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RE: Free Speech

This is perfect.

"Thou shalt not be an asshole"
-The one commandment of atheism.

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RE: Free Speech

This is basically saying "if you want to express a "wrong" opinion, you must be rich enough to have your own server/TV station/whatever."
Ergo, I must delete another site from my history so I am never reminded of it when I accidentally hit the X key.

Hello, traveler.

This is an ancient account I have not used in a long time. My views have changed much in the intervening months and years.

Nonetheless, I refuse to clean it up. Pretending that I've held my current views since the beginning of time is what we in the industry call a lie. Asking people to do so contributes to moralistic self-loathing. "See, those people have nothing damning! I do! I'm truly vile!"

Because you can never be a good person with a single blemish on the moral record, I thought that simply entertaining some thoughts made me irredeemable. Though I don't care for his writing style, William Faulkner presents a good counterexample. He went from being a typical Southern racist to supporting the civil rights movement. These days we'd yell at him for that, probably.

People are allowed to change their views.

Nevertheless, this period of my life has informed some of how I am today. In good ways and bad ways. To purge it would be to do a disservice to history. Perhaps it will not make anyone sympathetic, but it may help someone understand.

If, after reading all this, you still decide to use the post above as evidence that I am evil today, ask yourself if you have never disagreed with the moral code you now follow. In all likelihood you did, at some point. If some questions are verboten, and the answer is "how dare you ask that," don't expect your ideological opponents to ever change their minds.
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RE: Free Speech

(04-22-2014 04:41 AM)no Wrote:  This is basically saying "if you want to express a "wrong" opinion, you must be rich enough to have your own server/TV station/whatever."

You can set up a blog, G+ presence, or the like, for free...

YouTube is free...

It's also possible to find and connect with like-minded people... some of whom might have some money... at least enough to pay for hosting. After all, there are a lot of people in the world. Smile

Finding ones that are a good fit for building a community can be tough, though... I'll give you that.

In your case... what kind of community would you like to have? Lots of people are searching for new places and people to connect with.

(04-22-2014 04:41 AM)no Wrote:  Ergo, I must delete another site from my history so I am never reminded of it when I accidentally hit the X key.

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I read that comic on Friday and completely agreed.

It's interesting to note what people think of the freedom of speech. Many believe it to be, or wish it were, a freedom from consequences, but that would defy the entire point.

A government that offers the right to free speech does not prevent people from saying something. Once they do exercise their freedom to speech, however, they do not have the freedom from criticism or the fallout of their actions/words. "It's a free country" is an expression used by those who mistakenly assume that freedom means recklessness, selfishness, or ability to be an asshole, not individual security.

(04-22-2014 04:41 AM)no Wrote:  This is basically saying "if you want to express a "wrong" opinion, you must be rich enough to have your own server/TV station/whatever."

And you have the "right to express" that, but I don't believe that your interpretation is exactly what Randall Munroe meant.

(04-22-2014 04:41 AM)no Wrote:  Ergo, I must delete another site from my history so I am never reminded of it when I accidentally hit the X key.

See, that's fine too. What Munroe did here was "exercise his right" to say something about people's rights to say something. Just as he said that those who speak have no defense against being boycotted, he demonstrates this as well now that you threaten to (or actually do) boycott xkcd.

The point of free speech is that you can say anything you want, but it is absolutely no guarantee that you won't be persecuted for it. If anything, the persecution further cements this right.

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RE: Free Speech

No, it isn't a "cemented right." If someone dislikes what you have to say and "bans you from an online community" or "cancels your TV program" that's the people with the power/money dictating what you must say. Sure you can say it on youtube or tumblr or whatever but the political correctness thought police are starting to take over there as well. And besides who is going to be swayed by one random youtube video? There's enough crap already the internet anyway, people will just say 7independenthought9me and carry on. They aren't entirely censoring you but exiling you to yammer endlessly where no-one will pay attention.

Hello, traveler.

This is an ancient account I have not used in a long time. My views have changed much in the intervening months and years.

Nonetheless, I refuse to clean it up. Pretending that I've held my current views since the beginning of time is what we in the industry call a lie. Asking people to do so contributes to moralistic self-loathing. "See, those people have nothing damning! I do! I'm truly vile!"

Because you can never be a good person with a single blemish on the moral record, I thought that simply entertaining some thoughts made me irredeemable. Though I don't care for his writing style, William Faulkner presents a good counterexample. He went from being a typical Southern racist to supporting the civil rights movement. These days we'd yell at him for that, probably.

People are allowed to change their views.

Nevertheless, this period of my life has informed some of how I am today. In good ways and bad ways. To purge it would be to do a disservice to history. Perhaps it will not make anyone sympathetic, but it may help someone understand.

If, after reading all this, you still decide to use the post above as evidence that I am evil today, ask yourself if you have never disagreed with the moral code you now follow. In all likelihood you did, at some point. If some questions are verboten, and the answer is "how dare you ask that," don't expect your ideological opponents to ever change their minds.
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If someone doesn't like what you have to say, you do not possess the freedom from their reactions. That's the point of Munroe's message, and it appears you see some sort of conspiracy behind it.

If someone doesn't like what you have to say, and they can ban/cancel/remove you, chances are they will do that, and there is little to stop them from doing that. Unfair? Maybe, but that's them kicking you out of the conversation. If you insist on saying the same things, either find a different conversation or keep it to yourself; there are plenty of times that I, myself, have to do both.

If someone doesn't like what you have to say, you may immediately assume that something's wrong with them, not you. But is this always the case?

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I was expecting an asshole stick figure to get pummeled by a mob...

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