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I hate my parents, not school
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I hate my parents, not school

I just realized this....school is pretty easy for someone like me to get through (since i just don't give a fuck) but it's my parents who have been making things hard for me these past 10 or so years. Seriously, it's all thanks to the lack of emotional support at home that i'm who i am today- untrusting and defiant. Both of them are verbally abusive and it was clear that i couldn't trust them in anything. Noo Moreover, it was clear that they-and the rest of my relatives were trying to create problems between me and my sister by showing partiality and favoritism to her, comparing our heights, looks,etc. etc. etc. The last 17 years have been full of nothing but stupid, childish and petty insults-stuff like telling me i am nothing, worthless and stupid; it's the exact same behavior a playground bully would show. And to think i grew up with two of those- who were much more harmful since i couldn't avoid them for long.. They have been poisoning my friendships since i was a kid by manipulating my friends to spy on me for them, and i hate them both for it. i can't wait till i can legally GTFO here and start my own life.Pirate

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The parents dilemma. On one hand I like my parents as parents, albeit they had some flaws and things I disagreed with. On the other hand, I don't think I'm a fan of my parents as people.

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RE: I hate my parents, not school

One of the roles of education, broadly conceived, is to help people experience life beyond their parents.

Ideally, educators can take the form of mentors who actually can fill in various gaps in one's home life. But, how common is that?

Of course, there are various other ways to find mentors, friends, and relationships of all kinds. But it can be tough... that's why building communities of support, like this one and beyond, is key to changing things.

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What are your plans as you "start your own life?"

What's your vision for how you'd like life to be?

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(11-24-2013 01:23 AM)brainiac3397 Wrote:  The parents dilemma. On one hand I like my parents as parents, albeit they had some flaws and things I disagreed with. On the other hand, I don't think I'm a fan of my parents as people.

That's an interesting distinction, and analysis. What do you like about them as parents?

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omg dude ur life is just like me! my parents scream at me, and hate everything i do, and when i talk they say "oh jesus"

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(11-24-2013 02:19 AM)xcriteria Wrote:  What are your plans as you "start your own life?"

What's your vision for how you'd like life to be?

Same old, really- get a job, go to uni and move out. I want people who are not asshats with multiple complexes in my life, and i want to be free of the "my house, my rules" shit that my parents use to justify themselves when i try to talk to them.

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(11-24-2013 02:20 AM)xcriteria Wrote:  
(11-24-2013 01:23 AM)brainiac3397 Wrote:  The parents dilemma. On one hand I like my parents as parents, albeit they had some flaws and things I disagreed with. On the other hand, I don't think I'm a fan of my parents as people.

That's an interesting distinction, and analysis. What do you like about them as parents?

I can understand them as people, but that does not negate the hurt they routinely cause with their words and actions. Oh-and by understanding i do not mean that i agree with them. Me and my parents are fundamentally different (maybe that is one of the causes of my rift with them, but they as the adults should've understood that different isn't wrong ) and i am not a big fan of them as people either.

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