Narcissistic parents

[Rusty Shackleford]

As of late, I have been frequenting the subreddit called r/raisedbynarcissists (http://www.reddit.com/r/RaisedByNarcissists).

I would like to ask School Survival if you see your parents as narcissistic, or as more empathic.

Luckily, my parents are far too empathic to qualify as narcissists. My father is one of the nicest people to grace this earth, which can be seen in his way of treating other people, which I seek to emulate (with some alterations).

However, my mother, while not utterly self-obsessed has a narcissistic streak. While she is generally nice, empathic, and caring, she is also a hypochondriac, and plays an odd guilt trip on me whenever I am sick. At first, she blames me not wearing my coat, or washing my hands, or sterilizing myself with Zyklon B as the cause of my sickness. Then, she will basically yell that she has to work, and can't take care of me, and that it's all my fault. Then, she will cool down and happily take care of me. Again, not completely narcissistic, but it's an oddity.

[Symbol]

My parents aren't particularly narcissistic, but they're pretty judgmental.

[Rusty Shackleford]

(02-10-2014 06:36 AM)Margarita Wrote:  My parents aren't particularly narcissistic, but they're pretty judgmental.

In what way? Do they criticise your habits, interests and opinions?

[brainiac3397]

My parents arent so bad. However, it seems like my mother has suffered some psychological fracture sometime in the past, and now has some obnoxious and destructive addiction wealth. Not completely but its like a bipolar thing, swaying back and forth. On one hand she wants to amass wealth and become rich(as if it'll solve all her problems) and on the other she wants to spend money as soon as we have it on hand(proportional to attained wealth. Thus more money means more spending).

The concept of saving,budget and investment dont seem to mean much, no matter how hard she tries try them.

But not narcissistic. Just a lack financial skills. Both parents in fact. At home, I was like the Swiss banker, the only one who knew how to properly handle money

[Gwedin]

My mother sees me as old enough to make my own choices, so she doesn't really care.

[James Comey]

I suppose I am somewhat of a narcissist. Not a lot, but somewhat.

I'm not sure if narcissist is the accurate term, but my brother is extremely unempathetic. So much it drives me insane. He has the "if it doesn't affect me don't give a shit" attitude strongly installed in his brain.

[Cianna200]

I know what it' like to deal with narcissistic adults.

[Trar]

My mother's bipolar. It gets on my nerves.

[James Comey]

(02-10-2014 02:08 PM)Trar Wrote:  My mother's bipolar. It gets on my nerves.

Does your mom take any kind of medication or does she have any kind of help? Has she ever been hospitalized?

[Rusty Shackleford]

(02-10-2014 02:08 PM)Trar Wrote:  My mother's bipolar. It gets on my nerves.

Are her mood swings harmful to others? Or does she wallow in self loathing one moment and become extroverted in the next?

[safa100]

Parents should need to care of their children. They also need to understand the children and guide them.

[James Comey]

Has absolutely no relevance to the topic.

[Trar]

She refuses to take medication, preferring marijuana and loud music. Her mood swings aren't too extreme, she hasn't been hospitalized for them, but it leads to her acting relatively nice one day and bitchy the next. Makes me want to do her head in sometimes.

[James Comey]

No therapy either? Doesn't sound like a good situation.

[GamerGurl]

You've all seen what my parents are like. No further comments there lol.

[James Comey]

Yep. No need.