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Anxiety from overprotective parents
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Anxiety from overprotective parents

This tumblr post really says it all, nothing I can say would add to it
http://voidspacer.tumblr.com/post/156073...mousferatu

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Yup, and it also ties in with that thread I made about the delusional abusive parents a while back. They really are actually convinced that they're doing the right thing... it's crazy.

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That's sad. I don't even think it's good for kids to be into porn, but the post made it sound like there was no real evidence their kid was doing that.

That being said, if a kid is into porn it's probably a sign of a deeper problem. People fall into addiction due to feeling isolated and not having much of an outlet. Which is interesting because some of us here (including myself) have probably had times in our lives where we felt isolated at school.

Edit: Here's a video on addiction: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ao8L-0nSYzg

If porn or drugs are epidemic at a school, it might be a valid reason to believe the school is failing on the "socialization" front.

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If someone's looking at porn it doesn't automatically make it an addiction.

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RE: Anxiety from overprotective parents

We covered a fair amount of this in the NOFAP thread. Most non-asexual men have this problem that the body produces some stuff that will pretty much end up exiting the system eventually, and most understand by the time this is happening that there is a better way than waiting to clean your undies in the morning...

When marriage is made easy adultery is made difficult. Parents make marriage hard as hell in this society.

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Even many asexual men apparently have that problem too. It's basically like an itch that needs to be scratched occasionally.

I think most of the NoFap idea is for people who are addicted to doing it too often or something though.

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RE: Anxiety from overprotective parents

Seriously? There is nothing legitimate about it. It's just like smoking, you try it out and then you're addicted. Saying you need to masturbate to "get stuff out" is a bit like saying you need to smoke to clean your lungs...

People who have never masturbated (or smoked) will never feel the urge.

Doesn't mean it's a reason to get angry though. "Noooo, why are doing that?" is the appropriate response.
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RE: Anxiety from overprotective parents

with fapping, there is a need with what should be a clear cause.

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