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To everyone who joined these forums at some point, and got discouraged by the negativity and left after a while (or even got literally scared off): I'm sorry.

I wasn't good enough at encouraging people to be kinder, and removing people who refuse to be kind. Encouraging people is hard, and removing people creates conflict, and I hate conflict... so that's why I wasn't better at it.

I was a very, very sensitive teen. The atmosphere of this forum as it is now, if it had existed in 1996, would probably have upset me far more than it would have helped.

I can handle quite a lot of negativity and even abuse now, but that isn't the point. I want to help people. I want to help the people who need it the most, and I want to help people like the 1996 version of me.

I'm still figuring out the best way to do that, but as it is now, these forums are doing more harm than good, and I can't keep running them.

Thank you to the few people who have tried to understand my point of view so far. I really, really appreciate you guys. You are beautiful people.

Everyone else: If after everything I've said so far, you still don't understand my motivations, I think it's unlikely that you will. We're just too different. Maybe someday in the future it might make sense, but until then, there's no point in arguing about it. I don't have the time or the energy for arguing anymore. I will focus my time and energy on people who support me, and those who need help.

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RE: Friends in school

I agree. I graduated last year and only keep in touch with three people I've met through school. The rest of my school relationships either have been real shallow or didn't last. Both, mostly.
09-13-2014 06:08 AM
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Friends in school

I've had a pretty good influence on my classmates, so while not all of them are "close friends", I'm quite they they'd be of help like a friend if I ever contacted them sometime in the future. Then there are my close friends, and we were like a brotherhood, so even not being in contact that often doesn't seem to affect the deep camaraderie between us.

I think what's required is for simply 1 person in that group to really care for the other as a human being. Despite my usual general misanthropy, I find it most fascinating to really get to know a person as a human, deep in their mind beyond their age, gender, name, background, education and job. People also seem to find me trustworthy so they don't seem to mind sharing such info.

I just have a tendency to keep a distance from people till I can decide whether I'd trust them first.

Oh well. School isn't the only place for socializing. In fact, it's a pretty bad place for it. Compared to it, I think work is a far better location(not that the workplace is perfect for it).

In my opinion, socializing goes hand-in-hand with leisure/recreation.

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RE: Friends in school

(09-13-2014 07:40 AM)brainiac3397 Wrote:  I've had a pretty good influence on my classmates, so while not all of them are "close friends", I'm quite they they'd be of help like a friend if I ever contacted them sometime in the future. Then there are my close friends, and we were like a brotherhood, so even not being in contact that often doesn't seem to affect the deep camaraderie between us.

I think what's required is for simply 1 person in that group to really care for the other as a human being. Despite my usual general misanthropy, I find it most fascinating to really get to know a person as a human, deep in their mind beyond their age, gender, name, background, education and job. People also seem to find me trustworthy so they don't seem to mind sharing such info.

I just have a tendency to keep a distance from people till I can decide whether I'd trust them first.

Oh well. School isn't the only place for socializing. In fact, it's a pretty bad place for it. Compared to it, I think work is a far better location(not that the workplace is perfect for it).

In my opinion, socializing goes hand-in-hand with leisure/recreation.
Which school does VERY poorly at promoting (if it promotes it at all), thus negatively affecting the socialization aspect as well.

But I'm pretty sure we all knew this already. Razz

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RE: Friends in school

School has kids of all ages, each with a special mind of their own, each with different maturity level—between kids who hit puberty and not—and plunks them into one little bunch. With this is mind, they put these group of kids into groups of 30 into each individual classroom; they expect one teacher to fit all the needs in a one-size-fits-all education. Granted, there are some teachers who can excel in this system, but most do not and most are unmotivated.

Being a socially-awkward person can make it hard to make friends, and so can standards—when society tells you how to look, act, etc.

When school—rarely, it seems—tries to encourage making friends, it seems that most of their techniques on encouraging them are failures. Big, boring assemblies in quiet gymnasiums with walls that echo and forced seating (whether in or out of lunch) are examples of failed friend-encouragement techniques.

Personally, I think this is why making friends at school is harder to do than what is thought out to be. You mix different age groups, each with different minds, and clump them all together. Something should be done about this.

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Friends in school

If you mean by friends people i hang out with outside of school then no
If you mean people i simply like and hang out with then yes
Also i remember one time my teacher got mad at the class and said "What are you doing? Socializing!? Your not supposed to do that!

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Friends in school

Eh, school is hit and miss with friendships. I agree that a lot are pretty shallow, but you'll meet at least 1 legit person in school.

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RE: Friends in school

Yeah. I met myself. Infact Id love to perfectly clone myself at least 500 minimum copies(all somehow IDed in a way I can distinguish different clones as well as simply prove myself to be non-clone)

Just do the things ya like. Even volunteering will land you some legit folk.

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