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Rule_BreakerXVIII Offline
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I've been on a lot on online forums...and amusingly, most people there seem to think that I'm male; and not just because of my usernames. Many times, even if I have a feminine username I get comments like "I thought you were a guy" and so on.

Why, do you think, does gender make such a big difference even online, when we are mostly hidden? I had always assumed that online spaces were there so that people could move beyond the constraints of race, gender, and so on. So why is it so important?

Secondly, there are types/cliches that say stuff like "there are no women on the internet" have been proven to be false, and people still believe them. Why??

And finally, is there any difference between men and women on the internet?? (As in surfing, posting, etc.)

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(06-02-2014 05:01 PM)Rule_BreakerXVIII Wrote:  "there are no women on the internet"

I was about to say this. *sigh*
06-02-2014 05:14 PM
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RE: Mistaken for a guy

I blame the lack of gender neutral pronouns in the English language.

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Ky Offline
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The first online community I ever joined thought I was a girl until I pointed out that I wasn't.

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06-03-2014 12:24 AM
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darkmind15 Offline
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people irl mistake me for a girl sometimes T.T so damn annoying
06-03-2014 01:17 AM
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"There are no women on the internet," is a joke.

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06-03-2014 05:11 AM
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RE: Mistaken for a guy

Everyone on the internet thinks I'm a guy until I tell them I'm not. Tho some people refuse to believe me... they either assume I'm transgender or want me to show them pics... lmao

(06-02-2014 05:01 PM)Rule_BreakerXVIII Wrote:  I've been on a lot on online forums...and amusingly, most people there seem to think that I'm male;
I actually thought you were a guy... xD
06-03-2014 06:19 AM
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People always think I'm a girl tbh
They also usually think I'm 18-32 (yes, someone actually guessed that once.)

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I mistook someone on here for a girl because their name ended with an "a"... might sound sort of weird since we're not talking about actual names, but my brain is sort of wired to think that names that end with a = girl name
06-03-2014 08:27 AM
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Chanku Offline
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I've been mistaken for a female IRL before, and I do have the body to pull it off...

Pretty Much my only signature...I'm mainly a lurker....you can find me on the IRC (or on DnE and their IRC).

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Pic or GTFO.(to all the "girls")

* brainiac3397 begins to chuckle quietly and evily while rubbing his hands together like a cliche disney villain.

I've never been mistaken. I guess my testosterone just leaks through the web.

I guess it mainly lays in the username though.

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(06-14-2013 08:02 AM)Potato Wrote:  watch the fuq out, we've got an "intellectual" over here.

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RE: Mistaken for a guy

Never.
06-03-2014 12:03 PM
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I don't care about gender...

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RE: Mistaken for a guy

(06-02-2014 09:41 PM)brainiac3397 Wrote:  I blame the lack of gender neutral pronouns in the English language.

There are gender neutral pronouns. What we lack is a gender-neutral human singular pronoun.
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RE: Mistaken for a guy

(06-04-2014 07:56 AM)WalterScottDempsey Wrote:  
(06-02-2014 09:41 PM)brainiac3397 Wrote:  I blame the lack of gender neutral pronouns in the English language.

There are gender neutral pronouns. What we lack is a gender-neutral human singular pronoun.

Yeah...what I meant....Popcorn

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(06-14-2013 08:02 AM)Potato Wrote:  watch the fuq out, we've got an "intellectual" over here.

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Why don't we make one?

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Because the English language never changes. Neither does war. Maybe English is war.

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