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I miss homework

Its not that I loved school, I have the same bully horror stories as the rest of /ss/. But being in my 20s, with no goals or hope for the future, I actually miss the artificial structure and reachable fake goals of school.

Doing a little math homework seems so much more obtainable, than the impossible task of setting my life right.

I wasn't the most studious student in high school. I liked the subjects I liked and largely ignored the rest. I was a history buff and to a lesser extent this spilled over into English. But math and science I just squeaked by in. I would try to read about the history of math, to make it more interesting to me.

School is a make believe environment. There are no consequences. None of your academic achievements really mean anything. Math homework seems so sweet now, compare to living a life. Problems that actually have a right answer that you can solve algoritmically.

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06-04-2015 01:18 PM
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RE: I miss homework

Get a job that isnt dead end.

I get work everyday and a decent amount of flexibility in doing it.

I do understand what you mean though. Compared to the "outside", the school world had its own silly yet impactful things like "academic achievement" which generally translates to nada in college/work unless its something extraordinary and venturing out of the school world. Goals were specific, every year was like a promotion with your peers/cadre, the whole division of elementary,middle,high school was like stages of life maturity.

Then you had the strong closed social life. You basically knew who did what with who where and when minute it happened, news traveled quick down the grapevine, cliques were clear and obvious, and your interactions with folk revolved around basically mimicking (I remember a few years phase of obsession with cloth from abercrombie and holester and whatever. If you didnt own and wear such cloth during free dress or as overwear, since my school had a uniform, then you were more of an outlier. I was obviously outlier cause I wasnt paying $50 for a hoodie with a brand name stitched onto like 80% of the front surface area. I also wasnt gonna wear converses because I fervently believe they are old skool basketball shoes this for basketball, and because I personally find them ugly as shit and a total insult to my fashion sense)

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I miss homework

You could use Khan Academy or MOOCs like on Coursera and edX on math-related topics and do the suggested work. Hire a learning coach or just find an accountability buddy if you'd like to be nudged in various ways to keep up with it.

Beyond that, the idea of liking having some structure, and feeling lost with out any, is understandable and pretty common. I think one of the biggest arguments for promoting self-directed learning when people are younger is they can actually experience that challenge of how to figure things out before they're out in the world as an adult (and maybe feeling it for the first time.)

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I miss homework

I think ,based on you are good at history ,you can probably understand math more .cause your comprehension is alright .studying math need methods,especially you have to memories the math formula ,just like memories the English word .without the words you cannot writing ,without the formula you cannot solve math problems.

so you can choose back to study or just get a job .both is difficult .but I believe you can handle it .
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RE: I miss homework

(06-04-2015 01:18 PM)Weswammy Wrote:  Problems that actually have a right answer that you can solve algorithmically.

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