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The Meaning of Life: How 29 Change-Makers Define a Good Life
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The Meaning of Life: How 29 Change-Makers Define a Good Life



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(These are snippets from various Good Life Project interviews Jonathan Fields did... from his question to each of them, "What makes a good life?"

Interesting variety... what do you guys think?

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I think most people do realize these things. Yet the issue is being clouded, sidetracked, or pressured. Whether its society, media, family or school, people will end up with a broken or incomplete foundation for their life. I look back at my last 18 years(well, excluding the younger years where I hadnt fully developed my consciousness and awarenees) and I see myself having worn a mask as a shield to protect my "true" self. Why? I have no clue. It was entirely a subconscious reaction. Whatever factors combined to cause it will probably never to known, but it happened. Its also why I was able to remove the mask and go ahead starting my "good life" by tearing down the fake stuff built on my foundation.

Sure, I also seem to have adopted a strange and eccentric personality that's completely oxymoronic and very fluid in nature, but rather than trying to squeeze myself into an explainable shape, I chose to remain comfortable with who I am. In my opinion, a good life is the one where every action you make, every decision you take, every thought you have, all derive from your own individual consciouss. You may be influenced by others, but you do as you think, not what others think for you. You may not be able to control the waves, but at least the surf board is under your control...not shared with someone else.

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RE: The Meaning of Life: How 29 Change-Makers Define a Good Life

Very well put. Carl Jung called that process you describe, finding one's self, shedding those layers, and developing one's mind and life, "individuation."

But, even if many people "know" some of the ingredients for a "good life," many aren't able to put them into practice. Very often, people have what you could call limiting beliefs, like believing "life just isn't like that," "everyone is miserable," and so on.

Even more so when everyone in one's universe is stuck in similar ways. That's where finding and learning about contrasting examples can help a lot.

(02-09-2014 05:22 PM)brainiac3397 Wrote:  In my opinion, a good life is the one where every action you make, every decision you take, every thought you have, all derive from your own individual consciouss. You may be influenced by others, but you do as you think, not what others think for you. You may not be able to control the waves, but at least the surf board is under your control...not shared with someone else.

That's a key ingredient in a good life, for sure. I like the surfboard metaphor. Smile

That also parallels the vision for education a number of people are talking about these days... instead of controlling students, educators focus on being learning guides and help people in various ways, but without dictating things in the way so many people become dependent on complying with.

I think that's particularly important for life in today's world, where there aren't the kind of fixed, static cultures and roles in the world that have dominated throughout so much of history.

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RE: The Meaning of Life: How 29 Change-Makers Define a Good Life

Interesting video.

I agree with brainiac. I think a lot of people are greatly aware of these things. Yet I think these days people think a good life has all these requirements. You must complete school to have a good life is an example. You must complete all these things. Unfortunately, society, to an extent, has made it this way. In a sense, obtaining a good life has been made more (and needlessly) difficult. It's all these requirements, whether real or created, that block it.

I feel to live a good life varies by one's standard of a good life and being able to realize their thoughts, personality, traits, etc. Living in someone else's body is a dire mistake. A "good life" is something that's far too vague to even be attempted to be defined, lest it be "a life in which the lifeform has felt they've fulfilled it" or something like that.

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(02-09-2014 05:22 PM)brainiac3397 Wrote:  I think most people do realize these things. Yet the issue is being clouded, sidetracked, or pressured. Whether its society, media, family or school, people will end up with a broken or incomplete foundation for their life. I look back at my last 18 years(well, excluding the younger years where I hadnt fully developed my consciousness and awarenees) and I see myself having worn a mask as a shield to protect my "true" self. Why? I have no clue. It was entirely a subconscious reaction. Whatever factors combined to cause it will probably never to known, but it happened. Its also why I was able to remove the mask and go ahead starting my "good life" by tearing down the fake stuff built on my foundation.

Huh...that's exactly what I'm doing right now-tearing down and rebuilding, as well as spring cleaning. I do know why I masked myself, though..

Quote:Sure, I also seem to have adopted a strange and eccentric personality that's completely oxymoronic and very fluid in nature, but rather than trying to squeeze myself into an explainable shape, I chose to remain comfortable with who I am. In my opinion, a good life is the one where every action you make, every decision you take, every thought you have, all derive from your own individual consciouss. You may be influenced by others, but you do as you think, not what others think for you. You may not be able to control the waves, but at least the surf board is under your control...not shared with someone else.


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