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(08-04-2016 09:33 AM)brainiac3397 Wrote:  
Quote:Same, especially on porn. All porn does is just waste your time. It's not even real sex yet what it does to the mind is disturbing. It's corruption, nasty, unnatural (we've only had instant access to many kinds of porn since the 90s at the earliest), and disgusting. I hope my fellow School Survivors kick the porn habit.

When did you become a puritan?

Since April. I realized I was wasting my time with constant jerking off and feeling constantly lethargic and no motivation for change. While I try not to come off as preachy (I hate preachers), it's what's worked for me.

(08-05-2016 05:20 AM)Jop Wrote:  Why did any of you ever start masturbating or watching porn in the first place...

Very good question. To put it bluntly, porn is pretty much all over the place. Billboards, commercials, magazines, it's inevitable you become exposed to porn. It excites the brain, it's tempting.

(08-05-2016 06:44 AM)SoulRiser Wrote:  So, out of curiosity... most of you get the urge to fap roughly every day then?

During my time constantly fapping, I didn't get so much the urge but it was more like a habit. I conditioned my mind to fap every day (sometimes multiple times), even though I wasn't even orgasming and it felt dull, and I knew it was killing me inside.

Now though, I don't get urges. Like I said, I've gone 30+ days of NoFap. They really do die off at that point. And even if I do, I maintain my control over them.

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Das an addiction mang. In which case ur better off.

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Wait, you guys need porn to get off?

Fucking casuals.

Hello, traveler.

This is an ancient account I have not used in a long time. My views have changed much in the intervening months and years.

Nonetheless, I refuse to clean it up. Pretending that I've held my current views since the beginning of time is what we in the industry call a lie. Asking people to do so contributes to moralistic self-loathing. "See, those people have nothing damning! I do! I'm truly vile!"

Because you can never be a good person with a single blemish on the moral record, I thought that simply entertaining some thoughts made me irredeemable. Though I don't care for his writing style, William Faulkner presents a good counterexample. He went from being a typical Southern racist to supporting the civil rights movement. These days we'd yell at him for that, probably.

People are allowed to change their views.

Nevertheless, this period of my life has informed some of how I am today. In good ways and bad ways. To purge it would be to do a disservice to history. Perhaps it will not make anyone sympathetic, but it may help someone understand.

If, after reading all this, you still decide to use the post above as evidence that I am evil today, ask yourself if you have never disagreed with the moral code you now follow. In all likelihood you did, at some point. If some questions are verboten, and the answer is "how dare you ask that," don't expect your ideological opponents to ever change their minds.
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(08-05-2016 05:20 AM)Jop Wrote:  Why did any of you ever start masturbating or watching porn in the first place...

Ok so you know the dopamine shit?

It's the stuff drugs make happen.

Fapping is like a drug but there's no harm except for chafing. It's the best thing ever. Masturbating has helped me through the hard times in my life. The death of grandparents and close relatives. Tough times in school.

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(08-05-2016 05:20 AM)Jop Wrote:  Why did any of you ever start masturbating or watching porn in the first place...

Ok so you know the dopamine shit?

It's the stuff drugs make happen.

Fapping is like a drug but there's no harm except for chafing. It's the best thing ever. Masturbating has helped me through the hard times in my life. The death of grandparents and close relatives. Tough times in school.

Technically it's also serotonin, which is the reward chemical of the brain.

Also, to be honest, a lot of people can probably live with masturbating and live fine lives. If it's great for you, do what makes you happy.

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60+ hours in. No discernible changes in sex drive, but for some reason my sleep patterns have become erratic lately. Probably a coincidence.

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I got to Day 14 and started doing things bordering on sexual assault lel
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(08-06-2016 06:10 AM)Chiron Wrote:  60+ hours in. No discernible changes in sex drive, but for some reason my sleep patterns have become erratic lately. Probably a coincidence.

Nearly 3 days, keep going strong! Beware of the infamous flatline.

(08-06-2016 06:17 AM)Username Wrote:  I got to Day 14 and started doing things bordering on sexual assault lel

Probably because you didn't have much control/temperament.

The purpose of NoFap is not just to abstain from choking the chicken but also to improve your discipline. The best tools for building discipline are: exercise, cold showers, and meditation. I'm pretty much in control of my drive.

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Bah. Discipline is for people who stay in line and accomplish nothing.

Hello, traveler.

This is an ancient account I have not used in a long time. My views have changed much in the intervening months and years.

Nonetheless, I refuse to clean it up. Pretending that I've held my current views since the beginning of time is what we in the industry call a lie. Asking people to do so contributes to moralistic self-loathing. "See, those people have nothing damning! I do! I'm truly vile!"

Because you can never be a good person with a single blemish on the moral record, I thought that simply entertaining some thoughts made me irredeemable. Though I don't care for his writing style, William Faulkner presents a good counterexample. He went from being a typical Southern racist to supporting the civil rights movement. These days we'd yell at him for that, probably.

People are allowed to change their views.

Nevertheless, this period of my life has informed some of how I am today. In good ways and bad ways. To purge it would be to do a disservice to history. Perhaps it will not make anyone sympathetic, but it may help someone understand.

If, after reading all this, you still decide to use the post above as evidence that I am evil today, ask yourself if you have never disagreed with the moral code you now follow. In all likelihood you did, at some point. If some questions are verboten, and the answer is "how dare you ask that," don't expect your ideological opponents to ever change their minds.
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(08-06-2016 11:22 AM)Hansgrohe Wrote:  Probably because you didn't have much control/temperament.

Probably because I did it in the ages of 13-15, and therefore, brimming with testosterone.

Moderation is key, I believe. I don't think excess or abstinence are the answers. From what I've read, abstention creates a testosterone hike on the seventh day, then goes back to the baseline. I'm also quite certain that wanking multiple times a day doesn't help you prevent prostate cancer any better than just doing it semi-regularly.

The perks of both extremes don't stack nor multiply, if one were to go one way or the other, so why not stay somewhere in the middle?

I'd be a fool not to reap the benefits of both.
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(08-06-2016 02:46 PM)no Wrote:  Bah. Discipline is for people who stay in line and accomplish nothing.

Actually, I think the opposite is true. It's one thing to blindly accept everything as fact and take orders from everyone, but it's another to have no sense of self-control.

To put a long story short, when I was fapping every day, I pretty much had no discipline, or self-control. I just did everything the same, and I didn't even care. I had no passion. By not fapping, and hence, better disciplining myself, I actually think of things I hadn't done before.

In essence, the best kind of discipline is the one you set yourself. Believe me, it's doing much more than just half-assery.

(08-07-2016 01:21 AM)Username Wrote:  Probably because I did it in the ages of 13-15, and therefore, brimming with testosterone.

Moderation is key, I believe. I don't think excess or abstinence are the answers. From what I've read, abstention creates a testosterone hike on the seventh day, then goes back to the baseline. I'm also quite certain that wanking multiple times a day doesn't help you prevent prostate cancer any better than just doing it semi-regularly.

The perks of both extremes don't stack nor multiply, if one were to go one way or the other, so why not stay somewhere in the middle?

I'd be a fool not to reap the benefits of both.

The prostate cancer prevention is a bit of a myth. Generally studies that were shown to reduce prostate cancer were mostly being shown by men in their 50s. Actually, other studies showed masturbation in sampled men in their 20s saw an increase in prostate cancer, but it's highly doubtful jerking off was the pure accomplice, if at all.

Personally, I find masturbation to be akin to alcohol; a lot of people can probably live with it in moderation but I can't, or else I'll experience the infamous "chaser effect".

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(08-04-2016 02:36 AM)Joker Wrote:  Masturbation is for dopamine reliant caveman. Porn conditions men to be complacent bitchboys. I wasn't surprised when I first learned of this information. Birth rates are lower than ever. And contrary to popular belief about "hookup culture," millennials are having less sex than previous generations.

I will always be anti-masturbation and anti-porn. Both of these activities are selfish wastes of time.

This gave me an interesting thought. Unfortunately, that thought is borderline conspiracy theory and should be taken with a grain of salt. What if porn is part of society conditioning us to be docile and complacent and just following orders? Just a thought though. It could just me thinking wild thoughts again...

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(08-04-2016 05:35 AM)Cianna200 Wrote:  I am hardly aroused and I barely want to act on sexual urges.

I am overcome with envy.

I don't blame you. Sexual urges can distract you from pursuing success.

Romantic desires are also something I don't enjoy having. They make being single less enjoyable. And I don't feel like I've a lot of hope in that area of my life.

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Quote:Same, especially on porn. All porn does is just waste your time. It's not even real sex yet what it does to the mind is disturbing. It's corruption, nasty, unnatural (we've only had instant access to many kinds of porn since the 90s at the earliest), and disgusting. I hope my fellow School Survivors kick the porn habit.

When did you become a puritan?

I don't think he's being Puritan. It's just, porn has these psychological effects. That video he posted shows how porn can reduce one's motivation. I also hear that porn is bad for your romantic relationships if you're in one. (Although that last part probably won't convince you you're better off without it if you think you're forever alone.)

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(08-06-2016 06:10 AM)Chiron Wrote:  60+ hours in. No discernible changes in sex drive, but for some reason my sleep patterns have become erratic lately. Probably a coincidence.

My sleep patterns are erratic anyway.

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Lost it at day five again - not so much because I couldn't handle it, but because I lost interest in cold-turkeying. That said, I should probably at least try to space out my, erm, sessions a bit more... maybe make it an every-three-days kind of thing rather than an everyday.

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(08-04-2016 02:36 AM)Joker Wrote:  Masturbation is for dopamine reliant caveman. Porn conditions men to be complacent bitchboys. I wasn't surprised when I first learned of this information. Birth rates are lower than ever. And contrary to popular belief about "hookup culture," millennials are having less sex than previous generations.

I will always be anti-masturbation and anti-porn. Both of these activities are selfish wastes of time.

This gave me an interesting thought. Unfortunately, that thought is borderline conspiracy theory and should be taken with a grain of salt. What if porn is part of society conditioning us to be docile and complacent and just following orders? Just a thought though. It could just me thinking wild thoughts again...

In that case, the same can be said for cigarettes, fast food, alcohol, and live sports. The purpose of porn is simple. Sex sells, so it'll make tons of money. It's simple. Sex is one of the biggest serotonin/dopamine inducing things out there. It's powerful.

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(08-04-2016 05:59 AM)Chiron Wrote:  
(08-04-2016 05:35 AM)Cianna200 Wrote:  I am hardly aroused and I barely want to act on sexual urges.

I am overcome with envy.

I don't blame you. Sexual urges can distract you from pursuing success.

Romantic desires are also something I don't enjoy having. They make being single less enjoyable. And I don't feel like I've a lot of hope in that area of my life.

I've avoided having feelings for someone since my last "relationship" ended up being such a fucking disaster. Seriously, having a crush is a horrible feeling. You don't want it.

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(08-04-2016 09:33 AM)brainiac3397 Wrote:  
Quote:Same, especially on porn. All porn does is just waste your time. It's not even real sex yet what it does to the mind is disturbing. It's corruption, nasty, unnatural (we've only had instant access to many kinds of porn since the 90s at the earliest), and disgusting. I hope my fellow School Survivors kick the porn habit.

When did you become a puritan?

I don't think he's being Puritan. It's just, porn has these psychological effects. That video he posted shows how porn can reduce one's motivation. I also hear that porn is bad for your romantic relationships if you're in one. (Although that last part probably won't convince you you're better off without it if you think you're forever alone.)

I'm just going to link this:


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This is a REALLY long video but it perfectly states why porn is bad and unnatural. It's artificial sex basically (or prostitution), and the cycle of how it operates is very similar to drugs, in the rewards and high, but in the end it leads to nowhere.

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I am unintersted in this thread except to say that music has the same properties. I actually avoid both fapping and music.

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Depends on the music - there's actual music and there's fucking dopamine-inducing bullshit full of sounds that are shit.

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(08-10-2016 08:58 AM)Hansgrohe Wrote:  Depends on the music - there's actual music and there's fucking dopamine-inducing bullshit full of sounds that are shit.

Please enlighten me about what "actual music" is.
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(08-10-2016 08:58 AM)Hansgrohe Wrote:  Depends on the music - there's actual music and there's fucking dopamine-inducing bullshit full of sounds that are shit.

Please enlighten me about what "actual music" is.

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(08-10-2016 10:52 AM)Chiron Wrote:  
(08-10-2016 09:49 AM)Dead Wrote:  
(08-10-2016 08:58 AM)Hansgrohe Wrote:  Depends on the music - there's actual music and there's fucking dopamine-inducing bullshit full of sounds that are shit.

Please enlighten me about what "actual music" is.

Actual music: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL...VTCi3F2dWV

Dopamine-inducing bullshit: Exactly what it sounds like

So "actual music" is whatever an individual considers good, then.
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I've avoided having feelings for someone since my last "relationship" ended up being such a fucking disaster. Seriously, having a crush is a horrible feeling. You don't want it. [/quote]

Well, I've had crushes before but no real relationships. It's just right now I find myself longing to find someone for some reason. I wish it would stop bothering me.

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(08-10-2016 09:49 AM)Dead Wrote:  
(08-10-2016 08:58 AM)Hansgrohe Wrote:  Depends on the music - there's actual music and there's fucking dopamine-inducing bullshit full of sounds that are shit.

Please enlighten me about what "actual music" is.

Actual music: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL...VTCi3F2dWV

Dopamine-inducing bullshit: Exactly what it sounds like

So "actual music" is whatever an individual considers good, then.

While I'm not one to judge (and I hate music snobs), there is definitely a difference in quality of music from artist to artist, year to year, and album to album. Is a shitty album really on equal footing as a good one? One man's trash is another man's treasure, and I've listened to a lot of polarizing albums, but there is general consensus on a lot, too.

There's a reason why rock fans hate Nickelback, or why hip hop/rap fans hate modern-era trap music (which ended up killing distinct regional styles). There is a difference in quality.

(08-10-2016 12:23 PM)UnicornLionWolf Wrote:  I've avoided having feelings for someone since my last "relationship" ended up being such a fucking disaster. Seriously, having a crush is a horrible feeling. You don't want it.

Well, I've had crushes before but no real relationships. It's just right now I find myself longing to find someone for some reason. I wish it would stop bothering me.
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This is a pretty common issue among SS'ers in general.

In general, there's a social expectation for all teenagers to find their "life loves" in school, especially for guys. And of course, you're expected to get laid and lose your virginity somewhere in there. I think people take it too seriously; I'm not saying you can't find love in high school, but not everyone will. Some people just won't. I sort of accepted this, and honestly, I felt fine.

In general, if you're feeling lonely, and want a partner, it says something about your social life. In general, I'd suggest finding good friends and hobbies. Finding friends can be difficult, but think of it this way: there are so many people in my classroom I could talk to, I might as well befriend them. I somewhat regret wasting my high school years; I could've made strong, long term connections.

Of course, find proactive hobbies. This will keep your mind off the whole relationship thing.

One simple rule: desperation never helps.

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(08-10-2016 04:23 PM)Hansgrohe Wrote:  
(08-10-2016 11:46 AM)Dead Wrote:  
(08-10-2016 10:52 AM)Chiron Wrote:  
(08-10-2016 09:49 AM)Dead Wrote:  
(08-10-2016 08:58 AM)Hansgrohe Wrote:  Depends on the music - there's actual music and there's fucking dopamine-inducing bullshit full of sounds that are shit.

Please enlighten me about what "actual music" is.

Actual music: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL...VTCi3F2dWV

Dopamine-inducing bullshit: Exactly what it sounds like

So "actual music" is whatever an individual considers good, then.

While I'm not one to judge (and I hate music snobs), there is definitely a difference in quality of music from artist to artist, year to year, and album to album. Is a shitty album really on equal footing as a good one? One man's trash is another man's treasure, and I've listened to a lot of polarizing albums, but there is general consensus on a lot, too.

There's a reason why rock fans hate Nickelback, or why hip hop/rap fans hate modern-era trap music (which ended up killing distinct regional styles). There is a difference in quality.

I don't think it's bad to hate certain music. I just get annoyed when someone says it isn't "real music" because they hate it.
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Nefarious addictions follow this Logic: how it feels "at the time" outweighs any objective rationale against it.

More deeply, it is that dependence which keeps us bound, enslaved by our desires instead of reigning ourselves in and being our own commanders.

Since nobody is perfect, everybody has problems, and addictions appear very much to be ways of avoiding confrontation with them. I'm thinking of those people whose every waking hour is occupied by some form of entertainment or another. Quiet reflection prior too or after a deep conversation appears quite rare.

Anytime I have ever been at a bar I've gradually began looking around developing a deep seething hatred for everybody in my company. All I could ever see was a whole bunch of idiots simply drinking their sanity away enjoying this material existence as thoroughly as they can to the exclusion of anything other than their most carnal and base desires.

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(08-10-2016 11:21 PM)the Analogist Wrote:  Since nobody is perfect, everybody has problems, and addictions appear very much to be ways of avoiding confrontation with them.

Odd structure.

Quote:Quiet reflection prior too or after a deep conversation appears quite rare.

Whoops.

Quote:Anytime I have ever been at a bar I've gradually began looking around developing a deep seething hatred for everybody in my company. All I could ever see was a whole bunch of idiots simply drinking their sanity away enjoying this material existence as thoroughly as they can to the exclusion of anything other than their most carnal and base desires.

Why the fuck are you going to bars to judge people?
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(08-10-2016 05:23 PM)Dead Wrote:  
(08-10-2016 04:23 PM)Hansgrohe Wrote:  
(08-10-2016 11:46 AM)Dead Wrote:  
(08-10-2016 10:52 AM)Chiron Wrote:  
(08-10-2016 09:49 AM)Dead Wrote:  Please enlighten me about what "actual music" is.

Actual music: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL...VTCi3F2dWV

Dopamine-inducing bullshit: Exactly what it sounds like

So "actual music" is whatever an individual considers good, then.

While I'm not one to judge (and I hate music snobs), there is definitely a difference in quality of music from artist to artist, year to year, and album to album. Is a shitty album really on equal footing as a good one? One man's trash is another man's treasure, and I've listened to a lot of polarizing albums, but there is general consensus on a lot, too.

There's a reason why rock fans hate Nickelback, or why hip hop/rap fans hate modern-era trap music (which ended up killing distinct regional styles). There is a difference in quality.

I don't think it's bad to hate certain music. I just get annoyed when someone says it isn't "real music" because they hate it.

Fair enough. I've been on enough forum boards and chats to know this. Music didn't even exist in modern forms until the 19th century at the very earliest.

(08-10-2016 11:21 PM)the Analogist Wrote:  Nefarious addictions follow this Logic: how it feels "at the time" outweighs any objective rationale against it.

Very much so. And this is especially true for porn/masturbation addictions. The false sense of having sex with all these people with no effort; then reality sets in, and you realized you wasted your precious time and energy on fapping to porn.

(08-10-2016 11:21 PM)the Analogist Wrote:  More deeply, it is that dependence which keeps us bound, enslaved by our desires instead of reigning ourselves in and being our own commanders.

Spot on. I remember I used to feel enslaved to my PMO addiction. I knew it made me a worse person, but I couldn't stop jerking. I felt the dependence, like, it was some kind of crutch.

(08-10-2016 11:21 PM)the Analogist Wrote:  Since nobody is perfect, everybody has problems, and addictions appear very much to be ways of avoiding confrontation with them. I'm thinking of those people whose every waking hour is occupied by some form of entertainment or another. Quiet reflection prior too or after a deep conversation appears quite rare.

To go deeper on this, addiction is also the perfect fantasy land. Specifically, for porn, the fantasy is having unlimited sex with anyone you want. Not even porn magazines or clothing catalogs match to the availability of internet porn, not even close. When you realize internet porn has only really been around since the 1990s at the earliest, and how different it is from other sexual images, then you realize how fucking unnatural it is.

Addiction to porn blinds the person to actually try to do something about their lives, but porn doesn't feel anything. It doesn't care if there's a divorce, or some other kind of failure. It only seeks to provide that pleasure.

(08-10-2016 11:21 PM)the Analogist Wrote:  Anytime I have ever been at a bar I've gradually began looking around developing a deep seething hatred for everybody in my company. All I could ever see was a whole bunch of idiots simply drinking their sanity away enjoying this material existence as thoroughly as they can to the exclusion of anything other than their most carnal and base desires.

While I hate drinking culture, I suggest you take a step back from that position. There's a difference between continually jerking to porn and finding relief from a stressful day (like, drinking at a bar). Such relief is a necessary evil; it keeps us from going insane. Not to mention cynicism like that can be very... soul-crushing.

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Quote: In general, there's a social expectation for all teenagers to find their "life loves" in school, especially for guys. And of course, you're expected to get laid and lose your virginity somewhere in there. I think people take it too seriously; I'm not saying you can't find love in high school, but not everyone will.

Yes. Society pressures you to lose your virginity in high school. I know this sounds ironic, but it's actually good that I had religious parents who pushed me in the direction of waiting for marriage. That being said, out of high school now I find myself wanting to find a wife.

And while some find love in high school, like you said, not everyone will. In fact, most don't marry their high school sweethearts.

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(08-11-2016 10:27 AM)UnicornLionWolf Wrote:  
Quote: In general, there's a social expectation for all teenagers to find their "life loves" in school, especially for guys. And of course, you're expected to get laid and lose your virginity somewhere in there. I think people take it too seriously; I'm not saying you can't find love in high school, but not everyone will.

Yes. Society pressures you to lose your virginity in high school. I know this sounds ironic, but it's actually good that I had religious parents who pushed me in the direction of waiting for marriage. That being said, out of high school now I find myself wanting to find a wife.

And while some find love in high school, like you said, not everyone will. In fact, most don't marry their high school sweethearts.

People often criticize religious conservatism in regards to sex; but in your case, it's a good thing. Love isn't one size fits all - this is pretty key when it comes to finding love, even though I'm terrible at the subject.

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Quote: People often criticize religious conservatism in regards to sex; but in your case, it's a good thing. Love isn't one size fits all - this is pretty key when it comes to finding love, even though I'm terrible at the subject.

I think the issue with religious conservatism with regards to sex is that is makes you feel obligated to go one way. The thing is society makes you feel obligated to go another way. I guess in my case I found myself deciding I was obligated to do neither...

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