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The change of kids
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The change of kids

I feel so freaking terrible for some kids at my school. Last year they were treated like all-stars. Now they are depressed, emotionally traumatized, and driven by fear. Yeah, I am talking about those of you who used to get good grades. In fact some of you may have gotten straight A's. Just like the ones at my middle school. This transformation from elementary has shocked everyone, including me. I thought it couldn't get worse, but it did. So today, I just want to raise awareness that many kids are in need of help. And if your parents do not care, don't give a f*** about school. Many of us have already fallen into the cage of our parents and the world's expectations, so free yourself while you still can. Don't let yourself be ruled by false administration that demands unrightful authority. Don't let yourself be ruled by lazy and unproductive sloths. Only let yourself be ruled by one thing- you.
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Amazing.

Well, as they say, people change. I think I remember seeing this girl I knew in 8th grade. She was very nice, and probably had a happy-go-lucky view on the world. I saw her on the first day of school: she did not look like the same person (I'm in 11th now). She seemed pretty depressed and also seemed insecure.

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Quote:I just want to raise awareness that many kids are in need of help.

Just think how much an encouraging word or even just showing an interest in someone who is downcast would mean like, "You look a little down. Is everything OK?"

You never know what someone is dealing with and just hearing that one other person cares could be enough to make a big difference in someone's life.
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Raising awareness and showing interest in people is a good start. Sometimes asking questions, and taking the risk of opening up some yourself can break through that insecurity.

I think the next level of helping people, and getting help, is simply learning. By this, I mean learning beyond what is usually taught in school. One of those is learning about the many ways people find to succeed in life by carving their own paths. The examples provided in school, and even on TV and so on, tend to be pretty limited.

Here's one of my favorite talks, where Dan Siegel proposes three basic skills that aren't taught in school: "reflection, relationships and resilience."



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Beyond those skills, there's the general task for each person of figuring out who you are. If you're not going to just conform to expectations... you have to develop some of your own.

Nikhil Goyal provides some inspiration on that front in his several TEDx talks. Here's one:



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Do you think those might help at all? I'm trying to figure out better ways to help than just writing walls of content. Too many people really do need help, and it's not presented in a way they can connect with.

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Yeah, during 5th grade, I became very depressed and started complaining about things I really didn't mean and were unrelated to my actual problem. Went through it again the last 3 weeks of summer, and the 1st few weeks of school. I went back to my optimistic self again.

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(09-30-2013 09:19 AM)Roboka Wrote:  Don't let yourself be ruled by false administration that demands unrightful authority. Don't let yourself be ruled by lazy and unproductive sloths. Only let yourself be ruled by one thing- you.

A little easier said than done, youth rights in America only extend to the "obvious" beyond that it's barred with ineffective laws, regulations, restrictions, etc.
(I think all of those words mean pretty much the same thing but whatever.) If we bother to rebel the law slams us back into our "place", and those that manage to leave are looked down upon as fools. With the token few as exceptions and that's only because they had the talent and luck to make it big. And those that try to change the system itself are ignored as the schools trundle along on their wagons while the rest of the world is whizzing by on flying cars and spaceships.

Wow that was depressing.
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Check out this Learning 3030 episode for a more inspiring view:
http://forums.school-survival.net/showth...?tid=29807

Nikhil was one of those panelists, and that was done live on Canadian TV. It's not America, but the videos are all on YouTube.

If more people learn about and discuss these ideas and examples, change will happen sooner in more places. Not all school is being done the same. There are so many different ways to do education and learning, throughout the lifespan.

talent and luck

Some of the people who do have talent and luck are working to spread both out... and with the right tools, mindset, and approaches, both can be increased.

How people do things can make a big difference... like how people learn to find their passions, develop their talents, and maximize serendipity (luck) by finding better strategies for navigating life. Finding a network of people who work to help each other is one start... what some call personal learning networks.

In other words, even with the glaring discrepancies in play at this point in history, there's hope. Smile

What everyone can do in the meantime is take learning into our own hands, and do what we can to apply that learning doing something worthwhile.

A desire for understanding is a good starting point. There have never been so many tools for this... let's get started!

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I mostly just thanked her because it'd be fucking funny if every member on here thanked her.
But good point as well...
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(10-05-2013 01:34 PM)Dead Wrote:  I mostly just thanked her because it'd be fucking funny if every member on here thanked her.
But good point as well...

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(10-05-2013 01:34 PM)Dead Wrote:  I mostly just thanked her because it'd be fucking funny if every member on here thanked her.
But good point as well...

I don't see my name there.

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(10-16-2013 12:39 PM)brainiac3397 Wrote:  
(10-05-2013 01:34 PM)Dead Wrote:  I mostly just thanked her because it'd be fucking funny if every member on here thanked her.
But good point as well...

I don't see my name there.

I am so confused right now...
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