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Talking to a foreign and shy person
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Talking to a foreign and shy person

Hi, my name is Luke and I'm in the 8th grade.

There is a student who transferred from Brazil and I'm not going to use his real name, but I'll call him Rodrigo, he is incredibly introverted and won't talk to anybody unless he A. has to, to contribute in a class discussion or B. is directly asked something. Now that it's nearing the end of the year I've noticed he really hasn't had any friends. Everytime there is a group activity he is typically the last person to be chosen or he kind of wanders when we get to choose who are partners are. The main issue is we have little in common, he likes sports while I'm more interested in video games, computers etc... I want to be his friend but I haven't really talked to him all that much.

Any advice? Biggrin
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RE: Talking to a foreign and shy person

You probably have some things in common, but you'd need to talk to each other to find out what they are. Find some random excuse to start a conversation with him. Ask him what he likes. See where that leads.

If he's as introverted as me, there are 2 approaches...
1) You will do most of the talking
2) You will ask the right questions that he might actually want to talk about

#1 is probably easiest, at least at first, if you can deal with doing most of the talking. I know I personally don't like it when people ask me questions if they don't really want to listen to what I have to say (because talking is a lot of effort for me and I don't like to waste effort)... so make sure you only ask things you really want to know more about.

Relevant links:
http://lonerwolf.com/how-to-befriend-a-shy-introvert/
https://www.buzzfeed.com/alisoncaporimo/...feel-loved

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