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Tiger Moms?

http://online.wsj.com/news/articles/SB10...3528698754
http://fi2w.org/2011/01/25/reflections-o...rfect-kid/

This sounds disturbingly like a militarist Nazi regime, and sad thing is that i have gone through this. I agree with the writer though- nature cannot be repressed, and that led my parents to be more abusive and virulent- calling me a bitch, implying that i would end up nowhere, etc.etc. Nevermind that i am not the "abused depressed emo". That is not the only sign that something is wrong!!

It's not just schools- parents like these are actually worse because you cannot run from them. In a world where this style of parenting is seen as "correct" and children as "worthless" unless they get good grades, you are raising more criminals than a more liberal parent. I should know- rage, depression and psychopathy weren't the only issues i dealt with. I am proud of what i am today, but that is because i realized early on that these people or my grades will be nowhere in my life in 20 years. How many more childhoods were wasted on this? It makes me more angry to think that people like these are allowed to marry when perfectly normal, loving people are not just because they are gay. In this mess what you're allowed and not allowed to say makes a difference, and they expect me to tell them the truth? How can i trust them? Just remember that your parents or your name do not define what you are; YOU DO. I really wonder how fucked up society is to think that power plays with children are normal and even laudable. I want something that has never been allowed is my parent's house-freedom to do what i want without some kind of authority hanging over my head. I think that's the only good thing that came out of knowing these assholes at all.

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Tiger moms? What ever happened to cougars? You kids and your fetishes...

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More Ageism

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They can't be that successful if they're living is shitfest New Haven.

Like damn bitch, there are wayyyyy better towns in Connecticut. Talking about success and living in New Haven, HA!! You're not your stupid little stereotypical definition of "succesful" until you have a house in Fairfield, or like.. Greenwich.

New fucking Haven -_-


edit: Ok so in looked at houses in New Haven and there are some pretty badass houses (and obvious every town has it's good sections) But it doesn't change the fact that New Haven is a fucking shit storm of ghetto.

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Extremely damaging style of parenting, but because those kids aren't being starved or raped, nobody cares. We all know that kids are stupid and need to be "disciplined" and bullied around anyway to learn some "respect", so people actually admire those parents, or, at most, just figure it's their way of doing it. I guess the parent's right to be a dick means more than the child's mental well-being, because those people act like the children don't even exist, as if they're just objects. It's always the parents' rights.

Fuck that. They're adults, they generally have access to all of their inalienable rights (as defined by the Declaration of Independence) already. Even kids with liberal parents don't have the freedom they deserve, simply because of a legal system in a county supposedly founded on it.
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My mom might be turning into that. She's gonna force my brother to play piano and me to play guitar.

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I despise "Asian parents." I know, I know, it's not all Asians, but saying this sort of BS parenting is "superior" boils my blood.

Actually, "it boils my blood" is too diplomatic. I hope they suffer agonizing pain of every imaginable kind.

I also fail to understand what is so wonderful about playing a musical instrument. Basically everyone I know seems to assume it's something inherently necessary to the human condition, and you're somehow "not complete" without knowing it. Result: I tried to learn the piano once, I quit after a month because it was just irritating and everyone was harping on me to magically get better somehow. I don't mean as in "practice more," I mean as in "next time you practice it had better be perfect." Practice! You know, that thing you do wrong so you can do it right later?

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This is an ancient account I have not used in a long time. My views have changed much in the intervening months and years.

Nonetheless, I refuse to clean it up. Pretending that I've held my current views since the beginning of time is what we in the industry call a lie. Asking people to do so contributes to moralistic self-loathing. "See, those people have nothing damning! I do! I'm truly vile!"

Because you can never be a good person with a single blemish on the moral record, I thought that simply entertaining some thoughts made me irredeemable. Though I don't care for his writing style, William Faulkner presents a good counterexample. He went from being a typical Southern racist to supporting the civil rights movement. These days we'd yell at him for that, probably.

People are allowed to change their views.

Nevertheless, this period of my life has informed some of how I am today. In good ways and bad ways. To purge it would be to do a disservice to history. Perhaps it will not make anyone sympathetic, but it may help someone understand.

If, after reading all this, you still decide to use the post above as evidence that I am evil today, ask yourself if you have never disagreed with the moral code you now follow. In all likelihood you did, at some point. If some questions are verboten, and the answer is "how dare you ask that," don't expect your ideological opponents to ever change their minds.
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My mother's was kinda a tiger mom a few years back, but after a while, she started to loosen up. Honestly, some parents you just have to give time, while others...sadly you must wait.

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I have to agree with the thread; the tiger mom thing is bullshit. A close friend of mine has a tiger mom and I'm glad he's holding up as well as he is.

http://www.slate.com/articles/double_x/d..._work.html

Here's an article about an in-depth study that shows tiger moms are, surprise surprise, harming their children! Who the fuck knew?!

http://www.bookslut.com/scarlet_woman_of...017150.php

A book review. "[Amy Chua] buys a dog and is horrified to think that it might not be the smartest breed." Yeah, that's not indicative of social-climbing vapidity at all.

http://creepywhiteguys.tumblr.com/post/7...o-amy-chua

Amy Chua herself is despicable, and this rather fascinating tumblr post has good insight as to why. Her latest book is about how certain racial and cultural groups are more successful than others due to their innate qualities. Yeah, no problem there! That, and the harm she is doing to the Chinese-American community, plus the fact that she apparently does not give a fuck about her Chinese heritage when it's not socially or financially advantageous to do so.

Yeah, it's probably a larger cultural problem, but Chua is a good example of said problem running rampant and unchecked in higher-class American society. Not even Chinese-American, just American.
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(01-21-2014 06:26 PM)Trar Wrote:  Amy Chua herself is despicable, and this rather fascinating tumblr post has good insight as to why. Her latest book is about how certain racial and cultural groups are more successful than others due to their innate qualities. Yeah, no problem there! That, and the harm she is doing to the Chinese-American community, plus the fact that she apparently does not give a fuck about her Chinese heritage when it's not socially or financially advantageous to do so.
I had not known about that. I'd like to see just how she justifies Bill Gates, Walt Disney and Michael Dell to herself..fucking hypocritical bitch.

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(01-21-2014 06:26 PM)Trar Wrote:  Amy Chua herself is despicable, and this rather fascinating tumblr post has good insight as to why. Her latest book is about how certain racial and cultural groups are more successful than others due to their innate qualities. Yeah, no problem there! That, and the harm she is doing to the Chinese-American community, plus the fact that she apparently does not give a fuck about her Chinese heritage when it's not socially or financially advantageous to do so.

Sounds like a very fascinating person.

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Where will we move the flame war to Hansgrohe?! THERE'S NO FRAG ARENA MAN.
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What about School Talk? We had an amazing conflict with stephen926.

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True. But we did end up moving one of our flame wars with him to the Frag Arena.
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A shame he never got on there.

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Lost to the sands of time...

We'll have to change the color scheme if we want Amy to browse SS for more than 5 seconds though. That is if we even propose a visit and if she doesn't snub the very idea.
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Yeah, I've always thought this kind of layout, though pretty rebellious, isn't very appealing to those that are not so rebellious.

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