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Talking to Older People
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There seems to be this consensus, perhaps universal in all generations, that all these young people talk too much and don't do enough work...

I can get where they are coming from since all this schooling we go through we are taught entitles us to privileges that the real world doesn't give two shits to grant us. I get it.

What I find interesting though is the challenge presented by the physical presence of older people in work and in school.

At Walmart, one of the hardest working people was Stan. Kind of an old grump who gave us shit for talking too much and not working. He wasn't wrong BTW. His presence during a work day, maybe I am unique here, actually made me want to work harder and better, because some part of me really appreciates praise from older more experienced people. Maybe I have daddy issues......

At my current job, there is a group of older guys who kind of stand near the rails. I find it an interesting challenge to see if I can hold my own in banter since these guys have definitely been through more and done more thinking than me. I've gotten better at talking to my dad and having him NOT flip out and leave the room while still getting some of my basic ideas out there.

I see how my (almost) 3 year olds act with my 1.5 year old. Its like they have some mentoring instinct and she wants to be the best she can be. Of course this means she makes more mischief than they did when they were her age, but the basic structure is there. Respect for your elders, even siblings. My wife is (east) Indian and they address elder siblings and cousins with an honorific. We are teaching our kids to do the same.

I wonder what any of YOUR experiences are with older people. What is it like being around older kids, older adults, the elderly?

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Ironically, the most mature people I know personally are under the age of 40. I'm not "inspired" in the least by bigots, xenophobes, or people who live fearful, yet extravagant lives without any serious consideration whatsoever for what the world will look like when they're gone.

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The ninjas I spend the most time training with are all at least 7 years older than me. They can be really mature when they want to be, and they can also completely ignore maturity and act like crazy kiddies when they feel like it, too. Hence, they are perfect company for me. Nutter

It's because of them that I got over my weird social anxiety that I used to have when interacting with people older than me. Now I just treat all people like people, regardless of their age in relation to me. If this pisses anyone off, they clearly are not someone I want to be spending time with anyway. Biggrin

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A cunt's a cunt, no matter what age.
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Well, in my high school. There are kids that are disrespectful to adults, mostly to everyone since they are disrespectful to the adults. Some kids interact with the adults like friends. I find it sometimes weird. And then some kids interact with the adults as their job position. Like i do. Yup. Online, I mostly treat adults like childish, like they are my friend. lel. In real life, not so much.
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I've met all kinds of senior citizens, and only two did I ever grow to hate. Still one, amongst young and middle aged adults too, thought that saying I wasn't like others my age was a compliment. I took it as a complement, of course, since that was in the time period where I hated most other children.
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Eh, it depends. I've met plenty of unpleasant people; narcissists, sociopaths, dickheads, assholes, from an assortment of all ages, not so much just one. Generally, I do try to be courteous, but people just really have it out sometimes.

Older people are cool. I think everyone has great ideas to share.

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I've been enjoying the company of a co-worker. He's in his 60's and is a recovering alcoholic quite knowledgable about AA and its history. I mostly just sit an listen. Its fun

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That's what makes old people pretty fun. There's so much to learn from, because they've experienced so much.

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The worst thing school does is rob the young of thr company of the old. Most of us know manners in the company of the old, and most of the old will QUICKLY rebuke you if you don't. It seems the inclination to mentor and share is natural for older people towards younger.

I wish more of the younger crowd here even knew to avail themselves of the older among us to gain insight. Just browsing the forums is less effective than actually sharing your ideas for analysis.

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(08-28-2016 01:55 AM)the Analogist Wrote:  The worst thing school does is rob the young of thr company of the old. Most of us know manners in the company of the old, and most of the old will QUICKLY rebuke you if you don't. It seems the inclination to mentor and share is natural for older people towards younger.

I wish more of the younger crowd here even knew to avail themselves of the older among us to gain insight. Just browsing the forums is less effective than actually sharing your ideas for analysis.

The problem is, the less understanding elders are well.... less understanding and the risk of being treated as inferior often overshadows the blessing that is talking to a nice person who's seen more, been more, and'll be your friend. Sometimes they'll tell you about their childhood pets, how times were different, etc. Sometimes they just try to seem like they had it harder even though hardship is at least halfway relative, tell you how you need to respect your elders more, etc. I've known my fair share of senior citizens, and you get a good mix of nice ones and mean ones.
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Yep. No class is uniform, even though school tries its hardest

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