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In middle school, I used to be that lonely kid. I had almost no friends, I was depressed as hell, I was socially awkward, etc. Middle school was the absolute worst for me. However, not to say I didn't have friends. There were these 3 girls who seemingly had pity for me, and I was OK friends with them, but I've not talked to them since the 8th grade because my they were in 7th grade at the time, and my school district also has a separate freshman campus, so at that point I couldn't see them when I was a sophomore either.

Now, I'm a junior. They're pretty much in the same building as I am, but it's been a good 2 years since I've seen talked to them. However, I think I now know one of the girls for certain. I'm fairly certain I saw her in the same class I had with her, though I was not supposed to be in that class (they messed up my schedule on that first day), and she looks like one of those girls I used to hang out with in my depressing days of middle school. I've seen her around the halls, and by coincidence, I found where she hangs out during lunch.

Point is, it's quite difficult for me to make friends, and I really can't make friends with a lot of people at school. I'd rather start with someone I'm familiar with. My question: how do I approach her? I'm not looking for anything romantic (high school dating is bullshit), I just want to be friends with her. I don't want to come off as some sort of stalker or creep.

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I think a good approach would be to go up to her at lunch and ask if you can sit with her, and then if she says ok you sit there and then you just ask her how her life's been. Unless she sits with a big group of people, then going up to her in class would be better.
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Maybe go up to her, and say, "You look familiar, have I seen you before?" If she says yes, say, "Oh yeah! How have you been?" and catch up. If she says no, apologize and walk away.

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Just say "Hi". If you're this inclined to make a social interaction, then use the obvious approach.

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(11-07-2013 10:13 AM)Dead Wrote:  I think a good approach would be to go up to her at lunch and ask if you can sit with her, and then if she says ok you sit there and then you just ask her how her life's been. Unless she sits with a big group of people, then going up to her in class would be better.
Unfortunately, she does sit with a big group of people, so honestly just going up and trying to talk to her and say, "remember me" might confuse the shit out of everyone. I obviously wouldn't go up to one of her classes because that's just stalker-like. Unfortunately, I don't have a class with her.

(11-07-2013 11:03 AM)SubCulture Wrote:  Maybe go up to her, and say, "You look familiar, have I seen you before?" If she says yes, say, "Oh yeah! How have you been?" and catch up. If she says no, apologize and walk away.

(11-07-2013 11:06 AM)DoA Wrote:  Just say "Hi". If you're this inclined to make a social interaction, then use the obvious approach.

Probably the most obvious approach. I'll see that, maybe, I'll just be casually walking the hallway after the bell has rung, and then ask her, hopefully not scaring her. I'll just ask her the basic questions, and if not, I'll just say sorry and walk away.

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"Hey babe, wanna take a trip to the south pole?" then wink.

Approach and say "Hey, you're the girl in the class I was accidentally in. Do I know you from somewhere?", or some form of that.

One thing about socializing with people, in a "cold approach", is that both sides tend not to know where to start from. Somebody has to lead, which is usually the person who initiates the socializing. It's suggested you don't startle by appearing out of the blue(unless you're trying to pull off the "government agent with big glasses and balding head creepily appearing right behind you" tactic, which is unbelievably fun at the cost of scaring away people). Eye contact and body language usually signals you're intent to open communication(though sometimes you can't get eye contact, then you should approach from their field of vision, based on body position, in case they're looking down or looking to the side while their body faces forward. Wait a second then say Hi or hello or make a comment on something.)

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WHATEVER YOU DO, DO NOT START WITH ''Did you know Ted Bundy had dog called Lassie?" (Patrick Bateman quote).
Just play it cool. You'd be surprised how quick you can get a conversation going. :3 Good luck

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