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[split] A little update
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A little update

(05-05-2015 02:02 PM)Sharpie Wrote:  Hm

I don't really know what to say without coming across as a condescending asshole , but I can relate to you on the anhedonia part. I don't really know why or how to fix it either, and I probably never will. I suppose I'm content with that, but it does fuck with me from time to time.


The best advice I can give is to focus on the things that you do enjoy and try to find ways to make drastic changes in your life and environment. Your options are limited, I know, but you gotta work with what you've got and hope that it'll somehow work out. There really isn't much else you can do.
Lol so does this mean you're always trying to sound like a condescending asshole? Grow up. Rolleyes

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(05-06-2015 12:45 AM)SirMarty Wrote:  
(05-05-2015 02:02 PM)Sharpie Wrote:  Hm

I don't really know what to say without coming across as a condescending asshole , but I can relate to you on the anhedonia part. I don't really know why or how to fix it either, and I probably never will. I suppose I'm content with that, but it does fuck with me from time to time.


The best advice I can give is to focus on the things that you do enjoy and try to find ways to make drastic changes in your life and environment. Your options are limited, I know, but you gotta work with what you've got and hope that it'll somehow work out. There really isn't much else you can do.
Lol so does this mean you're always trying to sound like a condescending asshole? Grow up. Rolleyes

Ignoring the fact that that's a prime example of misbehavior in a support thread, how the fuck do you even get that from what he said?

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SirMarty is insulting me in an emotional support thread and should be banned, as per forum rules.

Oh wait..
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OK. Wait...what?

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(05-07-2015 12:00 PM)xcriteria Wrote:  
(05-07-2015 09:44 AM)lisafromjackson Wrote:  OK. Wait...what?

Ok -- Re: Sharpie, Alistoriv, and Marty:

My take on this is that Sharpie made a high-quality, supportive reply. He took the time to empathize and give supportive advice. Then Marty replied with:

(05-06-2015 12:45 AM)SirMarty Wrote:  Lol so does this mean you're always trying to sound like a condescending asshole? Grow up. Rolleyes

I could really write a whole wall of text about this, but I'll try to keep this concise.

(05-07-2015 09:03 AM)Alistoriv Wrote:  Ignoring the fact that that's a prime example of misbehavior in a support thread, how the fuck do you even get that from what he said?

I don't know.

(05-07-2015 09:41 AM)Sharpie Wrote:  SirMarty is insulting me in an emotional support thread and should be banned, as per forum rules.

Oh wait..

For the record, I'm against bans for things like this. I think it's better to address the problem through dialogue and see what people can learn from it... barring repeated, intentionally malicious behavior.

But your point is noted, Sharpie... applying rules or criticism only to some people, and not others, isn't fair or just. That said, a rush to punishing and judging everyone tends not to work so well either. Stepping back and taking a breath can be a lot more productive. People are generally capable of learning and seeing things from different angles if they have the space and sense of security to do so. The constant fear of punishment, harsh criticism, and mocking, just like is typical in school and all-too-common from parents, doesn't give people that sense of security.

That doesn't mean a total hugbox is the answer, either; some pushback can go a long way. But it needs to be presented in ways people might take to heart, and not just flow from a sense of anger, or a repeat of familiar patterns.
I'm only pointing out how both Sharpie and Alistoriv are the pot calling the kettle black.

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(05-07-2015 01:22 PM)SirMarty Wrote:  
(05-07-2015 12:00 PM)xcriteria Wrote:  
(05-07-2015 09:44 AM)lisafromjackson Wrote:  OK. Wait...what?

Ok -- Re: Sharpie, Alistoriv, and Marty:

My take on this is that Sharpie made a high-quality, supportive reply. He took the time to empathize and give supportive advice. Then Marty replied with:

(05-06-2015 12:45 AM)SirMarty Wrote:  Lol so does this mean you're always trying to sound like a condescending asshole? Grow up. Rolleyes

I could really write a whole wall of text about this, but I'll try to keep this concise.

(05-07-2015 09:03 AM)Alistoriv Wrote:  Ignoring the fact that that's a prime example of misbehavior in a support thread, how the fuck do you even get that from what he said?

I don't know.

(05-07-2015 09:41 AM)Sharpie Wrote:  SirMarty is insulting me in an emotional support thread and should be banned, as per forum rules.

Oh wait..

For the record, I'm against bans for things like this. I think it's better to address the problem through dialogue and see what people can learn from it... barring repeated, intentionally malicious behavior.

But your point is noted, Sharpie... applying rules or criticism only to some people, and not others, isn't fair or just. That said, a rush to punishing and judging everyone tends not to work so well either. Stepping back and taking a breath can be a lot more productive. People are generally capable of learning and seeing things from different angles if they have the space and sense of security to do so. The constant fear of punishment, harsh criticism, and mocking, just like is typical in school and all-too-common from parents, doesn't give people that sense of security.

That doesn't mean a total hugbox is the answer, either; some pushback can go a long way. But it needs to be presented in ways people might take to heart, and not just flow from a sense of anger, or a repeat of familiar patterns.
I'm only pointing out how both Sharpie and Alistoriv are the pot calling the kettle black.


Uh.. so are you? You consistently note that I'm not constructive, and when I actually DO make a constructive post you respond by.. not being constructive and making unnecessary comments? You of all people should be quite aware that what you posted in that thread isn't welcome in such threads. I mean fuck, even DoA could handle himself. You must adore me<3


Oh wait..

hmm.
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RE: Split this for ya(;

Splitmageddon once more

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Nobody split this except me, because I know that this wouldn't be acceptable in a support forum thread(;
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Split this for ya(;

You do realize that Marty doesn't visit the Basement, right?

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Alright, much better - I split this into neutral territory so you guys can work this out.

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(05-08-2015 03:06 AM)DoA Wrote:  You do realize that Marty doesn't visit the Basement, right?

Thank the Lord for that.
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Wat. But the basement wishes to devour.

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