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(12-13-2013 01:13 PM)Trar Wrote:  I would love to be a part of this base. You think we could create a separate website or will I have to actually start using G+?

I highly recommend using G+, both because of the people on there, and some of the things possible with it.

Hidden stuff:

For example, the ability to "plus" people into threads means that once people get to know you, they can pull you in to conversations you might find relevant... and you can do the same with others.

That'd be an awesome feature to have here on the forums, but I don't know any forum software which has that feature.

(12-13-2013 01:13 PM)Trar Wrote:  I'd probably be willing to post elsewhere if I need to. My PLN in regards to education as of right now consists of SS, a couple close friends and a couple of progressive education reform groups/people that I read about every so often.

One of the things I'm trying to figure out is how to bridge some of these siloed conversations. It's possible for people and groups to get caught up in their own familiar narratives and beliefs, and miss out on what's happening elsewhere... even things that might challenge or inspire them in important ways. This is called the echo chamber effect, wchich can exacerbate the effects of confirmation bias.

Of course, bursting people's bubbles a bit tends to induce cognitive dissonance, and if they don't find the disruption worth it, it'll be hard for effective cross-polination to occur. That's where identifying people's interests, and looking for win-win-win outcomes when possible, has value... as does simply making things entertaining, one way or another.

(12-13-2013 01:13 PM)Trar Wrote:  As for building a base? I'm not entirely sure how, but I think finding more like-minded individuals and connecting them to the various groups and websites that comprise our movement is important. So is linking the aforementioned groups and websites to each other. We'll probably have to go to them, though; I can't imagine terribly many professional types wanting to post here.

Exactly, cubed.

(12-13-2013 01:13 PM)Trar Wrote:  If I may, though, your bringing up interpersonal neurobiology and the paragraph that followed it stirred (hopefully relevant) memories for me. You can read about them in the hidden section. Be warned: it's long.

I read your story, and it's interesting. i think it'd be awesome if more people wrote up life recaps like this.

I've done this at various points. Reflecting like this tends to bring up layers of insights... and cognitively, recapping connects parts of memory together. The result is a retrieval structure for your memories. In my experience, so many people haven't done much reflection on their life... especially their experience in school and growing up in general. And, the result is a lack of insight into so many things.

Hidden stuff:

(This reminds me of a section of my response on DoA's psych shop thread, post #14 regarding psychoanalysis. Looking back on that post, I see that i failed to reference interpersonal neurobiology at the end. A big part of analytic or psychodynamic therapy is bringing up and processing memories. The basic point of this is to make sense of them, which is what Dan Siegel has in mind In this short excerpt from his book Mindsight:

...and in this short clip about the same topic:



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Anyway, I'll comment on your school experience in another reply.

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The Scholastic Swindle - Trar - 12-11-2013, 02:39 PM
The Scholastic Swindle - James Comey - 12-11-2013, 02:47 PM
The Scholastic Swindle - Gwedin - 12-11-2013, 02:48 PM
The Scholastic Swindle - brainiac3397 - 12-11-2013, 03:14 PM
The Scholastic Swindle - brainiac3397 - 12-11-2013, 03:34 PM
RE: The Scholastic Swindle - Dirtbikemike - 12-12-2013, 12:24 AM
RE: The Scholastic Swindle - (´・ω・`) - 12-12-2013, 12:28 AM
RE: The Scholastic Swindle - Dirtbikemike - 12-12-2013, 12:40 AM
RE: The Scholastic Swindle - (´・ω・`) - 12-12-2013, 12:52 AM
RE: The Scholastic Swindle - xcriteria - 12-12-2013, 01:03 AM
RE: The Scholastic Swindle - Dirtbikemike - 12-12-2013, 05:17 AM
RE: The Scholastic Swindle - xcriteria - 12-12-2013, 06:12 AM
The Scholastic Swindle - Trar - 12-12-2013, 11:06 AM
RE: The Scholastic Swindle - xcriteria - 12-12-2013, 04:06 PM
The Scholastic Swindle - Trar - 12-13-2013, 01:13 PM
RE: The Scholastic Swindle - xcriteria - 12-14-2013 12:08 AM
The Scholastic Swindle - Trar - 12-14-2013, 10:54 AM
RE: The Scholastic Swindle - xcriteria - 12-15-2013, 07:04 PM
The Scholastic Swindle - Trar - 12-17-2013, 03:38 AM
RE: The Scholastic Swindle - xcriteria - 12-17-2013, 05:01 AM
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