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I have a friend, who I'm not sure is really a friend. And lately she have really been pissing me off.

First, she says inappropriate or rude things within my mom's or other adult's ear shot. Even when I tell her to quiet down, she doesn't stop.

Second, she carries out things too long. I might say or do something embarrassing, and we will both laugh, but later on she will still be laughing and bringing it up over and over again. It gets extremely annoying.

Third, she criticizes me and things I like much too often. Things like what I'm wearing (I couldn't care less), the fact that I get pimples (What else would you expect from a pre-teen?), or how I behave with my pets (extremely affectionate). What pisses me off most is how she criticizes me liking country music, when she likes shitty pop music.

Fourth, she's an extremely closed-minded, unthankful, spoiled bitch. She will talk bad about people she has never met, never try new things, and finds the bad in everything. She says shes a thankful person when really shes just spoiled. She travels all over the world, goes on $100 shopping sprees every month, has her own computer, TV, and iPod, and still considers herself "average". FUCK NO.

Fifth, she doesn't respect my property. I will have to LITERALLY DRAG her away from something to get her to stop touching it. And just today, she broke one of my necklaces.

Sixth, she never thinks of the consequences. You know that necklace she broke today? It broke from her putting around my CAT'S NECK. It was a layered necklace, meaning it was twice as likely to fucking kill my cat. I tear up just thinking about it. I mean honestly, I would give up her life for my cat's.

Seventh, she bitches way too much. About everyone and everything. God.

Eighth, she is not a dog person. I know this doesn't mean much to you, but my life almost survives off of my dog. I have already had 3 before, and I'm only a pre-teen.


Should I not hang out with her anymore completely? Or should I just not let her inside my home?

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Foe. Definitely foe, just using you for a good laugh.

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If she's always been like this, stop hanging out with her. Why would you want to?
If she's just been acting like this recently, talk to her about it first before deciding what to do. It's probably the last thing you want to do, but if you don't, she won't have any way of knowing that she's pissing you off. Besides, she might not even be seeing how much of an idiot she's acting like unless you tell her. Either she will realize she's being a moron and stop, or she will get pissed at you and stop being your friend. Either of these things happening will be better than torturing yourself by hanging out with her the way she is now, though.

(Sorry for run-on sentences. This made more sense in my head than it does now.)
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I had a friend close to that(not to that extreme though). Then one day I threatened to tear his fingers apart and shove them into his eyes. Now he keeps his words and hands to himself.

She's being dumb and your being the shy servant in her shadow. You need to equalize things and confront her because she hasn't gotten a taste of reality, being spoiled and all.

However, at such extreme, I doubt you can salvage anything from a brat like her. It would take a very powerful "stimulus" to get her fixed mentally. I'd also be suspicious of her parents, since such cases tend to rise when the parents let their children dominate them.(Hence the reason she's so spoiled, the smell of dead fish actually makes the air smell better).

Ditch her. For good. Don't even tell her your ditching her. Just ignore her and treat her as a commoner(as in someone you share no relationship with. Not a stranger but not a friend). Don't give reasons or excuses either. You want to show some power and she'll keep her distance.

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Thank you, I will try slowly breaking contact with her, until we are not talking at all anymore.

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It's possible that she does that stuff as some kind of emotional reflex, like insecurity issues or something... critiscizing people makes her feel better about herself or something. So, it's possible she doesn't realize it annoys people. So if you care enough you could try to talk to her about it...

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