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Is My Parents Controlling?
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Is My Parents Controlling?

Sorry I make new threads; I just want an explanation for this reason.

Well let's start off with my mom and my step-father.

They both say they want me to be "happy" and "successful" in school first, but as kids they hated the idea of schooling and still do. They think that I am not really worth going and leaving me be, though they ALL want to leech on my happiness so they can have an object called "money". It sickens me that our youth is being mentored like this, even my online friends think so. That is why I am trying to move out after next summer and be at peace, but they always say, "Your not ready to move out yet, and you haven't shown us your responsible enough to do so."

I hate it, does anyone have a good solution?

My dad though, he thinks school is over rated, but he always says follow your dreams of becoming a game or web developer. While my other parents say, "Go to school and be compliant!"

I trust my dad more. He seems to understand me quite a bit more than my mom or my step-dad. It is pretty amusing, but I WANT my own independence.
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Is My Parents Controlling?

Most parents are controlling, and most of them also think it's a good thing to be controlling to some extent. So most likely, yes, your parents are controlling, but they probably do care about you but are also afraid of the world and worried about you trying to do things that they don't understand.

Game and web development is still in its infancy, and I think it's only going to get even bigger in the future... so I don't understand why they would try to discourage this unless they really don't realize how big those things both already are. School is still too far behind the times to be of much relevance to game or web development, and probably always will be, and frankly, has never been very relevant to much of anything specific.

How are they leeching on your happiness? Whereabouts (which country) do you live in?

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RE: Is My Parents Controlling?

I live in the US, they want me to stay with them forever, or how my mom states it.

I am trying to grow, but this school yea brought the worst onto my parents likable state of mind. They banned me from using any technology devices and hacking into game code to learn made it more difficult. They even believed grades are meant the way I acted, but they always thought I was lying to get on my video games

But now I have job close by, don't know what to expect.
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Is My Parents Controlling?

How the fuck do grades show how one acts? I can get straight A's and have insane anger issues (pretty much sums up my 6th grade year and part of 7th grade). I can also be borderline flunking classes yet be a decent person (part of 7th and most of 8th).

Your mom and stepdad are total assholes. I would try and move with your dad if possible.

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RE: Is My Parents Controlling?

(06-21-2016 07:57 AM)JakeAE86 Wrote:  I live in the US, they want me to stay with them forever, or how my mom states it.

I am trying to grow, but this school yea brought the worst onto my parents likable state of mind. They banned me from using any technology devices and hacking into game code to learn made it more difficult. They even believed grades are meant the way I acted, but they always thought I was lying to get on my video games

But now I have job close by, don't know what to expect.

To me it does sound like your parents are being controlling. However, there is something that may or may not be true. (I don't know much about your situation so correct me if I make a mistake here).

They said that you've not shown you're responsible enough. They may be saying it in a way that's a pain to hear, but let me ask you this: Can you handle all the things you'll need to do living on your own?

Living on your own you'll need to pay bills (something I myself unfortunately can't do at this time because I can't afford to pay housing, so alas I'm with still living with parents like you), take out the trash, handle food (unless you can afford to eat out practically all the time this'll mean cooking, sandwiches, and/or microwavables), cleaning, etc. It may be possible to get a roommate to split these responsibilities with, but I highly doubt there's someone out there who'll do everything.

If I were you I'd live with your dad if possible, unless you feel you can do all the things that you'd have to do living on your own.

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