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Should people spank their kids or not?
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Should people spank their kids or not?

If you had kids, what would you do? I'm watching this thing on TV right now about it, so I wanted you guys's opinions.

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Re: Should people spank their kids or not?

I think not. My parents, uh, did that, because I ran away once from school in first grade, because the teacher was an abusive bitch, and well, they did that. They had physically punished me multiple other times. And I don't consider I've come out the best way I could've... I'm definitely not the most RESPONSIBLE TO MY OBLIGATIONS AND OBEYING person ever. And I have fucked up, negative thoughts all the time and am self-loathing and overly asocial, though I think it's more due to a combination of things/emotional damage than due to being spanked, though that might've definitely played a part.

Fuck if I know whether it'd be better not to spank children. Maybe some other form of punishment, like sending kids to their room or something?
I just hate the whole idea of parenting, so it's really hard to think about.

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Re: Should people spank their kids or not?

nospank.net kinda sums it all up rather nicely.

Short answer: no, unless you want to send them the message that violence is the answer when someone does something you don't want them to do.

I'd go so far as to say punishment in general is probably not a good idea either. It's like artificial consequences.

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Re: Should people spank their kids or not?

No, most problems in our world comes from fucked up parenting. Spanking is one of the biggest issues. Majority of parents still do spank and it is basically saying, "fuck you your body is mine to do with as I wish... you do not own yourself... I own you."

There is so much scientific evidence showing that spanking children has a lot of adverse side effects and literally none that say it is positive (of those that do... well they are poor studies based on interviews or they have very general guidelines for "positive effects")

Basically there is no debate from a scientific standpoint... but the major groups are pussies about pissing parents off. Parents don't like to hear that they are being abusive or that their own parents were abusive.

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No, not at all, doesn't spanking just tell the child that his parents are willing to inflict pain on him/her in order to do what they want them to do? Also if anything it separates families more than it solves problems

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Re: Should people spank their kids or not?

Why in hell should I spank anybody?

Yes, I've been spanked a few times.
No, there was no reason to that.
No, you having been given authority on me by some unknown person doesn't make it right to spank me. Go to hell.
(Even if in some cases there was no physical/emotional damage, I still see no reason to act like that... Plus, the person look stupid in the eyes of its kid(s) while doing that, at least my mother did to me.)
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Re: Should people spank their kids or not?

Given the nature of this forum, there was really no point in asking this question Biggrin and of course I agree with all of you. It just turned my stomach to see all those moms (did they think that bringing Dads who spanked on the show would be seem a bit *too* abusive?) applauding whenever anyone talked about "whoooping ass." Like it was a good thing or something, especially when I remember growing up in fear and hatred of my dad. It's about power and of course it's a cycle. [/oldselfpity]

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Re: Should people spank their kids or not?

No, they absolutely should not. All it does it harm the relationship between the parent and the kid (this sounds like something a parent would say for some reason but fuck it), tell the kid that physical violence is necessary for what they just did (which is always something incredibly minor), and cause the kid to be bitter towards the person who did it.

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All spanking did do to me is made me very angry and a bit more aggressive. I turned more nicer once the spanking has passed.

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VisualStyly Wrote:All spanking did do to me is made me very angry and a bit more aggressive. I turned more nicer once the spanking has passed.
Same, but for me the effects were permanent. :|

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Well, I do have some bitter feelings left inside me. Might be possible that the effect hasn't really passed.

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Re: Should people spank their kids or not?

I got my ass beat on a regular basis. The only thing it did was temporarily scare me into doing something, make me hate my parents that much more, and piss me off a whole fucking lot.

Not something I'd really call a useful parenting technique.

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