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Pressure while learning.
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Pressure while learning.

I've just been talking to my friend, and he feels shite about himself, even though he is one of the most talented people I have ever met. He complains that he is terrible at anything arty - when in fact he's probably better than me. He says if he does not push himself to the limit he will never learn. Here's my theory.

^^^^^^^^^^^^^ Your 'best'

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Your 'average'
^^^^^^^^^^^^^ Your below average


You cannot do your utmost best everyday. It is exhausting and a habit school has drilled into us. When you are trying your absolute 'best', anything you might learn simply slips out again - how many times have you sketched something AWESOME and forgotten how you have done it? and if you can, you can do your best everyday, but then you strive to improve noticeably every day and eventually reach your limit, and then when your limit is reached you feel shit because you can't keep going at the same rate.

Instead, improve your average. When you practise over and over, relaxed and just fucking around, things STICK without you thinking about it. You start adding the cute eyelashes to your jotter sketches. You use the shortcut you noticed earlier, and it's damned useful.

So why do people tire themselves out barely learning everything, and having to try harder every time, when they can improve their average by just RELAXING and learn more?

Eventually, by improving your average, you can reach higher levels than your previous 'best' and it will feel effortless.

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Re: Pressure while learning.

Because adults think that works and hence it does. Duh.

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Re: Pressure while learning.

You mean trying your 'best'?

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Re: Pressure while learning.

It depends whether you want to make awesome things or you just want to make decent things consistently, I think.

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The fact is, if you stop thinking your average is unacceptable, you'll find it a lot easier to learn. Isn't it better to have longer legs than a long neck?

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I don't see how that matters, or comes into play. The fact is, society is society, it makes sense by definition only.

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not sure where that fits into this...

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School isn't half the problem, society is the majority of it however, as more often than not it expects perfection, in a small time frame as well. So, going on what you've said already, rather than fixing it in schools, where it would rather quickly creep back in, we need to fix it in society. Now if you'll excuse me I need to microwave a poptart.

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I think if you can enjoy the process without obsessing (or even thinking) about the outcome much (or at all), you'll learn faster than someone who beats himself up every time he does something in a less than perfect manner.

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Hanny Wrote:The fact is, if you stop thinking your average is unacceptable, you'll find it a lot easier to learn. Isn't it better to have longer legs than a long neck?
anxiety and stuff can get in the way, yeah, but wanting to do well isn't necessarily tied to anxiety. i mean, it makes way more sense to see ability, or lack of it, as a temporary state than something super important about yourself--you don't have to think your average is acceptable, you just have to fix it instead of worry about it. also, working hard on something i genuinely want to do feels way better than just messing around once i get started.

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Re: Pressure while learning.

I don't have too much pressure, just as long as I get some halfway decent grades that average into A's and B's I'm happy. And I'm happy because my parents won't worry about it if I get A's and B's.

Remember: The perfect is the enemy of the good.
People trying to obtain perfection, and having low self-esteem because they don't achieve perfection, are just beating themselves up for no good reason. If someone strives for someone else's perfect they can't ever innovate something new or do something more efficiently. Nobody wins if everyone is forced to "perfect" standard. It just causes undue stress that, quite frankly, I have enough of already.

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