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How to Handle a Confession
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How to Handle a Confession

Can someone please help me. Some guy confessed to me after school today. I pulled the I have to go excuse, but now I'm dreading approaching him again. Do I let my alter ego take over and tell him to fuck off or what?

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05-10-2014 08:08 AM
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RE: How to Handle a Confession

What do you mean by confessed to you?
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RE: How to Handle a Confession

Uh well I'd have to know what the confession was to give a more personalized suggestion.

But generally I suggest just ignoring it. Just treat him the same way you did before. if you find it impossible, allow the friendship to slowly fade away. it's ok to stop talking.

Chances are he probably regrets telling you anyways. And no matter how you reacted he's likely to feel that way. So I think the best thing to do is just pretend like it never happened.

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RE: How to Handle a Confession

(05-10-2014 08:16 AM)Sharpie Wrote:  What do you mean by confessed to you?
That means he confessed his feelings for her. Razz

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RE: How to Handle a Confession

Well, if you're not interested in him, then tell him that.. seems pretty straightforward to me
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How to Handle a Confession

Be honest. Tell him how that makes you feel.

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Alright then let the brutal honesty ensue.

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Don't be too mean about it, unless he gave you reason to be.. :/
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Be considerate of his feelings please.

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Don't make excuses.

Honest but not mean.

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How to Handle a Confession

Alright I'll try to not be too harsh.

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(05-10-2014 06:06 PM)Illuzion Wrote:  Alright I'll try to not be too harsh.
Remember Christoph he's done nothing wrong other than being a potential stalker.

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(05-10-2014 06:06 PM)Illuzion Wrote:  
(05-10-2014 06:06 PM)Illuzion Wrote:  Alright I'll try to not be too harsh.
Remember Christoph he's done nothing wrong other than being a potential stalker.
Fuck you I already know this.

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Yeah.... be honest but don't be too harsh, either.

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