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I feel I need to get away from my family
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I feel I need to get away from my family

This is going to be a post that may sound slightly bitchy and whiny, but please bear with me.

Okay, I need to say this. I need to get away from my entire family, and not just my family, but my household. I need to hang out with people that aren't them. I need to be doing things that don't involve them at all. As harsh as it sounds, that's the way I feel. I've also come to a realization that it's perfectly okay. With all my years of struggling with social anxiety, not to mention massive misunderstanding with my family at times and simply the fact that they can be quite annoying, it's perfectly rational to think this way. It's just another sign of how I'm changing.

Well, there is just so much shit in my family that I really am getting tired of. My family is a massive bunch of procrastinators. I mean, I want to get so much done in my life, but I feel their procrastination spreads to me, and brings me down. Not to mention each family member has their own set of issues.

I don't want to rant too much, but yeah. I need to get away from my family. I've been essentially locked up indoors for 6 years, spending summer after summer being inside and my only people I talk to on a daily basis would be my family. Jesus Christ, it's fucking soul crushing when I think about it that way. I mean, I'm on the verge of ending it. The only 2 missing pieces of the puzzle would be my smartphone (which my family has successfully procrastinated on buying) and summer break. I'm not sure how much patience I have left in me. It's been such a long journey, coming from pure hopelessness to having something.

TL; DR - I realized I have spent WAY too much of my life being in the household with my family members, and realize I need to be in regular contact with friends.

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I feel I need to get away from my family

My parents are sort of the opposite.

I want to remain in the household because I like to do whatever I do on my PC, and my parents are constantly angered over this, at how I don't just do things to get them over with (like homework), at how I don't usually go outside or with friends, so I often go to wherever my parents usually request for us to go to.

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RE: I feel I need to get away from my family

Yet another reason i moved. Maybe that'd be a possibility for you\something to consider? I'm happy with my decision.

Either way, i definitely know how you feel.
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Normal feelings.

Definitely spend time out of the house if you feel you are suffocating.

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I feel I need to get away from my family

Thank you for that post, Hans. I'm glad you've realized this about yourself, and I do hope you act on it. I assume you can afford to get out of the house more, and of course we know you live in a city so proximity is not a problem.

And I think I've come to some realizations of my own. I've lived a very similar situation to you, Hans, and still am:

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My social life outside of the internet after I left school in early '09 was alternatively non-existent and limited to friends of the family and people I met while trying to live (the two most prominent examples were volunteer librarians). The people I knew on the internet got me through it alive, but I never got out much and never really improved my social skills much, either. Living with my family, we simply did not have the resources, and I was still a pretty awkward kid.

Although things have improved somewhat today, I still have very limited options when it comes to leaving the house. Chalk it up to living out in the sticks with little money (again) or even a working car (which is new). If I lived in a town that had more than 3 or so corner stores, I'd probably be expanding my social circle more (which is to say I'd be doing it at all), considering I've been feeling more positive lately, have been thinking about these particular issues I face and have been trying to learn about it. But I don't. I suppose I'll have time to do so when I leave, but leaving will be a challenge in itself.

I used to be pretty introverted, but I've had more of a desire for social interaction recently, which is likely due to me realizing about two years ago that I was sick of life passing me by. I've given thought (occasional thought, but still thought) of actually returning to public school at times. It would be very much a financial, physical and intellectual stretch, but at least I would be able to meet people my own age and interact with them.

My family really do try sometimes, but they're dysfunctional assholes who usually grate on my nerves. I'm being polite when I describe them like that. And as I mentioned, I have very little respite from them for the past five years. They also procrastinate, although again that's more due to our bad financial situation.

I'll probably need to get a smartphone too at some point too, just to stay with the times. I've realized that they are a BIG thing and here to stay, and it would help my social networking quite a bit. That, and I've found some real cool apps I want, and I am pretty picky about these sorts of apps. (I also want to learn app development at some point.)

I still need to formulate how I'm going to leave home (and finance it), when and where I'm going to live, and where and when to go to college (I'm thinking of doing the former first for a bit, and I have preparing to do for higher education anyhow).
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I feel I need to get away from my family

I agree, Hans, and I, too, am in need of different company at this point. My family seldom understands me, and as a result is incapable of offering me the necessary emotional support and atmosphere I require to recover from depression and take on the world. In addition, my parents also share your family's tendency for procrastination, and have often held off getting me help of any kind.

Good luck finding a means of escaping yours. You may need it.

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Everyone who could have visibly relate with me had their potential ancestors purged in 1936 and 1939 thus never existing.

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RE: I feel I need to get away from my family

It's important to make "go getter" friends, at least to me is and from what you said it's important to you to. My parents are very apathetic or very judgmental about what I do. Could you possibly stay with other family members who you talk to? I feel it would be rude to never talk, and then be like "Oh hello there, may I live with you?"
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(05-15-2014 03:58 AM)I Must Enter a Username Wrote:  Everyone who could have visibly relate with me had their potential ancestors purged in 1936 and 1939 thus never existing.

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I feel I need to get away from my family

If I might suggest something?

Go running. Long runs. Or just walks if you want to. I don't necessarily suggest this for the athletic benefits it brings (although that is a plus). Going on runs helps you clear your mind and is definitely a productive way to spend your time. As an added bonus, your parents probably won't want to go with you if they're lazy.

And I'd second finding friends with a similar 'go-getter mentality'.
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I take walks on most days. 9 miles, usually.
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Good news, I guess.

I finally got my smartphone today. That's another step forward. But still. 4, more, bloody, weeks.

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RE: I feel I need to get away from my family

You never really get away from your family. Even if you were to make your whole being a testament to everything your family is not. Your actions would still be informed by the understanding of where it is you came from.

I guess I'm just pointing out semantics.

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RE: I feel I need to get away from my family

Oh my you have the same feeling as I! I want to be free, especially from my evil guardian.
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