Group Hugs

[Kartini]

I'm a male teacher. Pedophiles in the West have made teaching in the West less personal. Male teachers are scared to hug a child. Though young children truly desire a more emotional bond or connection with their teachers. I'm from New Zealand and I teach English in Indonesia. I was so conditioned by my NZ environment that it took me 4 years of teaching kindy kids before I dared to hug them. But I watched other Indonesian teachers and it seemed acceptable for teachers and students to hug and be close. After 4 years, I decided that it was safe to get closer to my students.

I teach kindy kids on Monday. I teach 4 classes for 1 hour each. When the lesson is over, I invite the kids for a massive group hug. The kids love it. Usually, most of the kids are hugging me or hugging their friends in a big bunch. I pat them on their backs and say goodbye. There are usually only a few students who don't feel comfortable joining the hug. And that's fine.

If the students have had group hugs for 1 or 2 years with me, then when I teach them in Grade 1, they remember the hugs and come to give me a hug quite naturally, like I'm a relative, when I enter the class. On the first few days of the new school year students who are new to our school, who don't know me because they didn't attend our kindy, watch these group hugs with fascination. After a few weeks they feel they are missing out and join the group hug when I enter the class. A Grade 1 group hug can have up to 10 students in a bunch together.

Getting more emotionally attached to my students makes teaching more worthwhile. Teaching has become a more positive and happy experience for me as a result.

[Cianna200]

Normally physical affection is discouraged sometimes even condemned buy it is really good to know that you enjoy hugs and give them to the students

[no]

Empathy is my trigger.

[SoulRiser]

It disturbs me that people can be disturbed by hugs.

[James Comey]

Welcome on board Kartini!

It's pretty true what you say about pedophiles having to ruin everything about human interaction... it's especially true in the United States. There's also some kind of aggressive seclusiveness that people seem to have developed... I wonder why.

[MurkScribe]

Quote:It disturbs me that people can be disturbed by hugs.

i was insulted one time when a girl shyed away from me.

[brainiac3397]

I once got a hug for kicking someone in the nuts. She wasn't bad looking...

[Cianna200]

Me too, it's rather unhealthy to me, that is denying people the right to hug others.

[Dikont5]

Hugging a kid in the west, if you're a tall teenager is seen as pedophilic. Pedophiles, always ruining human interaction one step at a time.

[brainiac3397]

Stranger Danger

[Kartini]

(03-18-2015 05:35 AM)no Wrote:  Empathy is my trigger.

Could you explain that more. I'm not sure what you mean. Maybe that is a saying I've never heard before.

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(03-21-2015 04:40 AM)brainiac3397 Wrote:  Stranger Danger

It seems that Western governments have labelled all teachers in the "stranger" category. How many children have I hugged today? So far.....2 class loads. 2 more to go. If I was in a Western classroom, it would be zero.

[Ky]

A trigger is something that introduces feelings of strong emotional discomfort in a person, often something that reminds them of a calamity they've experienced in the past. PTSD victims, among others, are particularly prone to experiencing said discomfort when exposed to this trigger.

Sadly, many entitled losers here in America pretend to consider anything they disagree with a "trigger".

Therefore, no's statement is a facetious/sarcastic exclamation that he finds empathy objectionable, likely as a jab against an easily-offended minority who, in their ignorance, would say the same thing earnestly.