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Authority Figures-The Struggle To Achieve
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Asder Miller The Second Offline
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Example: Yesterday night, i had nothing to eat, i cooked pizza roles,they were about 3months old, freezer burned, i made em, turns out there DISGUSTING, my mom made me save em, now she wont let me eat ANYTHING else till i eat those, even though they are spoiled

i said but mom there disgusting, why must i eat them, she said it dosent matter, i TOLD you to eat them, i dont want them there freezerburned and disgusting

This represents a much bigger problem, even though someone may dispise something or not like it, you must do as they say, why must we still use this rigid system, it shows we dont respect anyones way of thinking, or anything, i want this to end, its horrible

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3 months in the freezer and they've evolved.

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That sounds horrible...

(10-20-2013 08:53 AM)CyricDamascus Wrote:  This represents a much bigger problem, even though someone may dispise something or not like it, you must do as they say, why must we still use this rigid system, it shows we dont respect anyones way of thinking, or anything, i want this to end, its horrible

You're right. I wonder what might be done to change perception about things like this.

Sharing stories is one step toward doing that. Figuring out what's going on, and why, is another.

I thought about this for a bit and I thought, this sounds like bullying.

What's motivating your mom? What is she acting like that?

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I'd have tossed them in the trash. Something aren't worth discussing...like mutant pizza rolls.

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If you were feeling sadistic you could eat them and then throw up on her Razz

Hello, traveler.

This is an ancient account I have not used in a long time. My views have changed much in the intervening months and years.

Nonetheless, I refuse to clean it up. Pretending that I've held my current views since the beginning of time is what we in the industry call a lie. Asking people to do so contributes to moralistic self-loathing. "See, those people have nothing damning! I do! I'm truly vile!"

Because you can never be a good person with a single blemish on the moral record, I thought that simply entertaining some thoughts made me irredeemable. Though I don't care for his writing style, William Faulkner presents a good counterexample. He went from being a typical Southern racist to supporting the civil rights movement. These days we'd yell at him for that, probably.

People are allowed to change their views.

Nevertheless, this period of my life has informed some of how I am today. In good ways and bad ways. To purge it would be to do a disservice to history. Perhaps it will not make anyone sympathetic, but it may help someone understand.

If, after reading all this, you still decide to use the post above as evidence that I am evil today, ask yourself if you have never disagreed with the moral code you now follow. In all likelihood you did, at some point. If some questions are verboten, and the answer is "how dare you ask that," don't expect your ideological opponents to ever change their minds.
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