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Contagious Pessimism
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RE: Contagious Pessimism

Hmmm I am confused, why?
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I thought that the thing that made asexuals asexuals was that they don't get pleasure from sex.
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Well sometimes that's the case, some asexuals do like sex, the term for getting no pleasure from sex and sometimes even hating it is antisexual.
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Then what does it mean to be an asexual?
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Asexuality can be defined as the last (often invisible) orientation in which there is little to no sexual attraction, for example, most men would respond to a very sexy looking woman with lust, an asexual would find her beautiful but will not get turned on by her. Asexuality is present in 1% of the population at over 60 million people. http://georgiapoliticalreview.com/the-in...ientation/

https://thethinkingasexual.wordpress.com...hip-terms/
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Okay, so if asexuals don't experience sexual attraction, then how do some get pleasure from sex?
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Well Genital contact, often very pleasurable for the majority of people.
An asexual would like to feel the tingly pleasure from their genital region without finding their sex partner sexually attractive, you can say, these asexuals just want the sex and find sex it's self appealing, not people.
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That's hilarious. Those asexuals just need to find themselves a sugar daddy / sugar mama. Surely they wouldn't mind having sex with a wrinkly old person as long as their genitals got tingly.

Also, the next time someone I know decides their new sexual orientation of the week is asexual, I'm going to harp them about whether they'd rather fuck a hot girl or an old man. And if they choose one of them, I'm going to yell at them that they shouldn't have a preference if they're asexual. Just to mess with them.
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I find it bizarre that you went from wanting to be educated about asexuals to being one of the many people who bash them.
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I was joking around, chill out. Also, in regards to the second part, most of the people I know irl who are a part of LGBT-everything-else-that-isn't-regular-in-regards-to-sexual-orientation-and-gender-identity are annoying... eh I'll just leave it at that. Annoying.

Of course, this doesn't mean that I dislike everyone who's a part of said group.
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I find many sexual people to be annoying, because they are so pushy, judgmental, obsessive and plain egocentric, having absolutely no idea that they are sex negative. Why do you find some of those people annoying.
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Some of them are just the fucking personification of tumblr, and I'm going to leave it at that.

Also, I'm not sexually active, so if that description of sexual people you made was directed at me, it doesn't work out.
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No it wasn't directed at you, just the people who do it, wether sexually active or not.
They are pretty hard to miss, especially if you are asexual, if you are, than the worst can be expected.
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TFW your family says "when you have kids someday" rather than "if you have kids someday." ;-;

Hello, traveler.

This is an ancient account I have not used in a long time. My views have changed much in the intervening months and years.

Nonetheless, I refuse to clean it up. Pretending that I've held my current views since the beginning of time is what we in the industry call a lie. Asking people to do so contributes to moralistic self-loathing. "See, those people have nothing damning! I do! I'm truly vile!"

Because you can never be a good person with a single blemish on the moral record, I thought that simply entertaining some thoughts made me irredeemable. Though I don't care for his writing style, William Faulkner presents a good counterexample. He went from being a typical Southern racist to supporting the civil rights movement. These days we'd yell at him for that, probably.

People are allowed to change their views.

Nevertheless, this period of my life has informed some of how I am today. In good ways and bad ways. To purge it would be to do a disservice to history. Perhaps it will not make anyone sympathetic, but it may help someone understand.

If, after reading all this, you still decide to use the post above as evidence that I am evil today, ask yourself if you have never disagreed with the moral code you now follow. In all likelihood you did, at some point. If some questions are verboten, and the answer is "how dare you ask that," don't expect your ideological opponents to ever change their minds.
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Oh I'm never having kids, my family know but care very little about it thank goodness. My family used "if" instead of "when".
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Looks like I'm a bit late to the party, but I'd like to remind everyone to keep the personal attacks to a minimum.

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Oh I'm not attacking, just having friendly debates/conversations Wink
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Personal attacks? Where? I don't see any.
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I can't not have kids. I clearly need a dynasty from which my intelligence and morals lay the foundation of. It's a waste to just die with these powers.

If I become wealthy, I'll have many kids. They're still expensive ya know.

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