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I feel really shat on now

So... I thought about all these great and useful tips that were listed in the School Survival main website, and I wanted to talk a little with my younger brother (He is 14 years old). What generally gets on my nerves is that he always rubs this "Exams" "Learning" and "Homework" shit under my nose, not directly but he is determined in doing this shit and always tells me about how important it is.
Now, he is not a bad person in general, this shit just really gets on my nerves.
I just hate being reminded of something I do not want to destroy my head with. So I had a little talk with him (About a few minutes ago Confused) and I just wanted to calm him down a little, that he should not destroy his head with that.
I used some of those tips in this website and told him that there is always an opportunity for everything and that it is the best thing when people can go their own way to their goal. In the end I even told him about those "10 Benefits of Homework". I really thought I would have convinced him atleast a little, but all of that dropped completely.
He responded with something like "But homework is important for you to learn something, life is not a paradise!"...

I fucking cringed, this is pretty much like when you want to repair your computer from a crash or something, you almost get done with it, and then all of it gets fucked up.

Ok, I do not expect people to listen to everything I say, but I atleast appreciate a little pat on the back or something like that. I felt really... how would I say... "shat on".
Almost the same thing happened when I talked to my mother about what I think of this school system, and she was really proud of how advanced I can state my opinions, and the next weeks after that are again just like... "This year will count everything for you, or you will not get a good job"

...And then they (And many, MANY people that I ALSO tried to convince a little) complain about why I do not want to talk with them Noo

I think it is the better way to just leave them doing their thing, I can not achieve anything anyway from that, but I really do not immediately want to start a rebellion, I just wanted to technically "calm them down" from this school stress. Ok real talk, what the fuck am I doing wrong?
10-10-2013 06:22 AM
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RE: I feel really shat on now

Life is a paradise. Its just that the poor obedient slaves are locked up in their caves while the actually enlightened ones are stretched out at the beach enjoying the breeze and scantly clad women and whatever theyre drinking.

My general hypothesis is that if they concentrate too much on the work without thinking about it, youll just become another employee in a sea of employees while the executives go play their golf under the guise of a business trip.

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(06-14-2013 08:02 AM)Potato Wrote:  watch the fuq out, we've got an "intellectual" over here.

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I also try to explain this kinda stuff to my family, It never works, just NEVER does, not worth it

School isnt as bad as you think
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Perhaps you just need to wait. People aren't going to change their ideas overnight. Wait a month or so, he might see the light. I know that around that age, I acted like an arrogant-as-hell snob with my grades, but after sophomore year (which sucked), I pretty much started hating school, and then I found this site, and well.... I'm an avid hater of school.

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Some people will just stress and freak out no matter what you do. I think trying to convince them of anything just makes them stress even more. I guess just try to chill yourself as much as possible, and maybe it'll rub off on them a bit.

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It took me 5 months to turn my friend into a die-hard libertarian with a powerful interest in economics and politics.

Though one can say all I did was bring out what he really wanted. It's fascinating really, how people will really not know themselves. Course using socratic questioning did help(and we all know someone here who often uses questioning...and walls of text *wink*)

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