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Enough Is Enough: Why I Withdrew My Daughter From Public School
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Quote:By the time December of this school year rolled around, my older daughter was crying before school every morning and begging me to let her stay home. Her twin brother takes the test prep and repetitive class lectures in stride telling me all is good because he has perfected the art of reading a book hidden in his desk. He is averaging one book per day. I encouraged my daughter to stick it out past winter break, participate in her school science fair, and then maybe we could look at other options. She participated in and won the science fair. I was hoping that the science fair win would provide some incentive to stick it out, toughen up, and just make it through the year. Not so much.

And so, in January, I withdrew my daughter to have her homeschooled. In North Carolina, all you need to register as a homeschool is a valid email address and proof of a high school diploma. I faxed over my teaching license in lieu of a high school diploma and I got the green light to be an official homeschool almost immediately.

As I watch my son and his third grade friends slog through this painful school year, I know that my decision to withdraw his twin was the right one. I have watched this testing mania explode this year, and we aren't even at the hot week of May when the school will become somber and tomblike and students in grades three through five will do nothing every morning but take a different end-of-grade test and then sit at their desk doing nothing while their classmates finish. I know that allowing my daughter to read and write and explore her own interests this year is a million times better than watching a child who has always loved to learn withdraw from friends and family and lose her thirst for knowledge.

If, at any point in the last decade, you had told me I would be a homeschool parent, I would have laughed incredulously. As an educator and an engaged citizen, I want our public schools to work. I want our public schools to be educating and graduating other committed, capable, and involved citizens. But as I watch the love for learning being beaten out of young, eager, students by this excessive testing situation, I know that we are heading down a path that is not only problematic in the short term but will do our state and our community a major disservice going forward.

It seems like more and more parents are realizing there's something not right about schools-as-they-are... at least for some students. This story is one example of how two siblings can have very different reactions to school.

It's also an example of a parent changing from not even considering homeschooling, to actually do it. Of course, not all families can or want to homeschool, but that's why we need to create alternatives, online and in-person.


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