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How to get rid guilt for skipping too much school?
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How to get rid guilt for skipping too much school?

Before I mention anything, I must say, I skip probably 30 % of all school days, according to my grade report, I skipped 23 days out of the 62 days of school.

Sometimes when I wake up, I know I "have" to go to school, so I get ready, pack my backpack (which has almost nothing in it), and just stand there. I feel so dreaded in the morning that sometimes I just stand there and not want to go, but then I'll just run over to the bus stop before I'm late. Even on most days that I'll actually attend school, I'm a period late. None of my teachers even mention my truancy to me personally, except my English teacher, who almost completely understands why I don't attend school for the same reasons he didn't when he was my age.

However, for some reason, there is this feeling of guilt for skipping school. Like if I am committing a crime (I think I am), and sometimes I'm scared of skipping school, because I always hear news about students getting one week of prison for skipping a day of school. Sometimes the parents have to pay the price, even if it is not their fault their child did not want to go to school. Even though me and my mother almost dislike each other, I don't want her to spend like one year of prison just because I didn't attend school. I feel like that day is getting closer. Anyways, this is my first post, so I hope you guys enjoyed it.

If anyone here is an active truant, please tell me how you cope with the guilt, that is, if you have any. Thanks.

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Maybe you're just getting bored and thinking about it too much. If it's bothering you so much just go to school. It sounds pretty lose-lose. I don't want to promise you your mom won't get in trouble but I'm pretty sure there would be quite a few warnings before that happened unless maybe she's already on paper.

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How to get rid guilt for skipping too much school?

I was a truant, but not truant enough since I took my GED instead of having to go face a judge. My truancy was never on paper as well.

I honestly had no guilt at all. Some days though I was scared of my mom because sometimes she'd throw these fits if I didn't go to school, so there would be days where I would go outside at stay in a different apartment building until the day school ended so my mom thought I went to school.

Unfortunately, by committing truancy you are also committing a crime. It sucks, but it's because compulsory "education" is a local and state law. If you don't go to school and the system finds out or your parents decide to turn against you, you could get into legal trouble if it continues and maybe even your parents could get sued and/or jail-time. It can be a combination of many forms of judicial punishments, but I've heard that some of the more severe ones like juvie are only for repeat offenders.

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How to get rid guilt for skipping too much school?

I know the feeling somewhat, from when I was in school. I didn't feel that bad, but I know the feeling.

If school isn't working for you, is it possible you could talk to your family about unschooling? Depending on your country/state, it can be pretty simply for them to notify the school district that you're homeschooling.

Depending on your age, you may also be able to drop out and take the GED or equivalent. Some people are able to do early college.

What do your parents think?

Also, do you have any ideas about your future, like what you'd like to do for work or just in general once you're on your own?

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How to get rid guilt for skipping too much school?

I know the feeling somewhat, from when I was in school. I didn't feel that bad, but I know the feeling.

If school isn't working for you, is it possible you could talk to your family about unschooling? Depending on your country/state, it can be pretty simply for them to notify the school district that you're homeschooling.

Depending on your age, you may also be able to drop out and take the GED or equivalent. Some people are able to do early college.

What do your parents think?

Also, do you have any ideas about your future, like what you'd like to do for work or just in general once you're on your own?

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RE: How to get rid guilt for skipping too much school?

Just remember that you are not doing anything wrong. Scaring people into going to school is exactly why they put innocent people into prison.
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RE: How to get rid guilt for skipping too much school?

(10-28-2014 09:19 PM)GamerGurl Wrote:  I was a truant, but not truant enough since I took my GED instead of having to go face a judge. My truancy was never on paper as well.

I honestly had no guilt at all. Some days though I was scared of my mom because sometimes she'd throw these fits if I didn't go to school, so there would be days where I would go outside at stay in a different apartment building until the day school ended so my mom thought I went to school.

Unfortunately, by committing truancy you are also committing a crime. It sucks, but it's because compulsory "education" is a crime against humanity. If you don't go to school and the system finds out or your parents decide to turn against you, you could get into legal trouble if it continues and maybe even your parents could get sued and/or jail-time. It can be a combination of many forms of judicial punishments, but I've heard that some of the more severe ones like juvie are only for repeat offenders.
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(10-29-2014 10:59 PM)Jop Wrote:  Just remember that you are not doing anything wrong. Scaring people into going to school is exactly why they put innocent people into prison.

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"CONSENSUAL incest is not wrong. (Abuse victims: being abused by a relative does not make it wrong for others to have consensual incest, any more than rape by a stranger makes all sex wrong. Sex and assault/molestation are two different things.) An aversion became common in humans that aided in population growth as one disease couldn't wipe out the human race. That's not a problem anymore.

Consensual incest is very common. You know people who have been involved, whether you know it or not.

There is no rational reason for keeping laws or taboos against consensual
incest that is consistently applied to other relationships. Personal disgust or religion is only a reason why one person would not want to personally engage in what I call consanguinamory, not why someone else shouldn't do it. An adult should be free to share love, sex, residence, and marriage with ANY consenting adults. Youthful experimentation between close relatives close in age is not uncommon, and there are more people than you'd think out there who are in lifelong healthy, happy relationships with a close relative. It isn't for everyone, but we're not all going to want to have each others' love lives, now are we? If someone thinks YOUR love life is disgusting, should you be thrown in prison?

Some people try to justify their prejudice against consanguineous sex and
marriage by being part-time eugenicists and saying that such relationships inevitably lead to “mutant” or “deformed” babies. This argument can be refuted on several fronts. 1. Some consanguineous relationships involve only people of the same gender. 2. Not all mixed-gender relationships birth biological children. 3. Most births to consanguineous parents do not produce children with significant birth defects or other genetic problems; while births to other parents do sometimes have birth defects. 4. We don’t prevent other people from marrying or deny them their reproductive rights based on increased odds of passing along a genetic problem or inherited disease. It is true that in general, children born to consanguineous parents have an increased chance of these problems than those born to nonconsanguineous parents, but the odds are still minimal. Unless someone is willing to deny reproductive rights and medical privacy to others and force everyone to take genetic tests and bar carriers and the congenitally disabled and women over 35 from having children, then equal protection principles prevent this from being a justification to bar this freedom of association and freedom to marry.

Some say "Your sibling should not be your lover." That is not a reason. It begs the question. Many people have many relationships that have more than one aspect. Some women say their sister is their best friend. Why can’t their sister be a wife, too?

Some say “There is a power differential.” This applies least of all to siblings or cousins who are close in age, but even where the power differential exists, it is not a justification for denying this freedom to sex or to marry. There is a power differential in just about any relationship, sometimes an enormous power differential. To question if consent is truly possible in these cases is insulting and demeaning.

Some say “There are so many people outside of your family." There are plenty of people within one’s own race, too, but that is no reason to ban interracial marriage. So, this isn't a good reason either. Let consenting adults love each other the way they want!"-Keith Pullman

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