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grades got me grounded
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jose
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grades got me grounded
i am really mad at adults right now. what gives them the right to tell us what to do? they are bigger? no. adults are the same they just look bigger so we and adults are actually equal. anyway, my dad asked me "jose when do you wanna celebrate your birthday?" i told him i wanted to invite my friends next Saturday (my birthday is actually monday) then i asked him when im gonna get the guitar they told me i would get. monday or saturday? then he looked at my grades and i got mad.
he said that until i bring my grades up, im not gonna go outside the house to see my friends or anything unless im going to school so its basically like house arrest. you know how long it takes to bring grades up? weeks. sometimes even a month. at first i was "fuck you im not your dog i will go see my friend whenever i want." but then i remembered that he also said he would not celebrate my birthday until my grades went up. this was a few days ago.
i was planning on going to the movies then do what ever the fuck i want but i really want that guitar and i dont have enough money to buy it and i cant earn money because of ageist laws. what i hate the most about most parents today is that they try to get to know you and be your friend but when they know you, they use what they know as a weapon. it makes me rage. i wish i never told my dad everything about me. half of the things he knew about me he used against me. he knows school makes me depressed and he knows that its turning kids into sheep. but he supports all the bad things school does and he knows what its really doing.
please give me some advice i don't know if i should disobey him and just go outside with my best friend or stay inside for weeks. here is what might happen if i disobey him him:
good things:
i can show him that i am not a dog
i can be free before i get home
i can be human for 2 to 4 hours
bad things:
i might get beaten
i might not get a guitar
i might nit have a birthday
my parents cant send me to bootcamp because they can't afford it
if i obey him:
good things:
i get the guitar
i have a birthday
i don't get beaten
bad things:
i have to be alone for weeks
i have no one to talk to
i wont be free
it will show my dad that he can control me
so what should i do? i really need help.
democracy died when compulsory schooling was born.
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Re: grades got me grounded
They beat you?
I AM A THIEF IN THE NIGHT I WILL SAVE AS MANY AS I CAN
I KEEP THEM IN MY BASEMENT
I TELL THEM I AM THEIR MOMMY NOW
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Re: grades got me grounded
You really need to decide for yourself.
But if I was in this situation, I would do this:
*Wear padding under clothes to reduce pain of possible beating
*Boycott your father. Stay as far away from him as possible
*Go on a hunger strike, or some sort of other strike.
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Zherneboh Wrote:They beat you?
yes. i think you know what im talking about.
democracy died when compulsory schooling was born.
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jose
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Re: grades got me grounded
Raikuron Wrote:You really need to decide for yourself.
im not telling you to make the decision for me. im just asking for advice.
democracy died when compulsory schooling was born.
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I insist everyone who's part of the anti-school movement gets their grades as high as possible.
Not (just) because of things like this, but because it gives them less reasons to assume we hate school.
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Kinda late, I complain about school openly and constantly.
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jose Wrote:Zherneboh Wrote:They beat you?
yes. i think you know what im talking about.
Pretty sure you can get some sort of legal support on your side then.
"There is no enemy, there is no victory, only boys who lost their lives in the sand."
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Corporal punishment. He/She doesn't have a chance if there aren't any bruises. And I mean, a lot bruises that are obviously physical abuse.
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