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Truancy and Illness
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Truancy and Illness

I think the truancy policy at my school is bullshit. (I hope this is the right section to post this in.)

One of my friends is chronically ill, has thousands of doctor's notes from multiple doctors confirming this, both parents confirming, and is physically unable to go to school but the school decided to call them truant.

First of all: What the hell? Huh
I read up on our student handbook- being declared truant can only happen for UNEXCUSED absences, and 9 unexcused days in the last 180 days. While my friend has been gone for weeks, they're all excused due to actually being in the fucking hospital. Or at the very least, SHOULD be excused.

Funfact: Another friend has their parents call in sick for 1 day, only being sick for 2 other days in the entire school year so far, and he has a fever. But the school says "Fever? Nah, fuck it, this is truancy." We have received no explaination why it's truant, despite phone calls or emails to the school.

And this situation falls under "illness" which should be excused for a day as stated in the student handbook. The parents even confirmed for both siutations. Yet it's still truancy.

Anyone else think truancy is really unfair here?
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Yes, it is really unfair. The school needs to get its head on straight and realize that truancy does not equate to chronic illness.

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That's just completely insane. Those people have no sense whatsoever... is there some way to report this to the media? Get the school some serious negative attention or something...

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I'm not sure if negative attention will work or not. However, I will be gathering different cases from students I know, including evidence of these events, and eventually confront the school about it. (If they refuse to change then I might bring it to the media. The media usually covers our school events so hopefully they'd listen if it doesn't turn out well.)
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(02-09-2017 08:04 AM)Lady A Wrote:  I'm not sure if negative attention will work or not. However, I will be gathering different cases from students I know, including evidence of these events, and eventually confront the school about it. (If they refuse to change then I might bring it to the media. The media usually covers our school events so hopefully they'd listen if it doesn't turn out well.)

Oh, definitely report it to the media first. It solves the problem, probably better than the school would themselves (if you reported it after the school made a half-assed attempt then it may not get as good coverage because it wouldnt be as big an issue) because they would on the spot, and its really fun to watch your school get attacked in the media Popcorn Biggrin

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(02-09-2017 12:33 PM)Geicosuave Wrote:  
(02-09-2017 08:04 AM)Lady A Wrote:  I'm not sure if negative attention will work or not. However, I will be gathering different cases from students I know, including evidence of these events, and eventually confront the school about it. (If they refuse to change then I might bring it to the media. The media usually covers our school events so hopefully they'd listen if it doesn't turn out well.)

its really fun to watch your school get attacked in the media Popcorn Biggrin

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Consensual incest is very common. You know people who have been involved, whether you know it or not.

There is no rational reason for keeping laws or taboos against consensual
incest that is consistently applied to other relationships. Personal disgust or religion is only a reason why one person would not want to personally engage in what I call consanguinamory, not why someone else shouldn't do it. An adult should be free to share love, sex, residence, and marriage with ANY consenting adults. Youthful experimentation between close relatives close in age is not uncommon, and there are more people than you'd think out there who are in lifelong healthy, happy relationships with a close relative. It isn't for everyone, but we're not all going to want to have each others' love lives, now are we? If someone thinks YOUR love life is disgusting, should you be thrown in prison?

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marriage by being part-time eugenicists and saying that such relationships inevitably lead to “mutant” or “deformed” babies. This argument can be refuted on several fronts. 1. Some consanguineous relationships involve only people of the same gender. 2. Not all mixed-gender relationships birth biological children. 3. Most births to consanguineous parents do not produce children with significant birth defects or other genetic problems; while births to other parents do sometimes have birth defects. 4. We don’t prevent other people from marrying or deny them their reproductive rights based on increased odds of passing along a genetic problem or inherited disease. It is true that in general, children born to consanguineous parents have an increased chance of these problems than those born to nonconsanguineous parents, but the odds are still minimal. Unless someone is willing to deny reproductive rights and medical privacy to others and force everyone to take genetic tests and bar carriers and the congenitally disabled and women over 35 from having children, then equal protection principles prevent this from being a justification to bar this freedom of association and freedom to marry.

Some say "Your sibling should not be your lover." That is not a reason. It begs the question. Many people have many relationships that have more than one aspect. Some women say their sister is their best friend. Why can’t their sister be a wife, too?

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Quote:Oh, definitely report it to the media first. It solves the problem, probably better than the school would themselves (if you reported it after the school made a half-assed attempt then it may not get as good coverage because it wouldnt be as big an issue) because they would on the spot
Yeah, I think this is more likely to be effective as well. I tried to get my school to change some stuff internally back in the day, and they took their damn time to even bother to get back to me, and just made a bunch of excuses to not do anything about it. Although in my case, I doubt the media would have given a damn. In your case, it seems more likely.

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If this is in the US or another country where homeschooling is legal, the best option may be to choose homeschooling.

If in the US, depending on the state, it's very easy -- or a bit of paperwork -- to inform the district that one is homeschooling. But it can be done, and it will stop the issues around truancy.

I can provide more information on this if you want to PM me or post here about the state/country where this is happening.

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(02-12-2017 01:12 PM)xcriteria Wrote:  If this is in the US or another country where homeschooling is legal, the best option may be to choose homeschooling.

If in the US, depending on the state, it's very easy -- or a bit of paperwork -- to inform the district that one is homeschooling. But it can be done, and it will stop the issues around truancy.

I can provide more information on this if you want to PM me or post here about the state/country where this is happening.

Yeah, I'd suggest online classes through the school if it'll be allowed, unless the parents will have them homeschooled or transferred. That way, even when they're not at school, the teachers have nothing to crab about.
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