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Softspoken · 08-08-2015 10:45 PM

I try to, I've straight told people "fuck off and leave me alone" and they laughed like I was kidding, see, I think that they perceive me as childish and nieve because I have reservations about discussing many things, especially personal things, but I'm not, I know what they're talking about, and WHO they're talking about, but if I confront 'em about it they feed me some fucking lie with a smirk on their face like they pulled one over on me.

**SoulRiser** · 08-08-2015 10:52 PM

Quote:I try to, I've straight told people "fuck off and leave me alone" and they laughed like I was kidding

Aah, you are surrounded by those monsters. So was I. I wish I could go back in time with my new-found ninja skillz and beat the stupid grins off their faces.

I guess if you were more intimidating they wouldn't react like that... but that's not an easy thing to learn. I'm 32 and I'm still working on it. Razz

Softspoken · 08-08-2015 11:12 PM

I wish you could soulriser, but I'm not very intimidating at all, and I'm sorry you had to put up with this shit too

schoolsux · 08-09-2015 12:05 AM

I used to be a real outcast... I would suggest joining/creating clubs for stuff you are interested in. There you could make friends and gain more allies in that way. I also live in a small town, and it worked for me. You could also gain find more enemies, but I have found many more friends than enemies joining clubs.

Softspoken · 08-09-2015 12:18 AM

Well, I do have a friend in choir, but for clubs that's about as far as it goes, I can't draw or play sports, and creating new clubs isn't really an option, it's a good idea though

Sharpie · 08-09-2015 06:37 AM

Friends are a waste of time, don't bother

**SoulRiser** · 08-09-2015 07:37 AM

Friends can make a huge difference, good or bad depending on the kind of people they are.

schoolsux · 08-09-2015 07:51 AM

(08-09-2015 06:37 AM)Sharpie Wrote: Friends are a waste of time, don't bother

Is this because you may have never had friends? Especially during school, you need friends. Or otherwise you will be a loner. Trust me it sucks to be a loner (I have been a loner before).

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Night · 08-09-2015 09:54 AM

About your peers, I know it sounds sort of cliche but just ignore them.

Hear me out
I know that when we're younger, and when we have anxiety (raises hand) we get concerned with having people like us. But, It's a really self-destructive distraction. It's good to keep reminding yourself that they're not worth giving the time of day. Keep reminding yourself that they'll be just a fading memory in only a few years. They're not even worth confronting. If it helps, there's even evidence that kids like that are more likely to to pretty much fail life.

there was a time for me in 8th grade when I was being bullied Quite badly. I was being called names to my face. In one particular class myself and my (equally bullied outcast) group of friends often had paper airplanes thrown at us. When myself or one of my friend would enter the vicinity of a certain group of boys they would flee as though we had a contagious disease. My friends and I, at the very least, pretended we thought this was the most hilarious thing. We would actually almost instigate the situation. I think this is more of a coping mechanism than an actually sound method of stopping them though.
I will say this, once we were in high school that next year we were pretty much separated from those people most of the time. It was pure chance and luck that it ended up that way. However, I have doubts that the bullying would have continued even if I found myself in many of the same classes because high school was just different. That's not to say I didn't hate it, but people just don't seem to have even fucks to give to be so upfront. They'll still talk shit behind your back. But like I said, those people are irrelevant.

Remember to focus on the people who are your friends. Those are the people that deserve your time. Drown out everything else.

Oh and welcome to the forums Razz

schoolsux · 08-09-2015 12:36 PM

this is seriously the most posts in one thread within 24 hours i have seen on SS

Softspoken · 08-09-2015 12:51 PM

Thank you for the kind words and welcome night

brainiac3397 · 08-09-2015 01:54 PM

I haz good friends. Im probably charming guy. I dun know. Maybe that makes me more charming...

I get along with everybody. Mostly since I rely on others degree of respect in judging them (respect for me, others, themselves, animals, property ec.). Plus Im something of a taoist stoic. Make sense? Dun know u figure it out cause it clearly makes sense to me.

Used to have socializing issues. Gotten over em recently. Now I am as comfortable talking to a human as I am to a rock (actually Id find a rock a better conversational partner).

schoolsux · 08-09-2015 02:13 PM

At least a rock can't be an asshole to you.

brainiac3397 · 08-09-2015 11:21 PM

And it lets u pick it up and smash someones face in without complaint. Probably even enjoys it.

schoolsux · 08-09-2015 11:35 PM

It lets you throw it in some asshole's window, too.

brainiac3397 · 08-10-2015 05:16 AM

But that'd be a self-sacrifice I could not stand!

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