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Blake Boles: To Fix School, Make it Consensual
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Blake Boles: To Fix School, Make it Consensual

Mandatory reading, everyone. Razz

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After that lesson, I thought back to my entire K-12 schooling experience. Despite the number of kind-hearted and well-intentioned people who played a part in it, how many ever asked for my consent? How many asked me (and seriously engaged me in) the questions: Did I actually want to go to school? Did I actually think this assignment was a good idea? Was this class actually worth my time? And what else might I have done with my time instead of sitting bored?

School, I realized, is a terrible place to learn consent--which is a shame, considering that consent is the cornerstone of every healthy relationship and community I've ever encountered.

To me, consent means:
understanding what you're committing to
knowing what the alternatives are
saying "yes" while retaining the power to say "no"


Read the whole article: To Fix School, Make it Consensual

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OMG We've been raped by school...

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RE: Blake Boles: To Fix School, Make it Consensual

This is certainly food-for-thought. While forcing us to go to school without our consent, the authorities above us see it as helping; we see it as a failure. School should be about picking and choosing your own path with consent than being forced to go into classes you don't care about or will find use from.

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RE: Blake Boles: To Fix School, Make it Consensual

The white man thought they did blacks a favor once upon a time...

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