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Socializing.

Now that I think about it, most of my life the majority of my socialization was meaningless and flat and it only made me happy for a little while only to return again. I think rarely there will be a time if I ever have a deep meaningful relationship with a person, but I don't think anyone will hardly will open up. In a sense I truly do not have friends.
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RE: Socializing.

I have some friends who are quite close, probably to the extent our bond will last for as long as we live Razz

However such bonds are difficult to really foster. Its more like kinship and camaraderie. I dont like the "modern" concept of a friend. I call that acquaintanceship because its nearly meaningless.

In fact, best relationships form under duress. Maybe we should all have an annual friendship war where we get put into a live combat situation involving melee weapons from a medievla period and blood letting!
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RE: Socializing.

In the 20 years I've been alive I've only met about a dozen people i consider(ed) to be true friends.
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RE: Socializing.

I feel the same way, the majority of my friends were all in school, and now that school is over with for me, I won't really see them. I also desire a deep personal relationship (not romantic) with someone.
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Socializing.

I guess socializing in school is quite superficial isn't it? Socializing in school is often burdened by social hierarchy, social norms, and rigid conformity. I feel worse and worse whenever I talk to people in school more. I feel that true deep meaningful socialization is hard to come by in modern life.
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I'm sorry to hear that you go through this, wish I could help Hug
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Socializing.

Personally I think socializing in school is akin to the tribal form, but without certain important aspects...like weapons and a council to judge injustice.

Duels and a council to hand out punishments for "crimes" after judging them sure helped balance things out. Duels are banned in schools, and the admins who can be perceived as the council absolutely suck at their job. It's akin to making a Buddhist monk try to lead an Islamic Friday prayer.
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Socializing.

The socialization that we receive in childhood has a lasting effect on our ability to interact with others in society.
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