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Should I do homeschooling.
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Should I do homeschooling.

Hey my name is Scotty and I Love/Hate the school system. Both my parents didn't go to college. My problem with school is I always feel like im wasting time on the days where I "Skip School" I always get caught up easily.
I'm pretty socialy awkward not to the point that I don't have friends but to the point that I only have a few close friends. I just feel that the school system isn't for me. I waste time in classes such as Art,Spanish,Athletics when I could be using that time to be working on more important things.

I learn at a normal rate but I have always been against weekend homework. I have always refused to do it because its my time. I feel like its a boring everyday schedule that I Hate.

My problem is both my parents didn't go to college and don't have enough money to home school me. Do any of you have any ideas for what we could do.
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Should I do homeschooling.

Try virtual school,you get free kit to start, idk what state your in but here in florida its, FVSH, and you get a free kit, free textbooks, its ALL free

School isnt as bad as you think
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RE: Should I do homeschooling.

Quote:My problem is both my parents didn't go to college and don't have enough money to home school me. Do any of you have any ideas for what we could do.

Teaching is not some critical skill that only the most adept can master. Most homeschool parents are at first intimidated by teaching and are reluctant because they assume that teachers have been "trained" in their craft. After a few years homeschool parents usually find out what a fraud the educational system is and relax.

However, some parents become teachers at home and just do "school" in the home. If your parents are likely to follow the curriculum / schedule / testing format of public school, you may find that your relationship with your parents can be poisoned.

The fact that neither of your parents have been to college can be an advantage, as often these people can see through the BS spread so thick in college.

If you have a library card and access to a half way decent library, you don't need to purchase all the things that vendors at home school conferences want to sell.

The key to homeschool success is to keep a thirst for real learning. Parents can foster this. There are occasional areas where one has to work at something you don't like. For example math often requires a period of time set aside for practice. However, the parent often recognizes more than the school that while a child needs to have himself occasionally "pushed" to develop his own self-discipline, there are also limits and not everyone is going to do well with algebra or even need it.
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RE: Should I do homeschooling.

Both of my parents have graduate degrees, but I also felt like I was wasting my time in school, especially starting with junior high. I went to some college, and learned some things there, but I mostly felt I was wasting my time there, too.

Now, there are a lots of resources to learn online. Are you familiar with Khan Academy, Coursera, and many other MOOC providers like,,,,, and so on?

It can definitely be best to learn with other people, but there are ways to connect with people in person and online to discuss things and learn together.

So, it doesn't necessarily cost money to homeschool (or "unschool," the more free-form version of homeschooling.)

Here are some key questions:

What are your interests, so far? What do you like to do?

What do you consider more important than school?

How do you prefer to learn?

Do you have a sense of what you might like to do for work or career in the future?

One of the things I'm working to do is act as a learning coach and help people figure out ways to use all these free online resources and communities to learn, in or out of school. If you look through some of my walls of text on here, you can see some of the videos I've pulled up with people questioning school-as-usual and talking about doing learning in new ways.

But the starting point is looking at your interests and learning styles, those questions above. What do think would be a better use of your time than school?

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Should I do homeschooling.

Your parents don't have to be the ones to teach you. xcriteria knows of lots of online courses you can do (free ones). There's also the rest of the whole internet for learning stuff.

There's also 'official' online high school classes, depending on where you live. (Check the online school links in my signature)

So the question is... do your parents go to work every day, and how would they feel about you being home alone if they do?

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