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What was I supposed to do
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What was I supposed to do

I know this is my fault. No need to tell me, I already know.

We got a new bus driver and she drove past my house. Yeah, I know I should have been paying more attention. I didn't really think it was necessary, though, because she hasn't missed my stop before.

But it's what happened after. I tried to tell her she drove past my house but she just told me to shut up. Finally, we got to the next stop after a couple minutes. (There aren't a lot of stops on my bus in the afternoon because everyone is in after school stuff and the houses are far apart.)

I walked over to her and told her she missed my stop and she just bitched at me, screaming in my face. So I just decided fuck it, I'll get off here and walk home. The bus stayed still, I'm guessing she called the school and told them I went insane and ran off the bus or some shit.

Sorry I know this is whiny and stupid and everything but I want to know if there was something else I should have done instead? (other than making sure she didn't pass my house in the first place.)
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What was I supposed to do

Report her. No time to be nice. Bad workers get sacked. Keep calm.

Something was definitely wrong with her life at that point(or she's just a professional b*tch). It could be the stress of carrying around all those students or something, but no one should ever lose their cool and must retain their discipline.

Nothing you could have done really. Her reaction was totally unwarranted. She could have simply dropped you off once you told her(or at the nearest stop if she wasn't allowed). I believe this can be considered over-reacting.

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RE: What was I supposed to do

My bus drivers only ever missed my stop when I fell asleep in the seat and would sink down to the point you couldn't really see me, but I would usually wake up by the next stop (only went really far past my stop a max of 3 times) and my bus driver never got mad, he just made small jokes and we all laughed (even me since I don't deny it was 99% my fault)

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What was I supposed to do

I once boarded a bus in Turkey(Known as Dolmus, or "shared minibus" in definition) and was only supposed to get off somewhere in the local neighborhood. I fell asleep though and woke up to learn I ended up nearly 15 miles away from my destination, on the other side of the city.
But the driver was a good man, and after a short chat with one another, he got me a bus heading to where I had to go and told the driver of that bus to help me out. Good fellow. He literally dropped me off right in front of where I had to go.

Never took a school bus though.

I guess there are just some who lack any type of civility.

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Wait, how's it your fault if the bus driver misses your house? Are you supposed to run in the middle of the road jumping and waving?

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It's the bus driver's fault, not yours. He/she should have known, it's their job.

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And flipping out is not part of the job.

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RE: What was I supposed to do

(04-24-2013 08:10 AM)SoulRiser Wrote:  Wait, how's it your fault if the bus driver misses your house? Are you supposed to run in the middle of the road jumping and waving?

He was on the bus and the driver drove past his house. I don't think it was his fault though, bus drivers are supposed to know which houses to stop at and what not. And if they don't remember, they should ask. Happened to me before and the driver just finished the route and brought me back last...

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RE: What was I supposed to do

No one can keep their sanity driving a school bus.

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RE: What was I supposed to do

(04-24-2013 10:05 AM)TheCancer Wrote:  No one can keep their sanity driving a school bus.

But did the person realize their unwarranted outburst and apologize?

It's not like he was being belligerent or asking for the impossible.(Unless he was). It certainly is a hard job, grinding away at your patience every minute, but the person needs to either release their frustration and anger in another way or if they can't control it, must apologize or somesuch and admit they made a mistake.

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RE: What was I supposed to do

If you don't like riding the bus, walk.

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RE: What was I supposed to do

(04-24-2013 11:27 AM)TheCancer Wrote:  If you don't like riding the bus, walk.

I would if I lived closer.
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RE: What was I supposed to do

Yeah I know you didn't do anything wrong but being a bus driver is brutal. She was wrong but the job is so demoralizing I don't care. I support the bus drivers no matter what and if the kids make it hard to drive they should just pull over and say get the f off. I don't care how bad the neighborhood.

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^ Well if they did that they'd get fired... Obviously it's a difficult job, but that doesn't give them a right to fuck with the students. Being a prison gard is also a difficult job, but that doesn't mean the prison guards should jump the inmates. These students probably don't want to be on the bus in the first place, the bus driver applied for the job...

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RE: What was I supposed to do

That's true. I still feel sorry for bus drivers. It's hard, stressful, low pay, and demeaning.

And the bus drivers are cool people. Like that dude from the Simpsons.

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Agreed. Bus drivers are pretty cool. Can't say the same for the damn annoying students they're stuck carrying around.

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RE: What was I supposed to do

Yeah fuck some of those kids. I mean, I've heard of terrible bus drivers but mine were all pretty ok. Gave me candy and shit too lol. (Hey kid, get on my bus, I HAVE CANDY HUEHUE) jk lol.

But no really, a lot of those kids are fucking annoying. Parents go crazy over having more than 2 kids, imagine dealing with like 30 lol. Fuck that.

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