I am damn fed up with S.S.D.

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To everyone who joined these forums at some point, and got discouraged by the negativity and left after a while (or even got literally scared off): I'm sorry.

I wasn't good enough at encouraging people to be kinder, and removing people who refuse to be kind. Encouraging people is hard, and removing people creates conflict, and I hate conflict... so that's why I wasn't better at it.

I was a very, very sensitive teen. The atmosphere of this forum as it is now, if it had existed in 1996, would probably have upset me far more than it would have helped.

I can handle quite a lot of negativity and even abuse now, but that isn't the point. I want to help people. I want to help the people who need it the most, and I want to help people like the 1996 version of me.

I'm still figuring out the best way to do that, but as it is now, these forums are doing more harm than good, and I can't keep running them.

Thank you to the few people who have tried to understand my point of view so far. I really, really appreciate you guys. You are beautiful people.

Everyone else: If after everything I've said so far, you still don't understand my motivations, I think it's unlikely that you will. We're just too different. Maybe someday in the future it might make sense, but until then, there's no point in arguing about it. I don't have the time or the energy for arguing anymore. I will focus my time and energy on people who support me, and those who need help.

-SoulRiser

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Re: I am damn fed up with S.S.D.

When it comes to teenagers who started to have O.D.D symptoms as a teenager, it's a sign that their mind develops more rapidly although brain maturity isn't completely connected with a mature behavior and it could be a sign that they're a different kind of teenagers that thinks for himself/herself while avoiding doing what other people wants them to believe realizing that being in the majority isn't necessarily a good thing. ODD is only a problem when the individual is extremely young displaying rebellious behavior while the parents is trying to raise the individual the best they can by providing positive experience and guide their own life without any coercion and minimizing possible problems as much as they can. I have talked with a mother who grown up raising a son whose behavior have a natural ADHD which is so severe it conflicts at any place including at home and the mother tried raising the person the he can, but however it turns out that the son's neurological problems led him to use drugs and going homeless considering the mother had no choice, but to get him to leave the house forever due to the problem within the son. It's not always the adult's fault although it is usually the adult's fault.

ZZZ...

03-08-2010 09:56 AM