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I don't think that even a 100 page walls of text would be enough to describe how much of a shit they are, so I'll try to summarize my best.

I'll start with the worst.

''Brother'' - Notice the '', since there is no way in hell I would ever count this piece of shit so called big brother a family. He always bullied me, always tried to bring my mood down. Always laughed at my face and tried to make me feel ugly, unwanted, stupid (which is funny because he failed 12th grade 3 fucking times). I fucking hate him, and I SHIT YOU NOT, if there was a way I could get away with murder at-least once, he would be my target. FUCK you big ''bro''.

My dad - Fuck you, you fat fucking none stop cigarette smoking fucktard. He used to hit me as a child, but now that I'm way bigger than him, he doesn't because he knows i'll fuck the shit outa him. His screams are so loud when he fights with my mom that my ears fucking explode. I can hit him, trust me, I CAN, but I won't because this came to a point where I feel pitty for him, and that he should be put out of his misery for being such a fat fucking loser.

Mother - And you, so called mom. Only cares about being accepted by everyone and making good impressions. She cares way too much about what our rich friends and relatives think about us. If I do something to embarrace her, she will scream at me and not talk to me for days. You know what else is funny? My brother did so many bad things to hurt this family and she always forgives him, ALWAYS. I wonder come he is forgiven a day later, but my actions are remembered for ever? This is bullshit. She will always choose the people who hurt her family over those who actually have a will to protect it, I swear I wanna hit her so hard. She treats my aunt's spoiled bratty grandson like a fucking king, and I always tell her why take care of a child who's parents don't give a shit about you? Why mom? Why do you side with the enemy? They did nothing but hurting us, and yet you keep giving them the love that belongs to us? FUCK YOU.

Aunt - Oh fuck...oh fuck oh fuck oh fuck don't even get me started on this bitch. She divorced her first husband many years ago because he lost his job and they weren't wealthy anymore, then she found another rich husband. SHE LITERALLY CARES ONLY ABOUT MONEY, NO HUMANS. I swear she will sell her own sister (my mother) out for money, and guess what? My mom will forgive her a day later, how fucking funny is that.

My family is poison, they really fucking are. The only person who I can connect with is my younger sister, who's one of the nicest people you'll ever meet. She even cried to me once and told me she wants to get out of here.. One day, I will come back for you little sis and take you away from this piece of shit family, I promise.

I have so much more to write, and not expecting you guys to read all of this but it felt kinda good to let it out. I'm soon moving out to college in another state, so I won't be seeing my ''family'' for 2 years, which is holy fucking shit awesome.
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Holy shit man, that sounds like a really fucking bad situation you're in, with family members being unrelatable.

It sounds like your brother is an absolute fucking sadist. He enjoys seeing people in pain, and making people feel horrible. His energy comes from it. There's a fucking problem in his head.

Your parents just sound absolutely awful as well.... especially your mom. She sounds like a total narcissist obsessed with status. Same with your Aunt, and she can be labelled a gold digger, not to mention the lack of humility.

On the bright side, it's good to see you're on the verge of getting out of this hell of a situation. I think you deserve some Balls of Steel for managing to put up with all of this shit. No fucking way I could survive that.

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That sounds absolutely horrible. :(

It's good you're leaving soon, but obviously it doesn't sound good for your sister.

What are your plans for the future? What are you planning to study in college, and your interests in general?

I know a lot of us would be happy to read more, so go ahead and write as much as you want... and thanks for sharing what you did.

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Reflect, is it possible to invite your sister on these forums? This just sounds really toxic and volatile.

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She's only 9. And I will be studying mainly 3D design and other concept designs (probably architecture too). My plans are to never see them again as soon as (I hope) manage to get a job after College, which I know would be hard but I'll try my best. I won't have to deal with this for much long for, but as xcriteria said, yes I do believe this will be hard for my sister especialy when I won't be on her side anymore. But I have no other option, and I feel like I'm sort of betraying her for leaving her alone with these rats and not taking her with me. (but like I said, this will be the first thing I do as soon as I get the chance, get her the hell out of there when I come back).
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Try to talk to your mom and dad about this (albiet in a nicer way.) Maybe they'll consider everything you said. Maybe your brother too, but to be honest, I'd just forget about your aunt.

Oh, and a word of warning: If you fat-shame, I'll get on your ass.

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(05-27-2014 12:04 AM)Reflect Wrote:  She's only 9. And I will be studying mainly 3D design and other concept designs (probably architecture too). My plans are to never see them again as soon as (I hope) manage to get a job after College, which I know would be hard but I'll try my best. I won't have to deal with this for much long for, but as xcriteria said, yes I do believe this will be hard for my sister especialy when I won't be on her side anymore. But I have no other option, and I feel like I'm sort of betraying her for leaving her alone with these rats and not taking her with me. (but like I said, this will be the first thing I do as soon as I get the chance, get her the hell out of there when I come back).

Hmm.... is it possible to keep in contact with her? Alternatively, we might just want to collaborate on an elaborate plan to get social services involved.....

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Beat your brother with a bat in front of your family(minus your sister being in the house). Then tell your parents they're next if they don't pull their shit together.

(note that I'm a raging radical red revolutionary rebel when reading my post)

Seriously though, before you leave, make sure they understand if you get one call from your crying sister about some sort of bad treatment, you will come back home and wreck the place. With a chainsaw preferably. Or even give the speech while holding a chainsaw(obviously one without gas and probably a rental cause you won't really be using it). Remember to be calm and gush fire from your eyeballs. Stare em in the eye and LET THEM FEAR THE FLAMES! Mwahaha

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@KFC Nyan Cat, I did not mean to offend fat people in general, my apoligies. And I did try to talk to them nicely at all times, they just don't want to understand because ''They are adults and always right''.

@Hansgrohe, yes I was planning on leaving her my cellphone and laptop so we can talk on skype as well. Social services are not needed, they don't hit my sister or something but boy o boy do they know how to scream.

@brainiac3397, I'll see if I can atleast give them a good message.

The only person I would seriously consider beating up to death is my brother, the rest I just feel pitty for. And I don't want to get a police record beause then I would lose my college acceptence (based on their rules) and everything will just go down to shit for me, so I might as well just hang in until I move out.
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Does your sister have anyone else who she can talk to? Even a therapist, or family of friends?

Is there any chance your family would be open to any form of therapy, or learning different ways to deal with conflict (like through books, videos, courses, etc?)

Beyond that, there's the question of school. Hopefully she has somewhat of a supportive environment there. And hopefully, there will be more options when she gets to middle school and high school (especially if she struggles in school-as-usual.)

What else do you have in mind to write? You sound interesting, even though your posts have been occasional so far. Smile

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She actually has a lot of good friends (based from what I've seen when I take her to the park). She says she loves school, and she's an A+ student so...I guess that's good, at least for now. There's really no point for therapy, nor will they bother to spend a second to talk it over, this family is a lost hope, I guarantee you.
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Reflect, I'll give you a piece of advice: when your sister enters sixth grade (which isn't too far away), her perception of school may change very much. That's middle school. To keep the story short, middle school was the darkest period in my life. I'll say that.

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(05-27-2014 12:04 AM)Reflect Wrote:  She's only 9. And I will be studying mainly 3D design and other concept designs (probably architecture too). My plans are to never see them again as soon as (I hope) manage to get a job after College, which I know would be hard but I'll try my best. I won't have to deal with this for much long for, but as xcriteria said, yes I do believe this will be hard for my sister especialy when I won't be on her side anymore. But I have no other option, and I feel like I'm sort of betraying her for leaving her alone with these rats and not taking her with me. (but like I said, this will be the first thing I do as soon as I get the chance, get her the hell out of there when I come back).


Same as mine....except for the sister part, when she betrayed me to sve her skin she left herself to the dogs.

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If she does start to dislike school at some point, you know where to send her. Smile

As for screaming, that counts as emotional abuse. There's a lot of useful info about that sort of thing over at eqi.org - and the author of that site is known as stevehein on these forums, too.

At least you can leave them soon. Smile

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i feel your fucking pain T.T
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I'm sorry I haven't replied to this discussion sooner.

I understand that you've been tempted (by other users on here) to repay the abuse with abuse. Please don't - I know you may have it in your power to ruin the reputations, livelihoods, or at least faces of your poisonous family, but you are the better man. Besides, if you have a good reputation, and can find a permanent residence during your college education, in a few short years you may even be able to report your family to social services and get custody of your sister, saving her from further abuse.

Just try to keep a thick skin; you won't have to put up with them much longer. In the meantime, make note of everything they do. And, if you can, forgive them in time, but never forget. By having higher moral character, you can be rid of their toxic influence and ensure they can't envenom anyone you care about again.

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Yea, I wasn't planning on hurting them physically, like I said before it came to a point of pitty, and that I just want to stay away from them for the rest of my life. Even if I do forgive them (which I doubt would be any time soon), it won't be enough to forget the pain. Thanks to everyone for reading and replying, I literally have no place else to talk about this.
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Hey, that's what we're here for.

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