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What does it mean when someone says...
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What does it mean when someone says...

...they need their space but they're still your friend? This is an actual question I'm not just complaining. Is it like a nice way of saying go away? Yeah I know this is a dumb question but I honestly just don't know what it means when someone says this.
03-29-2013 03:17 AM
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What does it mean when someone says...

Who said it in what context?

They could just be saying they want to be alone...

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What does it mean when someone says...

Me: *walks over to where my friend is sitting*
Friend: "No I need my space."
Me: "Did something happen?"
Friend: "No I just need to be alone during lunchtime. I'm still your friend. I'm just going to have to sit by myself during lunches now. I need my space. It's complicated."
Me: "Um, ok." *starts to walk away*
Friend: "Where are you going?"
Me: "Bathroom."
Friend: "But.. uh... that's where I was going. To be alone."
Me: "Fine." *walks back into cafeteria and sits at a table*
Friend: *follows me back into cafeteria and sits at a different table*
Me: (in head) WTF
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What does it mean when someone says...

And I just realized something. My friend is a girl and I'm a guy, so we would be going to different bathrooms. Why did she say she was going to the same place as me?

Sorry I'm just so confused right now...
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(03-29-2013 05:15 AM)Dead Wrote:  Me: *walks over to where my friend is sitting*
Friend: "No I need my space."
Me: "Did something happen?"
Friend: "No I just need to be alone during lunchtime. I'm still your friend. I'm just going to have to sit by myself during lunches now. I need my space. It's complicated."
Me: "Have fun with that"" *starts to walk away*
Friend: "Where are you going?"
Me: "Bathroom."
Friend: "But.. uh... that's where I was going. To be alone."
Me: "Yeah so? Not like we're sharing a urinal or stall" *walks back into cafeteria and sits at a table*
Friend: *follows me back into cafeteria and sits at a different table*
Me: "The bathroom is that way, unless you intend to piss here"

Fixed.

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(03-29-2013 05:46 AM)Dead Wrote:  And I just realized something. My friend is a girl and I'm a guy, so we would be going to different bathrooms. Why did she say she was going to the same place as me?

Sorry I'm just so confused right now...

Maybe your friend has a problem yet wants to tell someone but then again doesn't.

It's a girl thing. They never make sense. Even I, prime example of a living contradiction, fail to understand women and their strange way of thinking.

Good luck. You should probably squeeze whatever she has on her mind out(or at least probe to see if she intends to ever say anything).

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Haha thanks.
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What does it mean when someone says...

She's not really making sense. Could you get her to elaborate? I know I do weird shit when something's bugging me, so it's entirely possible something is bugging her.

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What does it mean when someone says...

She keeps saying "I need to be alone for personal reasons. You wouldn't understand." Ouch. Yet when I ask her if I did something wrong, she says no. So I guess something happened that she's not comfortable sharing...

I just hope she doesn't go back to the times where she decided to "become a loner" and she wouldn't talk to anybody and dude it was awful... I would just sit in my room and stare at my phone all day hoping she would talk to me... and as corny as it might sound, I need her... Sad

I just hope I didn't do something to push her away. Like on Valentine's Day...

Her: Happy Valentine's Day
Me: Awwwww thanks you too Wink
Her: Lol thanks....I think? Anyway....I miss my ex boyfriend.
Me: That sucks
Her: Yeah I gtg...
Me: Bye

Me: *listens to valentine's day by linkin park for the rest of the day (despite the name it's a sad song) and sits in my house alone*

Yeah she didn't talk to me for a while after that... and I have a feeling it's not just because she was missing her ex boyfriend...

Anyway bottom line is: she won't talk to me. And it sucks. And I miss her.
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What does it mean when someone says...

maybe she like you but someting happen

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Oh and for the record I wasn't trying to flirt with her or anything I was just trying to be nice and I forgot about her ex boyfriend
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RE: What does it mean when someone says...

You're stuck in the friend zone bro. Get out now.
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What does it mean when someone says...

Write her a note and explain that you're worried about her and that you miss talking to her, hanging out, etc, whatever you guys used to do.

I'm gonna go out on a limb and guess that something relationship-related happened that she isn't handling well, and maybe she thinks that she needs to keep herself away from other people because either
1) she thinks she'll be bad company or something
2) or she needs to ponder a lot of stuff.

If it's #1, convince her she's wrong.
If #2, just give her the space she wants.

There may be other possibilities that I'm not thinking of right now.

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I think I'm going to send her a text saying "Hey, I know you said you needed your space, but I miss you, and I'm kind of worried about you. Are you busy later? Because if you're not, then maybe we could hang out or something like we used to. It's up to you though Smile"
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What does it mean when someone says...

She just texted me back and said "I really can't"
This reminds me of this scene from a video game...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X5SzQm2ELkc
I would be the blond guy
She would be the girl with the black hair
And the red haired dude is my other friend and he's starting to get really pissed at her...
Anyway. Maybe she'll come around. I don't know. I can't force her. But thanks for the suggestions.
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RE: What does it mean when someone says...

Wait until she's ovulating.
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Are you saying to wait till she's "in heat"?

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