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mihai_alexandru
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Judging people
I feel like judging people is wrong, but it's like a reflex, when I am above someone at something, I immediately judge him, although I myself don't like to be judged!
So I think I shouldn't judge other people if I don't want to be judged, but it's hard to resist! Almost everybody judges other people, most of the time in their mind and not out loud.
What is your opinion on judging?
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Re: Judging people
I think humans will judge each other indefinitely. The trick is to not let that judgement influence your behavior towards people.
It might be possible to achieve a state of mind where you judge people as little as possible, though. Maybe I'll start working towards that.
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Re: Judging people
I do it a lot... it's useful in the sense that it's kinda like a quick way to classify people... but yeah, on the other hand, you can be wrong about someone just as easily.
I think it's generally fine to do it as long as you keep it to yourself. I mean, I judge a lot of people as "stupid idiots" based on some of the things they say or do... I don't think I'm gonna be able to stop doing that anytime soon unless a massive amount of people suddenly grow up and start being a lot more mature. 
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A little judging is pretty much instinct but some people seem to go over the top.
Example, "You're like those teenagers that get drunk all the time", or people that suddenly fear you and judge for being different when they find out that you dropped out.
I prefer to be around unassuming people to these judgmental types.
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Judging people is fine as long as you judge them correctly.
I've never let my school interfere with my education.
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Re: Judging people
Kirby Wrote:Judging people is fine as long as you judge them correctly.
LOL
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Loxor Wrote:Kirby Wrote:Judging people is fine as long as you judge them correctly.
LOL
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Lolwhat?
Awesomeness cannot be denied.
Anything that ever happened or will... one condition, it has to be amazing.
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Re: Judging people
its human nature to judge.
the thing is to learn to control the judgement where it is not so harsh but pretty fair and unbiased. if its biased or unfair its just another stereotype.
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Re: Judging people
Loxor Wrote:Lolwhat?
Awesomeness cannot be denied.
Because if it were anyone else, you would say LOL and walk away.
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Re: Judging people
CrayolaColours Wrote:Loxor Wrote:Lolwhat?
Awesomeness cannot be denied.
Because if it were anyone else, you would say LOL and walk away.
Probably.
Cept for...
Anything that ever happened or will... one condition, it has to be amazing.
I gave her wings but she don't wanna fly no more.
I'm sittin' on the dock of the bay
Watching the tide roll away
Ooo, I'm just sittin' on the dock of the bay
Wastin' time
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I'll elaborate on my answer. Not judging people is next to impossible. You can't see how someone acts and not judge what they do. Your judgment may be neutral, but by recognizing their existance you have already judged them.
Good judgement is another term for wisdom. It's not something that you can just do. It takes time and effort to develop just like any other virtue.
I've never let my school interfere with my education.
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Judging people is inevitable. Judging is extreamly minimalistic at a young age. Think about it, toddlers will befriend just about anything, and anyone. This is becuase they have not undergone conditioning yet. This conditioning is known as socialization. Socialization is the information you pick up from all around you, in this process you establish likes and dislikes, personality and a slew of other things. If you would like to know more take a sociology class.
As a person gets older thins start to be taken into play. We take into accout our strengths and weaknesses, likes and dilikes, then gauge them in and then start to formulate what we think about people from what we know about them. This process gets longer and more drawn out the older we get and as a result we pass more judgments.
From a sociological perspective it is ABSOLUTLY inevitable to judge people. Or are we talking about ACTING on the judgements we have?
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