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American School is so bad that My Clearly Visible Disability was Never Identified
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American School is so bad that My Clearly Visible Disability was Never Identified

And I went to one of the "best" high schools in my state.

I am on the autism spectrum. I have some talents but also some disabilities which need remediating. Despite my strange behavior, even the "good" teachers in my high school (and my parents) went on about how lazy I was and never referred me for the help I needed. This continued in college.

In addition to the high cost and conformity of college, a couple of my teachers basically lied to me when I was struggling that I could "pull myself together", even though I clearly had visible issues. I would act strangely in class and was repeatedly humiliated for it. Getting a job requires a lot of social interaction, so I never found a job. Thank goodness I got help and now I am studying for an IT job.

The only good thing was I studied abroad in France for one semester and the main professor there was far more helpful than almost any teacher I had in America.
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American School is so bad that My Clearly Visible Disability was Never Identified

Mine wasn't either.

Welcome to School Survival. Although, by the looks of your join date, you've been here awhile.

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(06-19-2016 02:58 AM)Chiron Wrote:  Mine wasn't either.

Welcome to School Survival. Although, by the looks of your join date, you've been here awhile.

Thank you! But I created this account a while ago though but never used it
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Welcome to SS, 5 years later! Pirate2

Being humiliated never helped anyone... sorry to hear you had such crappy teachers. :(

But at least things are going better now, right?

Not all jobs require that much social interaction though... thankfully. Otherwise I'd have gone insane by now.

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(06-19-2016 03:21 AM)SoulRiser Wrote:  Welcome to SS, 5 years later! Pirate2

Being humiliated never helped anyone... sorry to hear you had such crappy teachers. :(

But at least things are going better now, right?

Not all jobs require that much social interaction though... thankfully. Otherwise I'd have gone insane by now.

Thank you too. Hopefully, the IT job I'm working for won't require much social interaction
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(06-19-2016 01:40 AM)chris3991m Wrote:  And I went to one of the "best" high schools in my state.

I am on the autism spectrum. I have some talents but also some disabilities which need remediating. Despite my strange behavior, even the "good" teachers in my high school (and my parents) went on about how lazy I was and never referred me for the help I needed. This continued in college.

In addition to the high cost and conformity of college, a couple of my teachers basically lied to me when I was struggling that I could "pull myself together", even though I clearly had visible issues. I would act strangely in class and was repeatedly humiliated for it. Getting a job requires a lot of social interaction, so I never found a job. Thank goodness I got help and now I am studying for an IT job.

The only good thing was I studied abroad in France for one semester and the main professor there was far more helpful than almost any teacher I had in America.

I'm really sorry to hear that. It sounds like a really nightmarish way to have to go through school (not that there's much of a non-nightmarish way to go through school).

I don't have autism, but hear hear for nonsocial type jobs like IT.
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(06-19-2016 01:40 AM)chris3991m Wrote:  And I went to one of the "best" high schools in my state.

I am on the autism spectrum. I have some talents but also some disabilities which need remediating. Despite my strange behavior, even the "good" teachers in my high school (and my parents) went on about how lazy I was and never referred me for the help I needed. This continued in college.

In addition to the high cost and conformity of college, a couple of my teachers basically lied to me when I was struggling that I could "pull myself together", even though I clearly had visible issues. I would act strangely in class and was repeatedly humiliated for it. Getting a job requires a lot of social interaction, so I never found a job. Thank goodness I got help and now I am studying for an IT job.

The only good thing was I studied abroad in France for one semester and the main professor there was far more helpful than almost any teacher I had in America.

Wow. That is fucking horrible to not get help. You clearly needed it and nobody cared enough. At least you got it later, but goddamn that really sucks. Nobody should be treated like that.

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RE: American School is so bad that My Clearly Visible Disability was Never Identified

You're not disabled. Also, almost all schools do this, not just American ones.
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What form would the help take exactly? Like, to what extent are people like you actually understood in the way of "getting through to you"

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No matter how weird you are, you can always work night shift at walmart.

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(06-19-2016 01:40 AM)chris3991m Wrote:  And I went to one of the "best" high schools in my state.

I am on the autism spectrum. I have some talents but also some disabilities which need remediating. Despite my strange behavior, even the "good" teachers in my high school (and my parents) went on about how lazy I was and never referred me for the help I needed. This continued in college.

In addition to the high cost and conformity of college, a couple of my teachers basically lied to me when I was struggling that I could "pull myself together", even though I clearly had visible issues. I would act strangely in class and was repeatedly humiliated for it. Getting a job requires a lot of social interaction, so I never found a job. Thank goodness I got help and now I am studying for an IT job.

The only good thing was I studied abroad in France for one semester and the main professor there was far more helpful than almost any teacher I had in America.

That's terrible. I was actually able to get decent grades, but the social aspect of school was a struggle for me to at times. Work and the future sound like scary things to me right now. Will I be able to find a job and a wife? It's so scary.

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Work was a mystery to me. Now I've got my name as the owner of 3 different businesses and I'm looking at a 4th(as a non-profit). I'm not rolling in cash, but I've had profits(meager but better than a loss)

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