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Happiness

Help me find the path to a happy life.

What makes you truly happy?

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What makes me happy is building things and exploring, and all the running, jumping, and climbing that that entails. Another thing that makes me happy -- and this might be the most important one -- is making other people happy.

For some reason, however, I don't do any of these things very often. Maybe I'm too lazy, or too poor, or I live in the wrong sort of environment. Maybe I just suck. Gimme some tips if you got 'em.
In a certain sense, video games make me happy, but it is not very fulfilling, and, afterward, often feels like a waste of time. This is not the kind of happy I am looking for.
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Immersing myself in other worlds. Yeah, yeah, call me escapist, call me not wanting to live in the real world, but it's fascinating to forget about ourselves and this shitty world we live in and put ourselves in other people's skins and experience life as they experience it. So I love books and games. Even songs that are about someone's personal life and not just about a general message (even though I love those too.) Oh, and I never judged myself for enjoying videogames -- I get huge bouts of nostalgia after finishing a game that I really loved.

Oppositely, I'd love to travel and see more of nature, but I don't have money or the ability to go anywhere. I'm tethered between huge gray blocks of boring.

I love creating stuff, whatever it may be. Stories, designs, maybe even songs and drawings in the future. But I have a lot of self-doubt and laziness, and it usually gets between me and creating stuff.

Let go of all desire for the common good, and the good becomes common as grass.

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Re: Happiness

Faby Wrote:I love creating stuff, whatever it may be.
Love is important. I think that love is what truly makes a person happy. All kinds of love. Compassionate love, romantic love, and the love of doing certain things. Perhaps even the love of a video game. Razz

I don't know, though. Do you think that a person who hates most other people is happy? It seems to me that they aren't. For instance, look at the users of this forum. Most of them are unhappy, and too often I see posts condemning humanity or expressing a lack of faith in it. Although, these observations could quite possibly be unrelated.

I should also ask this: What do you love?

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I'd like to say that I love everything and everyone. That may or may not be accurate. I could just be fooling myself into thinking that. Time will tell, maybe.
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Re: Happiness

For me?

I love walking around some woods somewhere, trying to find anything interesting, I also love just to sit their imagining what would this be like if this happened.

Anything that ever happened or will... one condition, it has to be amazing.

I gave her wings but she don't wanna fly no more.

I'm sittin' on the dock of the bay
Watching the tide roll away
Ooo, I'm just sittin' on the dock of the bay
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Re: Happiness

1) Swimming
2) Reading
3) Talking to my friends

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"A 'no' uttered from deepest conviction is better and greater than a 'yes' merely uttered to please, or what is worse, to avoid trouble." - Mahatma Gandhi

"The irrationality of a thing is no argument against its existence, rather a condition of it."

"Beer is proof that God loves us and wants us to be happy."
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"when I was a kid I used to pray for a bicycle. then I realized that god doesn't work that way. so I stole one and prayed for forgiveness."
"I would rather die for something I believe in than live for anything else."
"What is the task of higher education? To make a man into a machine. What are the means employed? He is taught how to suffer being bored." – F W Nietzsche
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Re: Happiness

Ah,

SS makes me happy.

Anything that ever happened or will... one condition, it has to be amazing.

I gave her wings but she don't wanna fly no more.

I'm sittin' on the dock of the bay
Watching the tide roll away
Ooo, I'm just sittin' on the dock of the bay
Wastin' time
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Re: Happiness

If you take any advice from this forum, let it be this.

Read 'The monk who sold his ferrari'.

I've already recommended it to someone on this site and what you are asking in particular it deals with SPECIFICALLY.

It is about a lawyer who journeys to India because his life is not fullfilled, he ends up searching for a lost group of ancient people who know the secrets to lifelong happiness and fullment of life.

The book teaches you these things, I think it is also a true tale. READ IT! Honestly. It teaches how to be fullfilled and how to find your life's purpose, eventually reaching happiness and complete satisfaction with everything.

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"Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony." - Mahatma Gandhi

I think this is a very true quote.

I am happiest when I'm being true to myself, when I'm doing things that I know are making some sort of a tangible difference to at least one person, when I've accomplished something, and when I'm around people I love.

But to get back to the quote - I don't think it's possible to be genuinely happy if you're not completely honest with yourself, because then you can't be true to yourself... and you can't be in harmony with yourself.

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Happiness....is a warm gun.

On a more serious note, I feel very hesitant to define happiness, as if that might take away part of its allure somehow.

But simple things tend to make me the happiest. Sleeping in on the weekend, reading an excellent passage from a book, getting a smile from the ones that I love. All good cause for happy-making. =)
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Happiness...What is it exactly?

A word?
An emotion?
A presence of being?
Or something completely different...

Whatever it may be, it entices us all. That warm..fluttery feeling we get at pleasant moments. What personally makes me happy, is Friends, Music, and Kindness. It's one of the greatest feelings in the world..Happiness is what it is. We define it, It defines us.

" I never knew until that moment how bad it could hurt to lose something you never really had. " ~From the television show The Wonder Years
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One of the biggest reasons for my unhappiness right now is lack of freedom. It's being somewhat difficult to create things - more than it would be if I were free. They constantly give me orders and take too much of my time that I could be using for better things, such as composing.

I like to be alone, outside, in the wilderness. This hasn't happened in years. It gives me a feeling of freedom, to be able to just run around, to be able to go where I want, without anyone screaming at me in the background to not get away.

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This site

Reading

Stress-relieving video games

Freedom-just going somewhere, exploring neighborhoods and streets that I don't know, walking in the woods, etc.

Airsofting. There's no parents to yell at you "WATCH YER LANGUAGE" or anything like that. There are some rules (eye protection, call your hits, etc.) but you can swear all you like, call people names, shoot at people, and just have fun. The only true flaw is the fact that a lot of the people are ageists.

Guns. I don't think I need to explain this one, but putting a 1/2 inch hole in a 2x4 at 80 yards with a Springfield '03 is one of the most satisfying things I've ever done.

Sleep. 'Nuff said.

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I agree with the people who said love makes you happy. I have trouble really hating things unless I know I could be doing something better in my life if they weren't around. I think it helps to have a mission. While some people say freedom is happiness, it seems to me that freedom leads to boredom. If you can give yourself and take on a mission of a sort to achieve something you think will make you happy, you can focus yourself and put effort in to a possibly fun project. Even if there is pain involved in the process, the end result and feeling of success should be something to live for.

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Zaroyu Wrote:I agree with the people who said love makes you happy. I have trouble really hating things unless I know I could be doing something better in my life if they weren't around. I think it helps to have a mission. While some people say freedom is happiness, it seems to me that freedom leads to boredom. If you can give yourself and take on a mission of a sort to achieve something you think will make you happy, you can focus yourself and put effort in to a possibly fun project. Even if there is pain involved in the process, the end result and feeling of success should be something to live for.

I think you mean more, free time, and, what would you know about love hmm?

Anything that ever happened or will... one condition, it has to be amazing.

I gave her wings but she don't wanna fly no more.

I'm sittin' on the dock of the bay
Watching the tide roll away
Ooo, I'm just sittin' on the dock of the bay
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Faby Wrote:Immersing myself in other worlds. Yeah, yeah, call me escapist, call me not wanting to live in the real world, but it's fascinating to forget about ourselves and this shitty world we live in and put ourselves in other people's skins and experience life as they experience it. So I love books and games. Even songs that are about someone's personal life and not just about a general message (even though I love those too.) Oh, and I never judged myself for enjoying videogames -- I get huge bouts of nostalgia after finishing a game that I really loved.

Oppositely, I'd love to travel and see more of nature, but I don't have money or the ability to go anywhere. I'm tethered between huge gray blocks of boring.

I love creating stuff, whatever it may be. Stories, designs, maybe even songs and drawings in the future. But I have a lot of self-doubt and laziness, and it usually gets between me and creating stuff.

This..

I love reading and playing video games as they allow to escape the current world, to see things through other prospectives and sometimes to feel more powerful then I really am.

Sometimes I get the urge to create my own world and during that time I write on people with the urge to do things I would want to do and make them aware of things around them but with them they lacxk the helplessness I have.

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Faby Wrote:Immersing myself in other worlds. Yeah, yeah, call me escapist, call me not wanting to live in the real world, but it's fascinating to forget about ourselves and this shitty world we live in and put ourselves in other people's skins and experience life as they experience it. So I love books and games. Even songs that are about someone's personal life and not just about a general message (even though I love those too.) Oh, and I never judged myself for enjoying videogames -- I get huge bouts of nostalgia after finishing a game that I really loved.

Oppositely, I'd love to travel and see more of nature, but I don't have money or the ability to go anywhere. I'm tethered between huge gray blocks of boring.

I love creating stuff, whatever it may be. Stories, designs, maybe even songs and drawings in the future. But I have a lot of self-doubt and laziness, and it usually gets between me and creating stuff.

Quite this. So much THIS it's, like, thisy-this this.

Believe we would call ourselves 'dreamers', yes?
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+1

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my friends. even a kid in haiti can be happy with friends.

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I'm most happy when I'm lost in the moment, (and it's an enjoyable one) with no worries, only concentrating on that one thing.

Anything that ever happened or will... one condition, it has to be amazing.

I gave her wings but she don't wanna fly no more.

I'm sittin' on the dock of the bay
Watching the tide roll away
Ooo, I'm just sittin' on the dock of the bay
Wastin' time
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