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Clothing is genderless
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Clothing is genderless

If any item of clothing can fit on both a male and female then the item of clothing is genderless, of course by virtue of being human this can be confirmed, tried and tested.

Of course, the social convention is that males wear clothing in the mens section and women wear clothing from the womens (albeit nowadays mens section as well). Completely unaware I was following convention, I had to disconnect myself to be truly free. Leggings are actually extremely comfortable, moreso than any other type of pants I've worn ever. Don't let social convention decide for you, this applies to a lot of things, there is a bigger picture here.

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Clothing is genderless

Hmm.. I kind of agree, to an extent. I wear skinny jeans a lot and they're pretty damn skinny, I get a lot of shit for wearing "girl jeans"

I don't think they look too bad though, and they're damn comfortable; no other fit of jeans is as comfortable IMO.
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RE: Clothing is genderless

(04-18-2014 06:18 AM)Sharpie Wrote:  I get a lot of shit for wearing "girl jeans"

My theory is that these kinds of people who give shit for these types of reasons are not comfortable in themselves - it's almost always the main reason for people putting others down.

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Clothing is genderless

If I wanted to defy conventions, then I wouldn't wear clothes. Needless to say, I defy conventions when it's warm out, I'm in the comfort of my own home, and nobody else is around.

Sadly, it's hard to find clothes in general for me; I'm either tall for a skinny guy or skinny for a tall guy, so shopping for pants is an errand almost as long as I am head-to-toe, semi-metaphorically speaking. Perhaps I would have better luck in the women's section, lol

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Clothing is genderless

I wear suits. Traditional style. None of that colorful hippy/hipster crap.

When did the skirt become womenly? Skirts look epic of men as long as they aren't so fruity(in color)
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That is an epic post Braniac....anywho on another topic, I kinda have a similar problem with DoA with clothing, although I would like to dress in 'female' clothes for a day and dress like one. Mainly for experimenting, that and I've always kinda wanted to :/

Anywho, I also want to wear a suit.

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Clothing is genderless

Suits are cool...and there, is, of course, a reason I prefer men's clothing. Aside from societal standards, I mean.

Still, why wear a skirt when you can wear a trenchcoat or long suitcoat? Coattails of doom are in vogue, after all.

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I also seem to just fit into a suit. Or a suit fits me.

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Clothing is genderless

it's kind of just "whatever" for me

if people tell me i shouldn't be wearing this or that i just ignore them. i'll wear a suit, i'll wear a dress. fuck gender roles and what people can and can't wear because of their gender.

it's gross.
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Clothing is genderless

In the clothes shops here, all the women's clothes are light/bright colours, while the guys get all the cool dark stuff. I like dark stuff... so you can guess a lot of my wardrobe is technically guy clothes. I don't care though. Although it is getting harder to find pants that fit me (I shrunk a lot).

I hate dresses & skirts, so on those rare occasions where I go to some formal event... idunnolol. I just kind of ignore the formality and wear something vaguely neat-ish.

I do still want a nice long leather-like trenchcoat type thing. Can't find those anywhere here. Would also theoretically work for formal stuff. Gimmeeeeeeee!

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RE: Clothing is genderless

About that, my wardrobe is hockey jerseys and sweatpants. Fuck the world.

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RE: Clothing is genderless

(04-18-2014 06:02 AM)Elfy Wrote:  If any item of clothing can fit on both a male and female then the item of clothing is genderless

Technically, this includes bras.

Other than that, though, I can see where you're coming from. I'd just hope any violations of traditional gender dress code aren't unnecessarily flamboyant.
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