dont even live close to each other. she lives in a different state. its bs that if your younger its wrong to talk to those younger then you. but if your older you can hook up with just about anyone. aslong as there not under 18. by the way im 17 she 13. what do you guys think of that kind of thing.
life is just blah blah blah. we hope for blah, and sometimes we find it. but mostly its blah. and waiting for blah. and hoping you were right about the blahs you made. and when you think you just got the whole blah damn thing figured out, and your surrounded by the ones you blah. death shows up and blah blah blah.
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Your mom is talking bullshit, I've talked to seventeen-year-olds and older on the phone/Skype loads of times. Just don't tell her next time you call.
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Age differences are overrated by parents. Like you said: They are allowed to date within a wide range of age-groups, so why not us? Of course younger minds are more impressionable and subject to manipulation by those both older and premature to them - especially when it concerns sexual & romantic situations. But teenagers deserve at least a little more credit than to be placed among the ranks of that typecast - even if the majority of them show the world how shallow and unthinking they can be. Thoughts run deeply within all of us, no matter the age or social-appearance.
My boyfriend is two years older than I am and frankly, it's bloody brilliant for us because our maturity levels seem more matched up than if we were to date people of our own ages, from what I witness daily of them. Of course this doesn't singularly depend on our physical ages, but it is still a factor. haha, unless it were a match made in heaven, so to speak. ;D Moving on. >_>
So. Bottom-line, I myself do not think that a ten year old should be dating a sixteen-year-old because that is a rather wide gap (not to mention that ten-year-olds shouldn't really be dating because of A LOT of inexperience in the field). But one or two or three or four years isn't so bad. I also am of the belief that the years themselves weigh heavily on any & all situations such as this - as in 13yrs&18yrs=not good vs 18yrs+23yrs=better, simply because both have matured enough to a certain point and can better safeguard themselves & manage to be in a loving relationship.
Adults tend to forget that they too had brains & minds of their own when they were our ages. Parents want to protect their children from the big, bad people of the world - well, at least a few of them do. Still, treating a situation such as this with a closed-mind is infallibly ignorant of the girl's mother. Especially if it was only you talking with her & not having any intentions other than friendship.
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If it's a simple friendship, I see no reason why your mom is being so aggressive about it.
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her mom and yea i dont know why ether. it really pissed me off.
life is just blah blah blah. we hope for blah, and sometimes we find it. but mostly its blah. and waiting for blah. and hoping you were right about the blahs you made. and when you think you just got the whole blah damn thing figured out, and your surrounded by the ones you blah. death shows up and blah blah blah.
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Death may be the greatest of all human blessings. -socrates-
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