RIP School Survival Forums
August 2001 - June 2017

The School Survival Forums are permanently retired. If you need help with quitting school, unsupportive parents or anything else, there is a list of resources on the Help Page.

If you want to write about your experiences in school, you can write on our blog.

To everyone who joined these forums at some point, and got discouraged by the negativity and left after a while (or even got literally scared off): I'm sorry.

I wasn't good enough at encouraging people to be kinder, and removing people who refuse to be kind. Encouraging people is hard, and removing people creates conflict, and I hate conflict... so that's why I wasn't better at it.

I was a very, very sensitive teen. The atmosphere of this forum as it is now, if it had existed in 1996, would probably have upset me far more than it would have helped.

I can handle quite a lot of negativity and even abuse now, but that isn't the point. I want to help people. I want to help the people who need it the most, and I want to help people like the 1996 version of me.

I'm still figuring out the best way to do that, but as it is now, these forums are doing more harm than good, and I can't keep running them.

Thank you to the few people who have tried to understand my point of view so far. I really, really appreciate you guys. You are beautiful people.

Everyone else: If after everything I've said so far, you still don't understand my motivations, I think it's unlikely that you will. We're just too different. Maybe someday in the future it might make sense, but until then, there's no point in arguing about it. I don't have the time or the energy for arguing anymore. I will focus my time and energy on people who support me, and those who need help.


The forums are mostly read-only and are in a maintenance/testing phase, before being permanently archived. Please use this time to get the contact details of people you'd like to keep in touch with. My contact details are here.

Please do not make a mirror copy of the forums in their current state - things will still change, and some people have requested to be able to edit or delete some of their personal info.

Post Reply 
Thread Rating:
  • 0 Vote(s) - 0 Average
  • 1
  • 2
  • 3
  • 4
  • 5
I want to get out of school
Author Message
MurkScribe Away

Posts: 422
Joined: Oct 2014
Thanks: 10
Given 111 thank(s) in 79 post(s)
Post: #1
I want to get out of school

I feel this has been going on for way to long, but my dad is worried about me and he is bigoted, ignorant, and pretty much the protector of the status quo and skepticism towards anything that talks and challenges the basic assumption about schooling and everything now I want to persuade and change the heart of my dad, but that is going to be extremely challenging and hard to do. So I want to say it to my dad in a honest understanding approach to this, because it is not the result of him being ignorant, but rather culture excepting people to stay into the terrible system of school, and because of the fear of starvation,poverty, and destitute without that single piece of paper. And it's sometimes infuriating when people tell me that i'm self-abusing myself with this pie in the sky idea, that im stupid don't know anything, and that I should die. So please help me out, because he just threatens me to call the cops, and said that it's impossible to get me out of school, because he would go to jail, so him not realizing that there is no way to get out of school. I'm also treated like i'm mentally ill or sick for being op positional to authority and me being beaten by my dad as a kid, and I still have grudges and hatred towards my dad, because of what he did including now. Violence, hate, selfishness,apathy is what I experience in my family, and my little brother is the only hope to put my love, compassion, and understanding towards, for him to never become broken and saddened like I have. But seriously new jersey homeschooling laws, getting out of school all that jazz.

Also I agree with xcriteria that wanting to drop out of school is something looked down upon in our society and kind of like coming out of the closet in the past. But thanks to media exposure to gay people and more talked about, public opinion about gay people has changed, and so can we.

MurkScribe's Mental Health Status:
[Image: calvin+and+hobbers.png]
04-12-2015 05:43 AM
Find all posts by this user Quote this message in a reply
xcriteria Offline

Posts: 3,090
Joined: Oct 2005
Thanks: 814
Given 930 thank(s) in 612 post(s)
Post: #2
I want to get out of school

I hear you. So the reality is that it's easy to get out of school in NJ, and nobody is going to jail. Maybe work on that angle. Help him to understand that the choice really is in his hands, if that's possible.

Then, there's the question of whether he's going to force you to continue attending school, or if he might be open to alternatives. Maybe ask about online school, if you haven't... what does he say? What about going to college early, instead of high school? What does he say about that?

Peter Gray & allies launching the Alliance for Self-directed Education

ASDE Newsletters: #1 Announcement | #2 History of ASDE | #6 Education Liberation

School Survival & Catalyst Learning Network featured on AlternativestoSchool's blog
“Mom, Dad, can I stop going to school?”

Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking when the Stakes are High

Hidden stuff:
04-12-2015 09:35 AM
Find all posts by this user Quote this message in a reply
Sunbourn Offline
Proud crazy cat man

Posts: 6,660
Joined: Jun 2008
Thanks: 35
Given 289 thank(s) in 192 post(s)
Post: #3
RE: I want to get out of school

If you're planning on going the college route, you can get your GED in NJ at 16 with parental permission! So you can work to get yourself in a position to pass that test, take it, bam don't have to worry about high school anymore. Then, you can enroll in community college and work on getting an associates before transferring somewhere else based on impressive community college scores. You'd probably have a difficult time getting in to a four-year right off the bat with a GED, but transferring from cc shouldn't be difficult. I don't know about NJ, but in my state there are guaranteed transfer agreements in place.

Or you could just say fuck all that and do something else lol it's your life and if you can make it work another way go for it!

Who am I? Who are YOU?
04-12-2015 12:18 PM
Find all posts by this user Quote this message in a reply
 Thanks given by: xcriteria
Post Reply 

Forum Jump:

User(s) browsing this thread: 1 Guest(s)

Contact Us | School Survival | Return to Top | Return to Content | Mobile Version | RSS Syndication